(Closed) Anyone else NOT care what guests wear?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do you care if guests wear white/whatever color to your wedding?

    Not at all


    Maybe, depending on what it looks like

  • Post # 3
    191 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I care about floor length white or ivory gowns but that’s about it. People keep asking me to practically go through their wardrobe with them, lol, and I just want to say, “I’m not your mommy, dress yourself!” Oh my poor guests. You’d think by now they’d know what “dressy casual” is.

    One co-worker literally asked me about several items of clothing in her closet and if I thought they would work or not, and another I told him I’ll just come over before and help him pick something out, lol.

    Post # 5
    3563 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I don’t really care about color ( I think someone in a white dress would end up looking bad, and it would be worse for them than for me), but I do care about the level of formality. I would be PISSED if someone showed up in jeans or casual clothes.

    Post # 7
    1184 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    my mom keeps asking me what color she should wear. i don’t care at all. she doesn’t like that answer. the only thing i’d be annoyed with is if people showed up in inappropriately informal clothes….like jeans and a t-shirt.

    Post # 8
    4499 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’m with you, Statutory Grape…I don’t care AT ALL. A lot of my friends have been asking me what color they should wear, what style dress, etc., and I just DON’T care. I almost feel bad not having an answer for them, haha! But seriously nothing bothers me–wear black, wear white, wear the same color as the maid of honor–it doesn’t matter. No one is going to get confused! 

    Post # 9
    738 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I don’t care at all!!

    Post # 10
    3176 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’m just anti-white dresses. There are a million other colors in the rainbow and its my day to stand out and wear white, can’t they pick another color? Any other color! That said I won’t flip out if someone wears white, my wedding is in the summer. The jeans thing I think it inevitable if certain members of the family come. The last wedding my uncle showed up sporting some kickass jean shorts with a giant whole in the butt revealing his super awesome smufs boxers, it matched his hawaiian shirt and blue crocs perfectly.

    And this is the second time on one of your posts where I think I mess up on voting! LOL! I don’t usually read the poll question if I think its the same as the post! My bad!

    Post # 11
    2633 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’d care if someone showed up in a white dress and/or wedding gown. I’d also not like it if anyone showed up in jeans.

    Post # 12
    317 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We’re having a formal reception and saying so on the invites. I wouldn’t think too much of it if they wore shorts but looked clean, but I don’t want people to look like bums 🙁

    Post # 13
    1254 posts
    Bumble bee

    I don’t so much care about color because everyone knows who the bride is, or else they wouldn’t be invited. However, I do care about the appropriateness of the outfit. If someone showed up wearing clothes to wear to a pool party, then that would be a problem. But I wouldn’t throw a hissy fit about it. I’d tell the photographer to edit her from pictures and be done with it. For the most part, I think people know well enough when something is inappropriate. So, mostly I’d feel sorry for the offending guest because she’ll be dealing with an evening full of snide comments and looks.

    Post # 14
    1014 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’m a little worried about our guests coming in super casual attire, just because our venue is “rustic.”  It’s surprising how many people ask about what to wear.  Um, how about a dress?  Nice slacks?  Tie?  Come on, people, I know you’ve been to a wedding before!  I don’t really care about the level of formality… tux vs suit vs slacks… I just REALLY don’t want anyone coming in jeans, shorts, or anything else that is vacation type wear.

    Post # 15
    6659 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I didn’t care what people wore and I didnt’ mind when they asked me if something was OK. I honestly only wanted to give guidance so guests felt comfortable with their choice, not so I approved. There were 3 women who wore white dresses to my wedding and I didn’t even notice until it was pointed out to me with pictures afterwards. And this didn’t happen, but if someone showed up in an actual white bridal gown it would be more embarassing for her than me, I can easily just tell my photographer not to get any pix of her, but she has to face the scrutiny of everyone else.

    Post # 16
    1870 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Nah. People can wear anything as long as they’re wearing something.

    Although our invites do say at the very bottom corner:


    (not black tie)

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