Post # 17
Same thing – I don’t have a lot of friends, period, and I felt lame asking people I’m only kind-of friends with. My mom came to visit me and we went, and I was DETERMINED to have that mother-daughter moment where we find "the dress." I was crushed when it didn’t happen.
I ended up going alone (and super depressed and desperate, as time was running out) one day, and the woman who had helped me before picked out an amazing dress for me right away! I think it’s true what spice said, they’re more attentive and kind if you’re by yourself.
It was still sad I wasn’t with anyone I’m close to to have that moment, but I ended up taking those kind-of friends out to see it! You’d be surprised how much girls want to go look at dresses!
Post # 18
I went with my mom – and ended up in tears and with a horrible migraine. (She makes THAT FACE too.) I was adamant that I was going alone the next time, but after a long talking-to from my sister mom shaped up quite a bit – and basically sat on the couch and shut up for the next excursion. Of course, that time I had a whole flock of bridal consultants, and they seemed to feel like the main part of their job was to keep HER totally occupied. So it was basically like trying on dresses by myself.
Here’s what I think – I know what looks good on me. And I know what doesn’t. I don’t need anyone to tell me the difference. But I had never worn a wedding dress before, so I wanted to be able to try some different kinds of things – without anyone making a sour face if they just didn’t work for me.
Honestly, I met a couple of random girls at work who just love wedding stuff – never was friendly with them until I got engaged – and I would probably have rather gone with them than with my mom. You might also find someone you hardly know, just for company, and end up making a good friend. Otherwise, go alone, and try on every dress in the shop. You’ll have a ball.
Post # 19
When my cousin was dress shopping, she brought along her mother, her cousin Maid/Matron of Honor, my sister and I who were BMs, the two FGs & our aunt, the mother of one of the FGs. It was absolutely horrific. While the bride was trying on gowns, the Maid/Matron of Honor was trying to find Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and bothering her with questions and throwing temper tantrums when the bride wouldn’t pay attention. We weren’t even looking for Bridesmaid or Best Man gowns then… when we did, that was a whole different horrifying experience. In the end, the Maid/Matron of Honor ended up calling the bride a not-so-nice word and we all went home.
I only intend to bring along my sister for the initial search and then include my mother later on and keep everyone else out of the decision making process.
Post # 20
I don’t have a ton of friends either and the one weekend I can go dress shopping all my bridesmaids are busy!! I had to beg my mom to come that weekend. I bet I end up going by myself….
Post # 21
I thought I was going to be doing most of my shopping alone, but my Mother-In-Law wanted to take me out to a shop she likes. We ended up finding the dress on that trip! I took some pictures and then had some other friends come by to get a second opinion and for me to determine if it really was the one (I like to sleep on it before deciding).
There are some good bits to shopping alone, as mentioned above. if you do end up going solo, take pics and share with your BMs online. It’s a fun way to share the experience without having to coordinate an in-person entourage.