(Closed) anyone else keeping (or kept) their maide name?

posted 5 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’ll be keeping mine as well (at least for right now). Darling Husband has asked me to consider changing but I’m not currently ready for that. I might revisit (or not) if we have kids only because it would make traveling easier.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I kept mine. No regrest thus far. But I do reserve the right to change my mind later on. ya never know. πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m not but if I knew how much of a pain changing it would be, I may have reconsidered! πŸ˜‰ Darling Husband said he’d be “a little upset/offended” if I hadn’t, but ultimately I think he would have been okay with it.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m not changing my name. Fiance is not happy about it, but he is coming to terms.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

@brendaparisbride:  I can’t answer for other PPs, but I want to keep my name because (in order from most, to least, important):

– It’s a perfectly good name. If I was called “Crumplebottom” or “Enourmousarse”, I would be happy to change it. But I like my name.

– I have had the same name for the best part of three decades, and it has served me perfectly well.

– I am published under my current name.

– If I am refused entry (for political reasons) to the countries I work in at some stage in the future, I can simply change my name then and have another bite of the immigration cherry.

– It’s a huge pain in the arse to change it.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

@brendaparisbride: I have a whole list of reasons. Mostly it’s that I’ve had this name for more than 30 years and I’ve yet to see a good reason for why it should be changed. It’s not like having the same last name makes a couple more married or more likely to not get divorced or whatnot. I’m not one for doing something just because it is “tradition.” If a tradition doesn’t have any meaning or resonance for me, I have no problems discarding it. And this tradition was quite easily discarded.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Rustic mill, historical site

I’m keeping mine but it’s not by choice.  I would LOVE to change my name but we have extremely stupid laws here and you can’t change your name unless you have special circumstances (like, your name is foreign and means something different in our language, or it’s the same name as a famous murderer, or whatever. )  You can’t legally change your name just because you want to.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I haven’t changed my name and have no intention of changing it any time soon. My husband seems perfectly fine with this, mostly because we’re in the process of buying a house, so changing my name in the middle of that process would be a pain in the arse (have to track down all the paperwork I’ve signed and change it), plus we’re hoping to travel overseas in the next year or so and I don’t want the hassle of changing my passport when we’ve already got a lot on our plate.

I may change my name when we have kids, simply because I would like the whole family to have the same name, but that may not be for a few years.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am keeping my name and Dear Fiance doesn’t care. If he did, he’s more than welcome to change his!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@brendaparisbride:  sorry for the late reply. Traditionally, Vietnamese women don’t change their last name upon marrying so it’s not something I ever gave much thought into until my Darling Husband broached the subject. Since his own mother never changed her last name either (also Vietnamese), my Darling Husband understands.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I did not, but it was all my choice.  Darling Husband said he would like it if I did, but since he didn’t want to change his he didn’t expect me to change mine.  Since I didn’t really care, I changed it, but did move my maiden to my middle name.  Same initial, and I was never attached to/or used my middle name.

I did offer to buy him an e ring and have him change his name (knowing he wouldn’t, he’s got generations of the same middle/last).  But even if he wanted to it would have cost several hundred for him while mine was free and ultimately we both wanted the same last name.  Seemed like the easiest solution.  It’s really not that much of a pain, I had a day off work anyhow and did the in person stuff, and everything else I did as it came in the mail or thought of it.

However I support whatever choice, you have to live with your name!

ETA: For those thinking “I might change it later”, it’s worth knowing a lot of places in the US have a limit on the time you can change it after marriage or it becomes a regular court name change with all the associated court costs and fees. πŸ™

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Keeping mine! I’m also published under my name, but even more than that, I’m the only one left with my name and because my father is French it is an uncommon name in Australia, and everytime anyone reads it they comment on how pretty it is, especially since my parents picked a first name that really compliments it. Makes me feel more connected to my French heritage πŸ™‚ 

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