(Closed) Anyone else need to vent?

posted 6 years ago in September 2013
  • poll: Which family member or friend has driven you crazy so far?
    Mother of the bride : (5 votes)
    19 %
    Mother of the groom : (8 votes)
    30 %
    Random family member who shouldn't be giving opinions to start with! : (3 votes)
    11 %
    Bridesmaids : (3 votes)
    11 %
    Friends : (3 votes)
    11 %
    Future Hubby : (5 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    my mom does drive me a little crazy some of the time, but fortunately we agree on 95% of the wedding stuff! And she is paying for half. I pick my battles LOL.

    BUT her slightly over-the-top excitement and, how should I say this, take-charge approach to the wedding has my Maid/Matron of Honor and my Fiance on like, watch. It’s like they are just WAITING for her to say something they dont agree with so they can argue. I sort of want to tell them to calm down and I”LL handle it! Last thing I want is a lot of puffed up egos arguing about the wedding! Haha.

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    @chipper bride: thats what i keep telling myself! So far I haven’t had any MAJOR stressors, except I’m a little worried sometimes about Fiance. He’s a bit uncomfortable in more “formal” social situations, but he does want this wedding… its’ just every now and then he makes me worried about his potential behavior! Like “If the photographer gets in my face, they are fired on the spot. I hate that.” ummmmmm it’s sort of their job… or “I’m sitting around the bonfire and our guests can come to ME.” welllll you are sort of hosting….

    Post # 6
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    172 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    So far, everything has been ok, except for with one friend. She has been a very close friend for YEARS, and I actually considered asking her to be a bridesmaid, but something about her made me hesitate, so I decided to keep my bridal party smaller. As soon as I was engaged, she insisted that she be the one to take the pictures for our wedding (she’s done weddings professionally). I asked her how much she’d charge me and she gave me her regualr price for her “starter” package, and it was $500 over my budget. I told her what my budget was in the chance that she would go down (I make cakes and have given her deals in the past, so I figured I’d at least get a discount), and she refused to budge on her prices. I told her I couldn’t hire her and that I could find someone cheaper (she started out doing weddings for FREE to start her portfolio, so I mentioned that I could find someone like that. I don’t want a lot of pictures and I know Fiance doesn’t like to take them. I happen to have an amazing uncle who is an award winning photographer who offered to do the wedding for WAY under my budget, which I was very excited about because I love his style and creativity. My friend went behind my back and accused him of undercutting everyone else and hurting the “photography business” in town. He responded with “she’s FAMILY.” My friend then sent me a message asking if I was hiring him, and I told her yes, and she said she was ok with it, but to tell him not to be offended if she cuts in his way to get the perfect shot. I decided to have the ceremony unplugged, hoping that this is the only drama I have to deal with. 

    Post # 8
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    130 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Our 150 max guestlist has grown to over 200+ & still growing! Our parents keep adding people. They are helping us pay for everything but we both never really wanted a big wedding. Now we are kinda just trying not to let it upset us. I’m going back & forth if I want certain friends there for sure just because I’ve known them for years & they came to my engagement party…

    Im also stressed over finding an affordable BUT GOOD photographer in Maryland/DC/Virginia area…and my flowers situation stresses me out too. I want roses & baby’s breath so i can have that classic & elegant theme. All of our quotes are 4k+ ….I got a quote for ONLY babys breath for almost 2K! WTF?!?! Now I’m contemplating making my 9 bouquets, 3 corsages, 11 boutounierres & 25-30 centerpieces with the help of my bridesmaids & a few friends…. #Sigh

     

    Post # 9
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    2363 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    Ok this isn’t so much wedding related as it is family related – my aunt is being an ATROCIOUS SELFISH AWFUL HUMAN BEING >:[ She’s HORRIBLE. 

    Her tirades about “crimes” committed “against” her make me NAUSEATED. Seriously, grow the F*CK up you’re a damn adult. No one, NO ONE, made you make the choices you did. And all this “psychological and emotional abuse” is bullcrap. It’s made up in your head because you did NOT go through that, and how dare you say you did when there are people out there who really do? Your mother didn’t “neglect” you, you were a spoiled brat who wanted more than her parents could afford! (And their life was by NO means hard. THey were not poor.) Her head is so far up her *ss and she can’t even look outside of her selfishness for one SECOND to even see how she’s hurting everyone around her over imagined and made up “slights.” I’m so freaking over it. She hasn’t been invited to the wedding based on her treating my mother (her only sibling) and their mom like crap, but now it’s officially MY choice. I’m so sick of her bullsh*t!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Sorry that got really heavy and debby downer, but we’re dealing with trying to plan Christmas around a narcissistic psychopath.

    Post # 10
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Guest list was the biggest stresser – from the Future Mother-In-Law mostly.  Now it’s finalized and it’s all good. Smile

    Everyone seems to have opinions.  I love that people care.  But, sometimes ignorance is bliss.

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