- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
My husband and I wanted to elope. We wanted to get married in a courthouse, and just have friends and family there. But when our parent’s heard of this, they wouldn’t have it, and offered to pay for a full wedding for us. (well, sorta, they paid for most of it). So, to keep the peace, we gave in. I really wish I wouldn’t have…So, maybe I was already upset about the whole thing because of this. Or maybe I just have a bad attitude. I don’t know, but I feel like my whole wedding was a disaster…a joke…and it pisses me off.
We got married last Saturday…Let me go over how the day went, and why I am so upset.
First, my hair/make up artist was 45 minutes late. She said it would be best to do my hair last. So she did a fantastic job on all my bridesmaids hair and makeup, but then when it was time for me….everyone was freaking out about the time, so she started stressing out, and although she did an OK job on my hair (my curls were flat by the end of the wedding, so it was only OK), she did a terrible job on my makeup. She was rushed, barely covered acne marks that I had, she put fake eyelashes on that were obviously above my lash line. I had to fix it myself after she left (when I was already running late). I also asked her to cover up a tattoo that I had on my back, and previously she said she would do it, as long as I purchased the Dermablend body concelor…so I did. And it was expensive. But when it came to the time to put it on…she said there wasn’t time…so I had one of my bridesmaid trying to cover it up, and it didn’t work. So I ended up walking down the aisle with a half covered tattoo. Not what I wanted.
So that was just before the ceremony. When it came to the actual ceremony is when everything went to hell. The minister that we had planned on having had a sudden illness and was in the hospital. So, they had this old crazy man to replace him. I thought he seemed fine. My husband and I both have hard names to pronounce, so I coached him on it several times at the rehersal. HE STILL SAID BOTH OF OUR NAMES WRONG…and I don’t mean just once. He got my husband’s name right after correcting it once…but he continued to mispronounce my name throughout the entire ceremony. And you better believe I corrected him after every time, but he still said it wrong…every time. I usually don’t get upset about this, but ITS MY WEDDING! We also didn’t want our vows to be religious in any way because we both come from drastically different religious backgrounds, and both of us ourselves are not at all religous, and people were there for both sides. The alternate minister (despite knowing what we had prepared with the other minister, and knowing exactly what we wanted said, and knowing to include no religious themes or aspects in it), did whatever he wanted. He just said afterwards that he felt it was not religious because there was no prayer at the end.
Now, I am trying to get over this, because it was still a very special moment. My husband started tearing up during our vows, despite the guy messing everything up. So I of course started crying, and it was a very sweet tender moment, but I’m still very upset by the whole ordeal.
So then, after the ceremony, our photographer is then the one that started pissing me off. Granted, I did get a good deal because she is an inexperienced photographer when it comes to weddings (she usually does portraits, posed pictures, etc) but she really started ruining everything for me. She kept pulling my husband and I away from our guests, asking for us to pose, etc. And it was ridiculous. I almost wish I would’ve just spent more money for an experienced photography. The pictures did turn out lovely though (the ones I’ve seen anyways)….but she took a lot away from our wedding.
Then, everything during the reception was chaotic. We had a wedding planner that was supposed to be telling us when we were supposed to do things, etc, and she did, but it all seemed so chaotic and rushed, and it was just a mess.
Like I said, maybe I am being too critical, but does anyone else feel like their wedding was a disaster? How do you get over it? Cause I’m having a hard time dealing with it. Everyone keeps saying that it’ll be funny to me in a few years, and one person even told me that bad weddings make for good marriages. And I know that in retrospect how our wedding went shows nothing about our marriage…but it still irritates me when I hear of someone else’s wedding being nicer, going smoothly, etc. I just feel our parents and us paid too much money for our wedding being a disaster like it was…
Btw, I thought I’d include a few of the sample pictures I’ve gotten so far…