Post # 1
I think I’ve decided to take a break in wedding planning. I’ve been engaged since February of this year and the wedding isn’t until June 2014.
I have my dress, hall, church, caterer, religious classes, transportation, cake, centerpiece outlined, flowers outlined, dj, hotel, all done. So everything “big” is done.
We have our engagement pictures booked and the last of our religious classes.
I have a few things left, like the guy’s tuxes, bridesmaids dresses and actually picking our menu and aseembling centerpieces (which mine are super easy and i could finish them in a day with one of my girls and a bottle of wine ) That’s it.
I think I got overwhelmed and just want to go on wedding planning vacation for a while…..FI is so busy at work, he doesn’t even know if he is coming or going at this point so he’s been kind of out of the picture. I’m just not feeling like planning right now…….Anyone else get that way when you have a long engagement??
I mean, I still want to get married, still love FI and I’m still excited but I don’t feel the stress of hurry up and do things anymore.
I didn’t want this in etq. ….not sure what happened there!
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
Heck you are a lot more prepared then I was at this far out. I think you are definitely ok to take a break. I had a big lull in planning in the middle, and heck, didn’t order flowers til about the month before!
Post # 4
@whoa_its_ash lol, glad to know I’m not the only one!
Post # 5
I had a 2+ yr engagement, and I definitely took breaks from wedding planning! In fact, that is why I would encourage everyone to have a longer, rather than shorter, engagement!
Keep in mind a wedding is not a marriage. There were times both DH and I would get so frustrated with wedding planning BS, and then we would take a step back and realize that we loved each other and we were committed to be together for a lifetime – that is the marriage. The wedding involved dealing with our families, vendors, money, etc. etc. While our wedding was very fun, it does not represent the life we share together.
OP – enjoy your break and take some time to love and just “be with” your FI!!!
Post # 6
I got engaged February 2012 and married this past August. I did lots of stuff early (I had the dress, reception venue/catering/DJ/etc., and photographer done in April) so that I’d have plenty of time to get things done and not stress. I did lots of DIY and spent most of last summer just relaxing. It was great.
Post # 7
Bees, I think you guys all have the right idea.
@ Rock Hugger I totally agree with your statement, the wedding is just a day, a marriage is the rest of your life and that is really what the wedding is all about.
I feel better knowing I’m not the only one who is not obsessing over every little detail everyday of my wedding.
I feel like others (family members) are pushy with the details……let me enjoy my engagement, we’ve got time for planning.
Sometimes I think there is nothing worse than a stressed out bride!
Post # 8
@MrsFarm0619: yeah you’re great!! you are so prepared! just FYI don’t wait too long on the bridesmaids’ dresses. in my experience, it can take a long time to pick them out– it took me almost a month to select (maybe longer?) and then the delivery time was 2-3 months. since june is such a popular month for weddings i’d guess you would want to start looking in january and make you decision by february. the rest of the stuff can simmer for a WHILE.
Post # 9
ooo @fingerscrossed I didn’t think about that! Good call! They are going to love me when i tell them lets start trying on dresses right after the holidays
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I wish I’d been able to take a “break,” as we had a six-month engagement (my longest “break” was a weekend.) You’re in good shape… I would just relax, and enjoy this time. It’s a neat transition in your relationship, and a really special time- just enjoy it! 🙂
Post # 11
I got engaged last November, did all the big stuff, photographer, venue, dj, then sat around for months. Now I’m just over 6 months out and hitting it hard again but it’s more exciting because the date doesn’t seem so far away!
Post # 12
@MrsFarm0619: I took breaks for weeks at a time through the whole process! Definitely kept me sane.
Post # 13
@MrsFarm0619: Good thinking! We have a long engagement too, 20 months, getting married in June as well.
I noticed that I’ve been doing my planning in small spurts, not on purpose though, just get tired of it. The most stresssed out I’ve been yet was when I made a list in August of everything I had to do before December… WORST. IDEA. EVER!
I’ve decided to write out everything that still needs to be done (including when and what questions I wanted to ask certain vendors), but with one sheet per month, and I only look at the current and next month. It made me feel so much better!
Post # 14
I wish weddingbee had a like button for comments! You guys are great!