Post # 1
I love reading posts on WB about people finding dressing and venues and decor but when I think about all of that stuff for myself, I feel like I could care less.
The important thing for me was the ring, and my wonderful SO let me design it myself so it’s perfect.
After that, I don’t want to think about dresses (which I don’t wear…) food, venue, cost, none of it.
It just seems like too much stress and money over one day in the lives of two people. I think of it as basically throwing a party for everyone else.
I dunno, maybe I’m alone in this.
All I truly care about is marrying that man. 🙂
Post # 2
I feel this way. All I care about is the dress and my man. I don’t even care that much about the ring. The thought behind anything lab created makes me excited since I’m a science nerd, but my boyfriend hates the thought of anything that wasn’t mined. I probably wouldn’t care about the dress but I rarely dress up, and I never wear dresses, so I feel like that is my day to get dolled up and feel pretty. I fully intend to do some form of a cruise wedding or a destination wedding where pretty much everything is already put together into one big package. My boyfriend and I both have TINY families, and our families live in different states, so we won’t be able to get both families together unless we foot the bill. It seems like our best option is to just do something very intimate and pay to have our parents come along.
Post # 3
Me to a T, I just want to be married and have it done with. My FIs family really wants a wedding, so does mine.. So we are trying to compromise and have an outdoor get together to celebrate our marriage. Even that is starting to cost way more than I’d like it to. <br /><br />We want to buy a home early next year, and are planning to get married in June, it’s just seeming like a lot of money for one year.. then to start TTC later in the year. 2015, is going to end up wiping me out.
Post # 4
Oooh_snap: We’re in the same family situation. He has practially none, no parents, or brothers or sisters, and I have my mom and brother. Maybe my grandmother may come from Jamaica…
We’ve discussed a backyard bbq style wedding as it’s totally us and would save a BIT of money, but even when discussing that, when a question is asked, the answer is usually, “I don’t really care…”
Post # 5
I was really not into a lot of details either. Some people were shocked by it.
I gave my florist some general guidelines on flowers and overall look/feel and let her have at it. I didn’t care about every minute detail in the bouquets! She did a great job.
Same with my centerpieces (done by my SIL). She was so unconvinced when I told her I really just wanted her to take care of it and do something that would fit the venue. Eventually she moved along and got a vision and did WONDERFUL work. But honestly, I didn’t care about the centerpieces as long as they were visually attractive and fit the venue and feel of the wedding.
And there are so many other little things that I just gave really vague guidelines on and let the professional do their thing. I cared deeply about certain aspects – the ceremony wording especially – but the rest just fell into place. Why stress?
Post # 6
There are some details I care a lot about- dress, ring, food. I honestly don’t care about save the dates or centerpieces or any of that other stuff… I barely even care about photograph except that I know I want one lol.
Post # 7
iiiEllie: Same here, thinking of buying a home and wanting to get married seem impossible to do at the same time without incurring much more debt.
I recently just became completely debt free, and it scares me to go and borrow that much money!
Post # 8
I “don’t care” in that I have never thought/cared much about my future wedding before, and I wish my FI was like every other guy in the universe and was similarly uncaring so we could just elope in Hawaii and have a great time.
But my FI wanted a wedding, and a lot of the planning falls to me since he works way longer hours. And once you start planning a party, you HAVE to care, to a certain extent, if you want your guests to have a good time and if you don’t want to get ripped off!
I originally came up with the idea of finding an all-inclusive venue so we didn’t have to expend a lot of effort figuring out all the details – let the venue take care of it, was my motto. But I still had to take care of invitations (I decided to design them myself to save money – naturally ended up caring a LOT once they became an art project!), and then my mom was feeling left out so I decided to ask her to make some decorations or something. I just spent over an hour on the phone with her discussing the details of those decorations… I’ve gone from being the person who laughs at the idea of wedding colors to asking my mom where we can buy 2 yards of pistachio and buttermilk felt -_-
I feel like my wedding has become a hydra, every time I chop off a head thinking I am striking something off the To-Do List, three more things that need doing pop up in its place!
In short – I DON’T care about weddings and never wanted one, but now that I’m planning one, I’m all in. That said, I have really enjoyed browsing Wedding Bee and reading all the problems and drama – nowadays sooo many conversations with my fiance over dinner begin with “You’ll never believe what I read on Wedding Bee today…”
Post # 9
Right there with ya, sister! I have the dress, the groom, and the exotic locale nailed down. Pretty much everything else is just little details from here which I’m not super stressed about or pulling my hair out about now or over the next several months. I want the day to be all about *us* and not putting on a big party for everyone else.