(Closed) Anyone else in Grad School?

posted 6 years ago in College
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I just graduated in May, and am finishing my thesis this summer. Is it bad if I say that I relied heavily on Pinterest/wedding blogs for my wedding plans??:)

I would suggest making a timeline of everything you need to get done by month and then carve out 20-30 minutes each night to work on the planning. Luckily, my classes were 6-week classes, one night a week, so between work + school I could fit in an evening or two of planning. I figured out the majority of my stuff right away and am now just maintaining and wrapping up smaller details. Good luck!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m in med school (that sort of counts, right? It is “graduate level”) and Fiance is in actual grad school. 2 year engagement, so we’ve spread stuff out. I just try to get as much done when we have a break, like we got our engagement pictures and had the engagement party over spring break, which we luckily had at the same time even though we go to different schools. Then I look at the bee and do all sorts of idea things when I should be studying. I mean, when I’m on study breaks. Yeah, that’s the story I’m sticking to.

ETA: about a timeline, theknot has a good one.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m also finishing up my thesis (finished coursework last month) and getting married in October. Between those obligations and buying a house and replacing a car, my plate has been obnoxiously full recently. I make goals for myself to finish on a weekly basis: finish Chapter Four rough draft by Friday, work on wedding stuff on Saturday afternoon, work on car research Sunday morning, go to the hardware store on Sunday afternoon etc. 

I like to destress by either watching TV while working out (I just bought a cheapie compact elliptical which is great!) or going out to the local bar with Fiance one or two nights per week. I rarely stay out as late or party as hard as before… there’s just no time for hangovers right now! Once I find a good groove, I can generally power through work. 

Good luck! 🙂

 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I found the free downloadable wedding templates at russellandhazel to be super helpful in planning. But basically, yes, one project at a time in order of when they need to be done. If you can nail big stuff down really early in the process, it helps. And the biggest thing is getting a budget and figuring out what is reasonable/what you can expect to pay for things. This is a great heuristic to trim down your options and therefore your time wading through your options.

And yes, I was and am a sucker for Pinterest, especially during procrastinating periods.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m in grad school (4 more classes to go!), work full-time, and am planning my wedding for March.  Oy. It’s stressful, but I manage to rotate responsibilities.  My schedule is set up for basically continuous classes from Thursday through next May, but at least it’s only one night a week until then. 

I have one free night a week, where it’s no school, no work, no planning,and Fiance and I cook dinner together and have a date night.  I just keep telling myself that it’ll all be over in 8 months (or, 10 months in the case of school)!

Post # 9
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Newbee

Oh, ladies, I feel you. I am lucky–I am down to just my dissertation, and let me tell you, I am setting LAND SPEED RECORDS on that sucker. 5,000 words in two days, including the dreaded lit review? No problem. I am motivated mostly by the fact that school projects seem comparably less stressful in the face of, say, figuring out a wedding. Or dealing with US Consular and Immigration Services, which is what I spend most of my days doing. (Tip, ladies: foreigners are great, but damned if they don’t need a lot of paperwork!)

The key for me is deciding which projects are not only most important but can also be accomplished within a relatively short period of time, and then focusing all my energy on that for a hot minute and scratching it off the to-do list permanently. It’s like I have a couple of categories: Important but Prolonged, Important and Brief, and Some Other Junk That Hopefully I Will Find a Way to Delegate to Someone Else. My policy is, if there’s any way to dispatch with something right away, DO IT.

I have moments of panic when I think of all the stuff that needs doing, especially school work because I have been significantly less motivated since I got engaged. But I keep telling myself, if I can handle crazed family members and the US government, that dissertation better RUN AND HIDE because I’m coming for it.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

Im in Grad school right now and start classes full time for the next two years starting the beginning of Sept. I have a 3 week break next August and thats when we`re getting married.. HOLY what was I thinking!!????

I have lists with goals for each month and since I have quite a few DIY projects I’ve turned an area of our apartment into a storage area. I also bought an AWESOME planner “The Wedding PLanner & Organizer” and have majorly inlisted the help of my Fiance, Mom, Aunt and friends.

I also was super super lucky and recently got a wedding planner, for free!!!, who is just starting her business and building her portfolio (I know so lucky!)

I would say break things down into small tasks and make lists. Setting aside a small block of time every few nights is a great way to knock off things and one day a month on a weekend to visit vendors and do in-person things. Don’t stress if things don’t get done in order or if you move things around.. and don’t forget to ask for HELP!

O and lastly.. .make sure you still have fun! I forgot that part for awhile and ended up getting pretty cranky!

Good Luck!!!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I just graduated in May. I was in school full-time, I taught part-time (2 courses), and worked a part-time job in a restaurant (up to 30hrs/wk), then a campus office. Trust me. I know how busy it gets. Take it one day at a time. Keep your studies #1. Wedding planning can sooooo easily take over every single part of your mind if you let it.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I started school a few weeks before our wedding while having construction done on our house. Not fun! Plus working full time.

I just delegated parts of the week for each thing I needed to do. Classes were Tuesdays, so Mondays I would finish up my school work, and the rest of the week I would do wedding stuff. I took a break on Friday evenings. Then during the weekend I would bang out any wedding crafts, etc, and start schoolwork. It was hectic, but organizational binders, spreadsheets, etc. were my best friends!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I will be done in ONE WEEK. Anyway, we got married during the break at the end of Spring semester and the beginning of Summer. It was very chaotic at the time (I was starting a new job too) so I do not recommend getting married during a break! 

Post # 15
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Newbee

best wishes for all of you .

 

leave a happy life

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am in grad school now and just starting the whole process of wedding planning.  Sometimes I wonder if I’m crazy =)  I think setting a timeline will be critical.  We are planning to get married next May or August when I have 3 weeks off between semesters.  

I did just earn a graduate assistant position that will pay my tuition and gives a stipend… so now I am able to work a part-time job instead of full-time work.  I’m hoping that will allow me to have more free time for planning!

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