(Closed) Anyone else not doing assigned seating?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Actually, if it makes you feel any better…I am having a pretty formal wedding with like 150 people, but am not having assigned seating at all. I figure that the guests are capable of picking their own seats and getting along. That’s one less thing I have to worry about too.

Are you having a “cocktail” hour?

Post # 4
Hostess
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We didn’t have assigned seating.  We had about 35 people attend the wedding.  Are you having any other food or just the pizza?  We had some small snack things while we were taking pictures and then the DJ announced that the buffet was open.  You could probably have your DJ make an announcement letting people know that they can eat at any time.  Or just a family member could announce it.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

We didn’t do assigned seating…too many “they won’t sit by so and so” problems.  We had several things that we hoped would get people to mingle and they still didn’t.  You can’t really force them to do anything.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

The cocktail hour and snacks could go hand in hand…you don’t really have to serve alcohol during this time. We won’t be.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

well we’re having assigned tables, but not assigned seating at the tables. i was confused when i heard people went that far with the assigned seating.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We’re also doing assigned tables. I’m not sure if it’s a blessing or curst that I work in the wedding industry… but I’ve seen a lot of bad things happen when there’s no assigned tables…. 

Post # 10
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4381 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

I’m not. Mainly because people don’t do those around these parts, and also I just am trying to save my sanity. 🙂

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We did my brother’s Rehearsal Dinner in my mom’s backyard.  We did the ceremony walk through over on one side and then my mom had her cabana area set up with a hired bartender for cocktails.  She also had cheese and fruit display in that area too.  We did rent a tent.  The only assigned seats we did were for the bridal party/family.  That way they would be near the bride/groom for the toasts.  We had 100 people.

Oh and glad we got a tent… it was the worst rain in Houston in months!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@KLP2010 – yeah my worry was that people would be spreading out at the tables or not wanting to sit at a random table with someone they didn’t know because it was the last seat left or something. i was worried if i didn’t do assigned tables, then i would run out of tables!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

Big wedding + no assigned seating = horrible for guests. 

These debates happen every once in a while on the boards, and the majority of bees usually supports assigned seating. Clearly for a small wedding or a hors d’oeuvres reception it’s different, but when you’re serving a meal, you should assign tables if not seats. There’s always a couple of bees who say they went to a big wedding where unassigned seating worked well, so it’s technically possible. But in the majority of cases, not assigning seats leads to mayhem and uncomfortable guests. 

 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m not either, like Scissors, people just don’t do that in the region our families are from.  Actually, if we were to assign everyone to their own tables they would think it was strange and, well, dumb.  I can see how it can be helpful for something over 100 people though.  We will have tables designed just for the immediate family (parents, grandparents, siblings and maybe aunts/uncles) so they can sit closer to us and not spread out around the room by chance.  We are only expecting about 65 or so out of the 130. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

my SO doesn’t want assigned seating because every wedding he’s gone to he’s been placed with people he doesn’t like, so i don’t think we will… i think it’s the better route, because we know our guests and i’m sure we could sit them with likeminded people, but i can also see guests knowing where to sit themselves…

i think we’ll probably have ‘reserved’ tables for family.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am having a 200+ wedding reception and we are not have assigned seating. People don’t really do that in my area. Almost every wedding that I have been to has not had assigned seating and it worked fine. Honestly I just don’t think anything about it. I am going to have reserved tables for the immediate family and wedding party (we are not having a head table). I agree with MissAsB, I would have the DJ announce that everyone can start eating. We are having a buffett and that is what we are going to do. Your brick oven pizza idea is REALLY cool btw! Sounds so YUMMY!

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