Post # 31
Surprised at how many people are saying yes. No, I never felt that way after moving in with my Fiance and our place together immediately felt like “home”. My parents house are that, their house. I still feel comfortable and loved when there but I miss my space w/ my Fiance if I stay too long.
But our situations are a bit different, I started living away from my parents when I was 17, when I went off to uni and never moved back home. I got used to moving often (every year or every two years) and making every new place home. I do remember that first month away from home was rough. I cried several times.
What I did was I tried to bring the comfort of home to school as much as possible- a blanket from home, some decor, etc. And I would sometimes cook meals for myself that my dad would have cooked at home. And work on cleaning and organizing so the state of the house doesn’t stress you out more.
And when Fiance and I moved in together, we decorated and put stuff away together how we both enjoyed it. Customize your home to feel like yours!
Sorry you’re going through this, Bee. But it will pass!! I didn’t have homesickness pass the first year of living away from my parents. Does your dog bring you any comfort?
Post # 32
- Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY
I understand. I’m used to living in a multigenerational household and loved that I had such a close relationship with my grandmother and mom because of that. I’ve been living with my husband for a few years now and I still miss having my family around from time to time. I pray to continue the tradition and have our next house be big enough for my mom to live with us. Her plan is to rotate around and stay with all 3 of us girls lol
Just try to keep in touch. I talk to my mom on the phone almost every day and used to speak to my grandmother every day up until she passed. My mom is constantly sending me memes and videos on Facebook mesenger so even though we don’t get to sit down over tea and pound cake and watch tv as much now, we’re still pretty connected. I want to start having mother-daughter dates too. I’m going to ask her to go to dinner and shopping with me soon 🙂
Post # 33
Wow I’ve not been on these pages in years.. I miss it! I got the alert of responses to my post so hopped right on! I lived at home until I moved into my husband’s house where he’d been living 10 years about? It was a bachelor pad. I’ve been here 6+ years now and we have a 5 year old son together and it feels like home now! So those struggling, it does get better. I still don’t like living almost an hour from all I love and it’s been hard making new friends around here… and since my husband lived here so long before there are still things that feel like “his” and it’s not as easy to redo things etc as it would be had we gotten a place TOGETHER… but he is very resistant to move. We house hunted literally for years but we are stuck here. . for the market and because I work from home now and our house is close to his work.. it’s caused tension however… now when I visit family etc there somes a point I can’t wait to come here…to my home… and if/when we do move I’ll miss it. More and more I”m making it “ours”… it gets better, Bees!!!
Post # 34
I didn’t realise this was a friggin 6 year old thread….
WHY do people re-open old threads that aren’t theirs???? So annoying! lol There are plenty of current threads that need our attention and advice.
Post # 35
- Wedding: September 2018 - City, State
I’m glad 6 years made such a difference. Best of luck!
Post # 36
Sometimes old topics still apply ….