(Closed) Anyone else not doing assigned seating?

posted 10 years ago in Reception
Post # 32
32 posts
  • Wedding: August 2011

We’re not doing assigned seating with the exception of immediate families. We are having about 125 guests. However, most people already know each other since we grew up together which eliminates getting stuck at a table with “strangers.” Plus, we will have a few extra tables for room to spread out and make it easier to sit with who you want.

Post # 33
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

300 gusts, but we are not assigning seats.  Most everyone knows people on our list and we want people to feel free to sit where ever they’d like.

Post # 34
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’ve been to several large weddings (150+) and some have done it and others haven’t.

In the cases where they have, it was weird navigating where each table was. As in “I’m looking for table 12 and I’m at 24. Where’s table 12?” kind of thing. You can also tell who is on the ‘inner circle’ vs who isn’t based on the pairings. For closer friends, we are sitting with all our other invited friends. For aquaintances, we got stuck with randoms.

On the other hand, unassigned seating was nice for the bride, but then your guests get stuck holding seats/tables for 6 of your friends who are at the bar or delayed in getting to the reception site who all want to sit together.

I would make the call based on feasibility, time, and money.

Post # 35
300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Not trying to start anything here but I find it a little rude to say that not having assigned seating will make the reception horrible for guests. I’ve never been to a reception with assigned seating (and I’ve been to a LOT of weddings) and it never, ever made my experience horrible. And at my own wedding in October we will not be having assigned seating and if someone came up to me and said that made their experience horrible I would either respond by telling them they could leave or grabbing a napkin and sharpie/crayon/whatever was around and write their name and slap it on a table.

Post # 36
1897 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I wanted to do assigned tables, but my mom’s making me do assigned seats. (200 person wedding)

@eeh2010—I think Lynnabby’s comment was in response to Amaroo24’s comment about assigned seating being “miserable”.  I’m sure everyone could tell us a different story about how/why they prefer things one way or another, but I think to best address to OP–no, you do not NEED assigned seats.  Some people prefer to know where they’re sitting, others would prefer to choose who they sit by.  Ultimately, it’s your decision!  It is common to do either or.  Whether you have assigned seats or not, I’m sure your guests will understand to mingle about…This happens naturally and I don’t think you should worry about it.

Post # 37
435 posts
Helper bee

I certainly didn’t mean to offend anyone.  I think any kind of wedding can be wonderful for the hosts and guests. And, of course you know what is better for you and the type of wedding you are having.  I’m sure it will work out wonderfully. 

I was answering the question I thought was being asked in the OP.  Sorry if I misread what was being asked. I was only thinking about a specific situation I encounted when attending a wedding without assigned seating.  When I think about it I have been to some cocktail receptions and more casual weddings where it did work out.  Again sorry if I offended anyone.

Post # 38
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t think that the comments were taken offensively (at least to me).  Assigned seating seems to be a contencious a topic as having children at your wedding.  My response earlier was in regards to my experience at weddings with assigned seat.  They were just not enjoyable and limited socializing or being a sociable person I was put at the table of ‘non-talkers’ to get them to socialize.  Again this was my experience. 

In the end, I really think you need to go with what would fit you, your guests and wedding style.  Both options are common. Not having one saves the bride and groom last minute stress related to seating, extra guests and guest cancelling.  However, if you are having a plated meal assigned seating or at least visible place cards might be a request of your caterer.    

The topic ‘Anyone else not doing assigned seating?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors