(Closed) Anyone else hear a clock ticking away?

posted 7 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Hey Scottish_lassie! I’m so sorry for your situation ๐Ÿ™ but you are not alone! ๐Ÿ™‚ Under the Not Wedding Related tab is the Waiting board where lots of Bees are waiting for their SO to propose too! ๐Ÿ™‚

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Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s a tough situation when you know you’re ready, but you really have only been together two years… it’s not like he’s really dragging his feet, yet.  6 months of living together is pretty brief. 

You aren’t running out of time, but if you really feel like you are, you should try talking to your SO and try to figure out if he’s on the same page as you. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

When I turned 26, that’s the first time I started hearing ticks.  It freaked me out and depressed me for a couple weeks.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@abbie017: It’s a tough situation when you know you’re ready, but you really have only been together two years… it’s not like he’s really dragging his feet, yet.  6 months of living together is pretty brief.


THIS.  You’re really not that old yet to be worried, and honestly, two years isn’t that long.  I would focus on getting the job so that you can start saving money for the eventual wedding.  Take it from me… I got engaged just after graduation this year and am still having trouble finding a job.  It’s harder to “plan” when you don’t have the job that will pay for the wedding.  Kind of the cart before the horse analogy really.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

Hmm… the way I see it is 2 years isn’t that long but it isn’t that short either. Meaning, it’s certainly okay to not be engaged yet, but I think 2 years is enough time to get to know someone and figure out if you can see sharing your life with them. Doesn’t mean you have to get engaged ASAP, but you can have a pretty good idea of whether you see it happening or not. To the OP- if you feel a need to know where he stands, I would bring it up in a calm, non-pressuring way to see if he sees marriage in your future or not.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

@Scottish_lassie: No, I understand.  It sounds like it’s about knowing whether you want the same things and are on the same page… because if he doesn’t want to get married at all ever, or can’t see himself marrying you, what’s the point? Better to move on and try to find someone who wants the same things. I’ve been with my Boyfriend or Best Friend for less than 2 yrs but we’ve already had discussions about what we want for our future… it’ll probably be a while before we’re engaged, but it was important to me to know that we had the same goals. I think you could definitely bring it up with your guy.

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