(Closed) Anyone else learning another language for their FI/family?

posted 11 years ago in Intercultural
Post # 47
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@bellarain: it’s great that u are learning now before you have kids. I have a son and I’m scared that he’s going to learn faster then me and then I’ll be stuck with a kid who’s mouthy in 2 tounges!

Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

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@ms.adreanna: I should be learning hatian creeole. Most of his family speaks english, but his mom is not very fluent. I usually need an interpreter with her. Plus his grandfather was here from Haiti this fall and kept forgetting that i did not speak creole and constantly tried to have conversations with me. Luckily i can speak a little french which helps sometimes since his parents speak French but since the engagement they’ve been getting on me to learn creole

Post # 49
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My FH is Vietnamese American (his parents moved here in the 70’s), and the whole family obviously speaks Vietnamese when they are together. I’m learning, but boy, is it difficult!! His mom speaks very broken English, and it makes her SO happy when I say anything at all in Vietnamese. She always tries to speak English for me (which I appreciate) but I don’t want her to have to do that just for me in her own home, so I want to learn. It is also very important to me that our future children are fluent in Vietnamese. So, with little lessons here and there from my FH and his family, I’m learning.Oh, and I watch “Paris By Night” Karaoke DVD’s (anyone?!) all the time to help with reading and pronounciation–now I’m hooked on it!! Haha…

Post # 50
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@carmel bride: Oooh, how are you learning Russian? I’ve wanted to have basic, conversational skills but it’s haaaaard. And the Fiance is no good at teaching me ๐Ÿ™ And yes, I want to know what the in-laws are saying and want our children to be bilingual! ^_^

Post # 51
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Trying to work on Japanese here.

Post # 52
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m supposed to learn Spanish because my FI’s WHOLE FAMILY is from Puerto Rico and outside of his father and brothers no one is fluent.  (His mother could be described as “conversational”)  It was a really difficult trip to meet his whole family because I speak little to no Spanish… I’m hoping that I can learn some before we have kids, but I’m too busy working, interning, and studying to be able to commit any serious time to it.  My biggest problem is that I’m TERRIBLE at Spanish.  I lived in Spain for four months and learned nothing, despite honest efforts.  Are there any “language in a box” programs that worked for any one else?

Post # 53
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I can say I’m lucky- I’m bilingual in German and English, have a strong foundation in Japanese and bits and pieces of several other languages. Fiance has not had any formal training in a foreign language, but he’s planning to learn German for me. I really hope he’ll be fluent enough by the time we have kids, because it would be a shame not to pass on my bilingualism… although I could aim at trilingualism. :p

Post # 54
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I was born and raised in Portugal, and although parents and I have been in the States for 16 yrs they still have a difficult time with the English language.  My Fiance is *slowly* picking up Portuguese.  If we have children, I definitely want them to learn Portuguese and at least another foreign language.

Post # 55
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I lived in China for 6 months, and I found Mandarin to be near-impossible!  Good luck!

Post # 56
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m teaching my Fiance arabic, he’s picking it up very well ๐Ÿ™‚  Hopefully when we have kids I can speak to them in Arabic and he’ll be exposed to conversations. 

Post # 57
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I’m learning Canadian so my FI’s family and I can communicate!

just kidding ๐Ÿ™‚

but to the girls out there learning new languages: that is awesome. I’m trying to learn a little french from the Fiance. he grew up in ontario but was lucky enough to be enrolled in an all french speaking school.  but it’s hard because I absolutely butcher the pronunciation. I’m terrible at it!!

Post # 58
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

My fiance speaks Spanish and english fluently. Many of his family members speak Spanish only, including his grandmother whom he considers his mother because she brought him up. I met her once when I visited Mexico, and my Fiance had to be the interpreter whenever she said something to me and vice versa. Funny thing is, before I met him, I actually started learning Spanish just because I wanted to learn another language and coincidentally chose it. I am from South Africa and not many people here speak/learn Spanish. When I first met my Fiance, I remember saying a few wrods to him in Spanish and he was quite amazed ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Unfortunately I became lazy and stopped learning it. But I recently started going over the basics again and am really keen to go further so that I am able to communicate with his family more effectively as it is not a nice feeling when you speak to them and they don’t understand much of what you are saying. My Fiance also has a tendency to just hand the phone to me and make me speak to them even though they don’t understand me. It has actually come to a point where I don’t speak to them anymore. So this has just made the need to speak their language bigger!

Post # 59
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’m an American marrying a Haitian. I’m learning Haitian Creole because I live in Haiti now, and I need to be able to function in society. It will be an added bonus to be able to communicate with my husband’s family and friends when I finally move past the “basic Creole” stage.

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