(Closed) Anyone else just feel irritated when thinking of how their wedding went?

posted 6 years ago in Recaps
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m sorry all that stuff went wrong. I think your friends are right, though. You have great stories to laugh at in the future, and it made for a much more interesting wedding. You have every right to be upset, I’m sure you did pay a ton of money and you expected it to go as planned. But it’s done and over now. Try to remember the good parts and enjoy your pictures. You looked gorgeous, btw. I think your hair and makeup are beautiful.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Oh, and things that went wrong at mine: My left sleeve snapped off as we went for our first kiss and I had to walk back down the aisle with a sleeve hanging down my back. Made for great pictures… not. 

Nothing compared to what went wrong at my mother’s wedding. They sent all her alcohol to the dry wedding upstairs from hers! Oops. Oh, and her father walked out when he found out she converted to her husband’s religion. And she had a huge cast on her finger because it had been slammed in a door just prior to the wedding day, so she had to hide that hand in every picture. 

Really, we like telling these stories, haha.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I feel you 100%!!!!!!

My entire day was a disaster.

My photographer forgot to look at our contract and we were supposed to have 2 photographers and a videogpraher and we just showed up. So no video. And a lot of missed shots.

We were all running later for hair and makeup as well and we got to my in-laws house and my Mother-In-Law and SIl were complete bitches the enitre day. The kept talking crap about me when they thought I couldn’t hear. Mi SIl actually REFUSED to be in some pictures and tried to make MY day all about her, as usual.

My MIL’s friend was helping her out with all of the traditional Macedonian stuff (we ahd a traditional orthodox wedding) and she ended up ruining my day. She yelled at me and my mom and told my dad to shut his mouth because my in-laws paid for everything which is a lie, it was half and half.

My Mother-In-Law lied to me and told me the reception would be half Macedonian music and half Aerican. She told the band not to play ANY of my Cd’s. I fought with the band but eventually got MAYBE an hour of American music in.

My MIl’s friend started to yell at my guests because they had beer in their hands while dancing.

My Mother-In-Law was so rude, she my my mom cry so I bitched her out.

She now hates me.

Honestly, I get really upset when I think about everything like you, but I am honestly starting to think it;s funny…6 weeks later.

You’ll be fine. The most important part is that you married the love of your life. I know it sucks when ALL of your planning and hopes for the big day go to shit, but you realy will get over it and laugh!!

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think those memories will fade with time and you’ll be better able to focus on the good parts.  For what it is worth I LOVE your style,  you dress and hair piece are amazing!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Don’t be scared by what I’m about to say.

My wedding day was the worst day of my life. June 11, 2011, I spent six weeks crying about it until I finally realized I couldn’t stay in the marriage, and I finally printed out divorce papers in August of 2011.

But if I had not married the *wrong person*, I know I would’ve been able to get past it and not care that the day was terrible. 

My mother knows how to manipulate me and controlled everything about the wedding. The date, the time, the location (she wanted it at her place in a tent – which I hated), the guestlist, the caterer, the food, the music (my own mother had the DJ ignore my requests), and the timing – without informing me or anyone in the bridal party she told the caterer to wait almost two hours to serve food (I was so hungry that I was sitting down waiting for the food to be served because I had not eaten yet that day).

But as terrible as those details were – if I had been at the altar with the correct man, a man I was not having doubts about for the entire duration of our 16 month engagement, then I do not believe those details would’ve mattered as much after a few days or weeks.

Although what happened to you was hurtful and I’m very sorry about what happened – I believe that as long as you’re with the right person and you truly love them, you will be able to look back someday and laugh.

Edit: I was just going to add that I did find the right man shortly after getting out of my marriage and within weeks we knew we wanted to be together – and unlike before, I find myself not caring at all about the wedding day itself – as long as we’re together. (Perhaps also because I realize now how little that one day really matters, even if it is because of my bad experience and a bad marriage)

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m so sorry that you feel bummed about your wedding day. For what it’s worth, I think you look amazing in your pictures! Your hair looks perfect, I love your eye makeup, and the pictures look really high quality.

Maybe you and your husband could plan on doing a one-year vow renewal and doing everything YOUR way? 

I’ve seen a lot of other Bees write about the bad parts of their weddings that they’re having a hard time getting over…maybe it would help to write about all the great things that happened? My Fiance and I do this thing when one of us had a bad day – we ask the other about all the great things that happened in their day (so as to not focus on the bad), and tell stories about those things in great detail. Focusing on the good things, no matter how small or fleeting they were, usually helps!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We had a few mis-haps at our wedding and I was a little bitter about it for a month or two. I will assure you that the only thing that helps is… time. Time will pass and you’ll settle into married life enjoying your husband.

If only all weddings went prefectly life would be grand but unfortunately it doesn’t. I think as we plan our wedding we have a vision in mind, we see beautiful pictures of what we hope our wedding to be in magazines/the internet. Some of those pictures are a photo shoot and some are real weddings. While the pics of the real weddings are beautiful we don’t know what went on behind the scenes only what the camera shows.

In time you’ll be fine.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@sariahlynne:  Hi there, I’m so sorry! I’m imagining how I would feel and it’s just awful. Maybe one day you will look back and laugh, but… it’s still your WEDDING! You have a right to feel disappointed. You totally don’t have to take my advice on this if this is not your taste or sense of humor, but if this were me, you know what I would do?; If in a couple of weeks if I still didn’t feel happy, I would send an e-vite to just  my close friends inviting them to my house, or our favorite bar or restaurant, for a totally laid back, stress-free, fun “Take Two” type of get-together.  Maybe you recreate a couple of wedding moments like vows and your friends throw rice at you, or they do a couple of champagne toasts, you could cut a little cake or cupcakes, maybe a little bouquet toss or something- make it as light-hearted or as serious as you want. Just have fun and enjoy your night the way you want it, without all the pressure of the wedding day and everyone else’s expectations. By the way, you look gorgeous in your picture, your hair is fab. Best of luck πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

..and this goes without saying but i’ll say anyway; even if you don’t do any of that, the prior posters are right that the important thing is your marriage to your partner and the love that you and your family share will far outweigh any mishaps you had. πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

You look so beautiful, I love your hair and hairpeice and you both look really happy in the aisle shot. I’m sure everyone had a fabulous time, even though you were busy getting photos. Those photos will be very special to you one day! I spent 3 days being bummed about our wedding day. I seriously focussed on the negatives, my dress was uncomfortable, it was incredibly hot, my makeup artist was late, we didn’t have a ‘first look’ because we were rushed, my bouquet wasn’t what I asked for, the timing was off. I picked out EVERYTHING I could that wasn’t 100% the way I had expected it to be. It was weird because normally I’m a very positive person and there I was, feeling like a popped balloon. I hated being the negative one, focussing on the negatives. When our photos arrived, I had a cringe fest at my double chin and so many UP angles. Shudder. Then I went through the photos again, picked out all the nice ones (I managed to get about 80 out of 300) and I put them in a beautiful album, posted them on Facebook, and hid all the terrible fat ones, along with my negative thoughts in a box, never to be seen again. I just look at my nice photos now and see how handsome my husband looks, our amazing ceremony location, how beautiful my dress was, and that I am married to my favourite person in the whole world. When people ask “How was the wedding” I tell them it was perfect, and the more I say it, the more true it becomes. I can’t wait to see more of your pics πŸ™‚

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Oh and for the record, we did elope and it still went ‘wrong’ !! Even though it was what we wanted and what we’d planned all along, with no-one else influencing our decisions.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I got married yesterday πŸ™‚ we had one major snafu with the venue sound system (no music for two hours), but seeing Darling Husband wearing his wedding ring and remembering our vows…I could really give a crap less. I really hope you’re able to appreciate the best parts of your wedding πŸ™‚

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