(Closed) Anyone else not as motivated as they thought they’d be?

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Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m having this same issue.  Although I will say, I bought my dress the other day and that definitely made it more real to me.  At least now I can visualize how I will look.  It’s sort of motivated me to start WW again (after thanksgiving).

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Same!! 🙁 I thought i would be all gung hoe and i never was…i didnt lose any weight (but i didnt gain any either) Now the day is over and im trying to get focused on loosing weight for the honeymoon….but i dont think that will happen either!! *laugh* Dang it.

 

Good luck!

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@Tswife4ever:

I’ve been saying the same thing these past few months. I have PCOS which makes it difficult to lose and easy to gain even if you are taking the right steps so to speak.

Most of the time I lack motivation to eat well and work out when I’ve got too many other things going on. I’ve found that it is a lot easier to focus on creating new habits (like eating well or keeping to a work out schedule) when you aren’t doing a million other things. I’m in my last semester of college for instance and between working, my internship and the other extra stuff I do, it became a burden and a chore, so instead I’m beginning new after graduation in a few weeks.

I also am planning on working with my Fiance to set up a goal/reward system that ISN’T focused around losing a certain amount of weight or treating myself in a way that I can “cheat”. Hopefully as I progress, and have success, I can move away from going to a chick flick just because I made it out of bed to work out all week to going because I lost an inch or met my target heart rate or whatever. Also, since our social lifes are based a lot around going out to dinner,  I want to move away from that without feeling like I’m missing out…

I’ll let you know how it goes once I start it up again.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@adorkable – i know the feeling about socializing revolving around eating out. that’s pretty much all that happens NYC because people’s apartments are way too small to host big groups of people! although i started going back to the gym, i’m soooo not motivated on the calorie-counting and cutting. esp being the holidays, food is everywhere! i think you just need to figure out what the healthiest options are and learn to say “No thank you :),” “dressing/sauce on the side please” and “i’ll take the rest the go.” and yes it’s hard to find time to focus on exercise and calorie counting, but even little adjustments to your habits help ALOT – like park your car as far as possible from the door of where you’re going so you walk more. find foods that you like that are actually good for you and stock up on them! if you’re prone to snacking, replace your chips with nuts and dried fruit (this is my downfall so i basically make sure i am “armed” at all times w/healthy snacks so i’m not tempted to eat junk). i still have a good chunk of time to lose a good amount of weight, but it’s so hard to start!! part of me just doesn’t care b/c like 80% of my body will be hidden under a dress all day/night. my huge area of concern is my flabby arms (wabbling in my strapless dress – eek!). so that’s what i’m going to focus on! it seems like you too have awhile before your big day, so don’t sweat it (no pun intended ;).

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Come join the 30 Day Shred accountability shred! 🙂 We’re all doing Jillian Michaels’ workouts over there and trying to keep each other motivated. It’s a lot easier to work out when you have a group to chat with about it. Plus, it’s nice to get a little mental pat on the back when you check in after your workout.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yes! For some reason I though as soon as I had a ring on my finger I would be magically transformed into a healthy eating exercise loving girl.  Apparently not.  Right now my goal is to get through finals, vacation, and Christmas and then starting WW (again) and possibly doing the 30 day shred.  I want to try on dresses this summer, so hopefully that will be good motivator!

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@Jaxx317: I actually have PCOS and last year went to a speciality doctor who recommended a specific low GI diet and to eat/snack 6 times a day so you’re absolutely right about snacking on things like nuts throughout the day. I’m hoping that in January I will be able to buckle down and implement all this stuff again, not as a New Year’s Resolution, but just because I won’t be running from pillar to post everyday.

@Natalieh86: I so feel you on getting through this month and wanting to try on dresses, too. Do you have any ideas about when you are going to decide “OK, I’ve lost the weight I can loose before the wedding” and order your gown? I so want to go shopping and have that experience…I guess I just have to wait and see if in 6 months I’m still saying I’m lacking the motivation or if I’ve become motivated and am on the right track….

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

set yourself a small goal… i have 11 months to loose 25 lbs….im down 2lbs but i also have my sister motaviting me. I have a thyroid condition and im BC so it is very hard for me to loose weight so i am mostly just toning, I have been engaged now for almost 5 months and at one point i lost my motavation then i remember that i want to look great at the wedding…so im working hard on it.

Post # 11
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1986 posts
Buzzing bee

I have these shoes, called Vibram Five Fingers, they seriously motivated me to get my bum in shape. They are amazing to work out in, and I can run forever without all the usual pain that hits me in 2 minutes, leg cramps, chest pain etc. I also bought a Wii and Wii Fit2, and the yoga and stuff really helped, I’d do it for 10 – 20 minutes a day.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@adorkable: I don’t really have a amount I want to lose first, I’m looking at it more like I’m going to be trying on dresses around June no matter want, and I want to look good doing it, haha. I wonder though how late I can order a dress.  I don’t want to order something a long time before the wedding and then lose more weight and it not fit.  Of course that would be a not so horrible problem to have.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I didn’t want to lose weight, but I did want to get toned and even with the picture of me in my dress hanging on my cube wall, I still find it painful to go to the yoga or zumba class…I sometimes go and I sometimes don’t.  I really thought I would have the motivation out here, but I don’t.

Post # 14
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1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I bought my dress pretty much immediately after getting engaged.  I bought the sample and half price and it’s just a wee bit snug. I thought I still looked fantastic in it until I looked at some pictures and saw it…the dreaded BACK FAT!!  It was EVERYWHERE!!  My fitting is in February, so I know I’ve got 8 weeks to lose as much weight and tone up and much as possible.  So far, looking at the gross back fat has proven to be incredibly motivating.

Post # 15
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548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I am also doing weight watchers…but not for my wedding…because almost 2 years ago at 26 I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes and had high cholesterol.  My FS’s family members all live into their 90s and mine live into their 60 and 70s if they’re lucky..what motivated me was wanting to spend the later years of our lives together instead of dying so far ahead of him.  I bought my dress in my current size (22), and have lost 16 pounds.  What helps me is that my Fiance also started eating healthier, so I don’t have crap food around and he helps me make the right choices because I have so little will power.  But I know that he loves me and will love me if I remain this size for the rest of our lives, or even get bigger.  I asked him what if I lost too much weight for my wedding dress to be altered (they said with my dress they can go down 2 sizes)…he said that if I worked so hard to lose so much weight, he had no problem buying me another dress.

 

The thing that keeps me most accountable is going to the WW meetings.  If I tried to do it on my own, I would quit.  I tried WW before and stopped going to the meetings and I quit.  Also, I’m doing it with friends, and we email each other our food journals to keep each other accountable, motivated and for advice.  

 

And remember…it’s not about weight loss…it’s about changing your life style long term and being healthier and teaching you how to eat properly (honestly, my body can’t handle most fast food or junk anymore)…I know everyone says that but try to make it true for you.  Since starting weight watchers, my blood sugars have been 90-130 ish and they used to be in the 200s…also my cholesterol went down from 210 to 185.  And whereas before I was scared shitless to get my bloodwork done every three months, now I can’t wait.

 

Good luck with your journey!!!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Belle2Be: LOVE the Vibram shoes!  I just got a pair recently, too, because regular running shoes have always given me foot problems, and partially just the price of them has been keeping me motivated 🙂 (those shoes are not cheap, and on a grad student budget, they’re a serious purchase!)

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