(Closed) Anyone else marrying into a big family?

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MiJeS1104:  I’m in a very similar situation, only child going into family of 5 plus a ton of local, extended family. I love it and they made me feel like family since day 1.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

i’m one of 2 (older brother) and we have one aunt on each side, and 6 cousins total. A nice, little, manageable extended family. 

My fiance is one of 5. His dad also had a few dozen children by other women after he left them. At least one actually has the exact same name as my fiance. He has a few dozen aunts/uncles and too many cousins for me to even try and comprehend… lol He’s not really close to his dads side but its a strange concept for me that he has cousins and siblings that he’s never met. 

 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I am! I love it, my kids will have tons of people who love them

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I am! Fiance and I are both the older child, and both have one younger sister. But he has a MUCH bigger extended family, each of my parents is one of four, and each only have one sibling who has kids, and those siblings only had two kids. Two of my cousins have children of their own (two, and one with another on the way) FI’s mother is one of four, 2 of her 3 siblings have children, FI’s dad is one of 7, most of whom have kids, some have step kids. He has a very complicated extended family, cousins, stepcousins, marriages, remarriages, etc.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@MiJeS1104:  I’m in a similar situation. I just have an older brother. Including extended family, those I’m inviting to the wedding from my side will be 15-20. Fiance is one of six and he has tons of extended family. Easily 50+ for his side. I love it though! Our families are really different and we’ve had to adjust to some cultural differences and just differences between how our families are. But I love it ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I have a huge family (22 aunts&uncles, 40+ cousins) and FH also has a large family (16 aunts&uncles, 24 cousins) which is making our wedding huge 350+ but I absolutely love it and wouldn’t change it for the world! I hope we have a large family of our own:)

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I’m one of 3 and my FH is one of 6, but he has a very small extended family and I have a huge extended family. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I am marrying into a very close very big family and i love it! i’m an only child so i don’t really have any brothers, i have lots of second cousins and great aunts but we aren’t that close. My FI’S family are so helpful and accepting i love feeling part of a family ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m eldest of 2 (both girls) and my Darling Husband is eldest of 5 (4 brothers and the youngest is his sister).  So it was an adjustment for me, but a good one.

All 5 of them were born within 7 years so now when we see them and their SO’s it is so fun – just like hanging out with a close group of friends.  They’re all super easy-going and close which is awesome.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Darling Husband and I each only have one sibling, but I have almost 30 first cousins and he has a single one lol

Post # 13
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Busy bee

I have a very small extended family, Fiance has 27 aunts/uncles(not including spouses, yes some were from a different mother)… on one side! I can’t for the life of me keep track of all their names let alone the kids names and who they belong to.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m from a big family and married into a small one! My family is also one of those ones that keeps in touch with everyone and they all get along! It’s seriously like watching some kind of sickeningly sweet TV family when all my aunts, uncles, cousins, and the rest of the family get together! But I love it!

My immediate family is twice the size of my husband’s immediate family (he’s got 4, I’ve got 8 – including my brother’s wife and child). I have 67 aunts, uncles and first cousins, and keep in touch with a bunch of second and third cousins, too (so about another 50 people). My husband has 19 aunts, uncles and first cousins, and has 4 second cousins that he knows of.

It’s been pretty strange for him going from a small family that doesn’t really get along, to huge family get-togethers were everyone is best friends, and the relationships tying everyone together are so complicated. We just refer to everyone as aunts, uncles and cousins, regardless of how distant the relationship is. He was chatting to someone at our wedding for ages and asked how she was related to us – she’s my dad’s half fifth cousin (i.e. my great-great-great-etc. grandad’s half sister was her great-great-great-etc. grandmother). But we still keep in touch!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

FH and I have similar immediate families, but I have a HUGE extended family whereas he has a much smaller extended fam who are scattered all over the world.  His first introduction to just my mum’s side of the family would have been pretty daunting to most but he handled it so well, I was so proud to introduce him to everyone ๐Ÿ™‚ (I’m the one who’s always been slightly the “hopeless case” so it was nice to have something positive to report! lol).  Even my sister-in-law warned him about “the family” when we were round there not long after we got engaged ๐Ÿ˜› 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

@MiJeS1104:  Not only did I marry into a large extended family, all of my sisters in law and husband are sets of twins and are EXTREMELY close (my husband is a twin and his younger 2 sisters are twins). My family is small and spread out. It’s an adjustment having family around all the time

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