Post # 1
FI’s bachelor party is coming up. He has told his groomsman that he does not want to go to a strip club or have any strippers at his party. Not only out of respect for me, but because he feels strip clubs are stupid and a waste of money.
However, I am not sure if I trust a group of 10 guys out together in the big city. Who’s to say that they won’t have a stripper come to the hotel room or take Fiance to a strip club while they are there? I voiced my concerns to Fiance and he said that if that happened he would simply walk out, but really…would any man just “walk out” when a hot naked woman is grinding in front of him?
Ugh, I am just so scared and nervous. I have always had very low self esteem and the thought of him oogling beautiful, naked women gives me anxiety. I could never look as good as those girls, and I am sure that (if given the opportunity) Fiance would look.
Post # 3
It sounds like you two are on the same page. I know its easy to imagine the worst but you’re just going to have to rely on the fact that you trust him (easier said than done I know). Do you have plans to keep yourself distracted while he’s at his bachelor party?
Post # 4
I actually had a minor freak-out the day after our respective bach parties. His guys took him to Atlantic City, while I had a super fun evening in our town doing various activities I liked. At first he wasn’t too open about what all they did and I was SUPER paranoid and cried a bunch being upset and worried. However, it turned out my paranoia was totally in vain. I actually had a better time than he did, and there were definitely no strippers involved. (Of course I told him that if they DID do strippers/strip club that they all should be prepared to lie to me for the rest of my life… if that’s the case, they’re doing a great job.)
If you know your man, and you really trust him… well then, trust him! He loves you. He wouldn’t want to hurt you.
Post # 5
Try not to worry too much! After all, he loves you and is marrying you, not anyone else. You have to ask yourself if you really trust your Fiance, and if you do, you have no choice but to give him the benefit of the doubt and not let it come between you or cause problems.
Do you know the guys who are throwing the bachelor party? If for the most part they’re in relationships, married, or family members then you’re probably pretty safe. It sounds as though you can really trust your FI since he’s made it clear to his friends, no strippers or strip clubs. Maybe you can ask him to touch base with you by phone or text throughout the night just to reassure your fears, however, sometimes I know guys won’t let the groom do that. On that night don’t be alone – hang out with friends or, better still, the women who are attached to those guys, and you can all commiserate and comfort each other. Hang in there! It will be over soon and you’ll be married!
Post # 6
@LGenz: Thanks for the advice! I do plan on having some friends over that night to keep my mind off of it. I know that if I sit at home by myself my mind would begin to wander and I would only imagine the worst. We were thinking a movie night…just no Hangover type movies allowed! 😛
Post # 7
Thanks guys! His friends are mostly married…a few singles will be there. I know his friends can get pretty rowdy when they are drinking, but then again what group of guys doesn’t I guess?
Post # 8
Do you have any close male friends? brothers? cousins? My DH also was not interested in a stripper bachelor party and while this was not something I expected his friends to do, two of my brothers we attending so I knew they would be sure he didn’t get into trouble. The guys went to dinner and a shooting range, totally tame so I had no issues.
Post # 9
I don’t know his friends, so it’s hard for me to say, but I would imagine that if they actually KNOW him, they will know he means it when he says this isn’t what he wants and they’ll respect that.
Hang out with your girls, have a fun night, and try not to worry, because you’ll only drive yourself crazy!
Also, have you ever actually seen real strippers? A lot of them are not nearly as attractive as what you see on tv or in movies…..they’re just normal girls.
Post # 10
I was kind of hoping my FI’s friends would take him to a strip club or something. I’ve been to plenty of strip clubs myself (male & female dancers) and I honestly had a lot of fun when I went. He’s never been, so I think it would be a cool experience for him to go. However, his best man’s wife thinks strippers are vile inhuman creatures from the abyss and he’s not allowed to go. I have no idea what they’re planning for his bach party but I’m sure he will enjoy it nonetheless.
Post # 11
My Fiance is leaving tomorrow morning for his weekend long bachelor party. I know they are going to a strip club, which I am kinda ok with. I trust my Fiance, but the thought of another girl being around him in a sexual makes me unhappy 🙁 I am also worried about how much all the guys will be drinking. I wanted my bachelorette party this weekend as well, but mine is in 3 weeks. So I planned a night away with my sister to keep my mind of the FI!