(Closed) Anyone else NOT doing an open bar?

posted 11 years ago in Food
Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Hi! Nothing wrong with having a cash bar. We put that on the invite since our venue doesn’t have an ATM though. We want people to bring cash for drinks, seems like no one carries cash anymore.

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

we did beer nd wine at ours and for 75 people(who drank quite a bit) we spent around $300 on alcohol, two kegs of beer, and a case(12 bottles) of wine

Post # 19
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Personally, I think cash bars are tacky.  If you cant afford an open bar – opt for beer and wine only.  Otherwise I would do a champagne toast with everyone (supplied by you guys) and keep everything else dry.  Asking people to come to your event and then charging them for alcohol I dont think is appropriate – esp. when people travel from far and wide to be at your event.  There is nothing wrong with serving limited selections or none at all.  People are coming to see you get married – they will have a good time regardless.

Post # 20
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Busy bee

UGH!  Tacky…  man that word needs to be banned!  🙂

I think you need to do what you can afford.  We are doing beer and wine only (although I’m totally considering doing champagne now that I’ve noticed some people doing it above as an option – cheap champs though!)  Buying it in bulk and bringing that in is rather inexpensive.

If you don’t plan to host any of the bar, I would totally make it known on the website and verbally that the bar is “no host”.  My older brother did not have a hosted bar which was a fine option – except he neglected to tell anyone that.  I ended up bumming cash off my Dad for a $7 glass of white wine for the toast.  Being unprepared was much more obnoxious than having to pay!

And it’s not TACKY – it’s your wedding, your choice, and ultimately, your finances fudning it (which I relate to since we are paying for our wedding ourselves also.)

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t think cash bars are tacky at all.  I think we’ll end up doing beer & wine after cocktail hour (full open bar is included in our package during cocktail hour).

Honestly, I hate the argument that you should “have a dry wedding” if you can’t afford to host the bar.  I would be more annoyed going to a wedding with NO alcohol at all just because the bride & groom couldn’t afford to host the bar.  I am always prepared with cash just in case because it’s fairly common in my area & social circle to have cash bar.  And many venues accept credit or debit nowadays.

Post # 22
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We’re having a cash bar… there will be wine on the tables for supper, but the rest will be cash. That is pretty much the norm around here, I have never been to a wedding with an open bar.

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Our bar decision will depend on how much money we have left over. I don’t think it is tacky to have a cash bar. Do want you can afford. Growing up in Ma and living in New Husband cash bars are very common here. If I get a free drink great, if not, also fine and I always come prepared to pay.

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

IMO i dont think that cash bars are tacky, I just dont think they are appropriate. I do agree with Layla26 that i would not like to have guests that are coming far and beyond for my wedding to not only pay for accomodations but also alcohol at my wedding. I have never been to a wedding that is not open bar, but honestly i do feel that if i have to get you an engagement gift, a bridal shower gift and a weddinf gift, i would not like to also have to pay for the alcohol.

Although don’t get me wrong, I do feel that you should do what you can afford and everyone’s situation is different but I would take my guests into a bit more consideration if they are coming from afar.

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