(Closed) anyone else in the “waiting” stage equivalent of waiting to have a baby?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

yessss i feel like this too. we’ve talked about starting to try next summer but then i think, “why not now?” i think part of it is that dh isn’t quite ready yet–he wants some more time with less responsibility, and that’s completely fair. and then i’m also in grad school and barely have time to take care of myself, yet alone a little person. i’ll still be in school when we’re trying (i’ve got at least 4 more years to go…), but then i won’t be taking classes, so my schedule will be a bit more flexible…but then again, if i got pregnant now the baby would be born after i’m done with classes anyways…

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

That’s why I’m logging onto Weddingbee about 6 months after my wedding.  It’s like we have a ballpark date for stopping birth control (this spring – not sure what month).  I know I want natural/minimal meds birth (I had cluster headaches for about a year – which are reportedly significantly worse than natural childbirth – due to a medication side effect.  The idea of having more meds panics me, and I know I can handle the pain), I know how what crib I want, I have quilts for a girl or a boy designed, a checklist of baby crap, have names more or less chosen, even made a unisex quilt and some baby clothes…  And I still can’t make my “BABY! NOW!” hormones chill.  Driving me nuts!

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@dynamic_duo: Oh God, I so hear you on the baby fever! I have it soooo bad…. Everyone around me is having kids, have kids. I know that when we get married we will be trying right away to have one. I actually wish it was now but can’t.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yes I know exactly how you feel. We already have a 2 yr old son and want another but at first we couldn’t because of finances now its because our wedding is in 6 months! Ahh lol but will definitely try after the wedding! Can’t wait = )

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I wonder what stage TTC is. I’m waiting/more hoping to get pregnant. It’s tough when you have friends getting pregnant all around you when you want the same, but not getting the same results month after month.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think TTC is kind of like knowing he has the ring…  

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Add me to the list! i am losing my mind! it’s so funny because i thought that waiitng to get engaged or for the wedding was making me a crazy person but that was nothing compared to waiting to start trying for a baby.

i think the hardest thing about it is the fact that i am 34 and not sure how it is gonna go for me. i think at any age there can be concern but particularly for women 35 or older (i will be almost 35 in May when we start trying) you can start to feel like your days are numbered. i have maybe 5-7 years tops to try to squeeze out hopefully two kids. and with the plethora of possibilities from infertility to recurrent miscarriage to things just taking a good while i am going insane waiting 6 more months to “wait”. 

i am grateful that we have a date on the horizon at least but i keep wishing and praying for something to convince him to try even sooner. 

what gets me through is day dreaming, spending time on these boards, charting and i even am getting some fertilty tests out of the way early. but really i just wont know till i know.

sigh.

Post # 11
Bee
6473 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

Agreed – except TTC is a more rubbish wait, because you’re BOTH on the same page with this one.. just waiting around for a little luck from mother nature. 😉

Post # 14
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287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We’re not even married yet and I totally have baby fever – I want to be a Mom soooo badly!! Almost all of my friends have had babies in the past year or two and I swear my uterus contracts everytime I get near one! LOL

We’re getting married in 10 months and will start the TTC process right away (probably start the month before the wedding since I expect it won’t happen right away).

We’re both 33 (34 by the time we get married) so we’re almost beyond ready to start our family – I’m way more antsy about this than I was about the ring. The ring and wedding is just a means to the family to us (I realize that it’s possible to have a family without being married but it’s very important to us to be married before we have our first child)

Post # 15
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1493 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@jaguar: Rubbish wait. I agree. Two weeks, ugh. Not fun.

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh yeah.  I want one NOW too.  But I also want to be selffish and just give ourselves a year just relax and travel and not be tied down with a baby just yet.  The two sides are just ripping at each other… one side says forget my travel and just have the baby, the other says 3 weeks in italy is a dream trip that I want to do NOW too.  aahhh!!

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