(Closed) Anyone else keep changing their mind on rings just to hurry up the process?

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Have your Ring Preferences changed as time goes on?
    Yes! I've changed my mind to something less expensive! I just want that ring on my finger-- ASAP! : (14 votes)
    58 %
    No way, I've known what I wanted for years now- I don't care how long it takes to get it. : (10 votes)
    42 %
  • Post # 3
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    1246 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think that if there is only so much he can afford, it is OK. A ring should be just a symbol and then one day, if ur more financially stable, get the ring of your dreams.

    Post # 4
    Bee
    1048 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

    Like alishadhs4 said, why not get something less expensive now, and upgrade later? Maybe for your 5th anniversary present or something. Or how about a combination: buy the setting you want, but (for now) have a cubic zirconia set in in. Then when you can afford it, get the real thing.

    Post # 6
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    4480 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    Haha, I did that so many times! I knew exactly what I wanted, but I was ready to downgrade *quite* a bit to get the ring sooner.. but then it turned out I didn’t have to. If I could do it again, I think the ring would have been less important and I would have suggested something less expensive in the first place.

    Post # 7
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    559 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Ahhaahha, this question is perfect because it describes my situation perfectly. I had been getting the “engagement itch” for about 6 months when we discussed possible rings. I have always wanted a larger sized stone (hopefully at least 1 carat+) and had spent years drooling over the Tiffany halo design.

    We started ring browsing and it finally hit me just how pricey rings like that are (and it hit Fiance too!) He had a budget that we had both agreed on, with the understanding that it would take about 6 more months to save up to meet the budget. He had about half already. (I even offered to pay for some of the ring to heft up the budget but he refused that!) Then the bottom fell out and he was laid off from his job. Our dream of getting engaged was put on the back burner. Three long months later he landed another job.

    Although he still had half of the budgted ring amount saved, I just knew I couldn’t wait any longer! I knew in my heart that it just really didn’t matter the size of the stone anymore, I wanted to make that commitment of engagement to him, even if it meant cutting our budget in half. Which we did (at much to his relief I think. Although he understands the importance of the engagement ring…he was really struggling with putting so much $ into something I would wear rather than putting it into a down payment for a house, or a new car etc.)

    We also discussed cubic zirconia and thought about it for a few days but neither of us were 100% comfortable going that route. I ended up finding the perfect set of rings for us with the perfect price. Maybe we’ll upgrade when we can afford it, maybe not. But I’ll never regret it!

    Post # 8
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    10218 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    we are so here we have just both started businesses and all of our money is going towards that and our kids right now. i think this is the ring i’ll end up with because it’s his fave, but my fave has more bling as is about 50% more expensive (GO OVERSTOCK)!!

    Is it strange that I wouldn’t want to upgrade? I absolutely love this ring!!

    @texaslawgirl: have you thought of a halo guard to surround your solitaire?

    there wasn’t an option to vote that i fell in love with something that cost WAY less than what I expected.

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    Post # 9
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    674 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Yes yes yes. My fiance wanted to get me this ring…

    And I of course loved it. But the $800 price tag was not going to happen in the near future. So I searched and searched for something reasonable that I still liked and we settled on this one that was around $70…

    He’s self conscious about the ring and thinks it’s small and all that but I just want a nice wedding.

    Post # 10
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    4385 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i absolutely came down in my expectations to make it happen quicker! and it did!! as soon as i came down from my $10,000 ledge i had a beautiful ring on my finger and a Fiance i adore 🙂

    Post # 11
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    815 posts
    Busy bee

    I made it clear right from the get-go that I didn’t want him spending too much money on my ring.  I found beautiful and different rings that were affordable, but it didn’t change his mind.  He wants to save and spend on this ring–it means a lot to him.  So I’ve stopped, and finally settled on a ring I would like.  The diamond is small, but that’s my style.  I still hope he doesn’t go too crazy.  Can’t wait to see what he comes up with.

    Post # 12
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    10218 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    @thecolorteale: they look nearly identical to me!!

    Post # 13
    Member
    674 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    yeah the differences are, no diamonds, and instead of white gold, the affordable ring is silver. And I don’t mind that. Less stress on me to carry around a less expensive ring.

    Post # 14
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    10218 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    could you perhaps get diamonds added later though if you chose? i really think that the difference is so minimal! it’s like watching splurge versus steal!

    Post # 16
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    10218 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    beautiful band!! you could definitely get one on either side!

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