(Closed) anyone else NOT facebook friends with their SO

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Are you and your SO/FI/DH Facebook friends

    yes, of course

    no, there's no need to be

    n/a we aren't into social networking

    other, please explain

  • Post # 32
    236 posts
    Helper bee

    Yes. We were friends for over a year before we started dating. I hate that whole mushy fbook wall post crap. I just went and looked at the last time I even posted on his wall, and it was in 2009, when I wanted to remind him of something and didn’t want to wake him up at 6am! So I wrote it on his wall.

    Nothing mushy about searching craigslist for couches!

    Post # 33
    2583 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Fiance and I were friends for a year before we dated, and we were FB friends then… nothing’s changed. I’m 20 and he’s 22, so I guess we’re from the “social networking” generation anyway. We’re also long distance, so we use it to chat- nothing too mushy though, at least not for the public to see 😉

    I have to be honest, I don’t really understand your reasoning for not being FB friends… if you choose not to that’s a personal decision, but I’m not sure I get the whole trust and cheating thing? If someone’s going to cheat I’d rather find out from FB than not at all, and I trust my Fiance (as I’m sure all you ladies trust your SOs) not to cheat anyway, so I’m not sure I understand the issue.

    Post # 34
    109 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We were friends, but I un-friended him when we broke up for a while a couple of years ago. Now he won’t re-friend me, ha!

    He has like 10 friends and only logs on about once a month so it doesn’t matter anyway.

    I’d be his friend or not – it doesn’t matter to me. If he was on it all the time and had hundreds of friends then I would definitely make a stink if he wouldn’t add me!

    Post # 35
    3226 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Yes, of course…haha. We don’t post on eachother’s wall really though..since we live together!

    Post # 36
    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We became FB friends shortly before we went on our first date (we met online – not on FB, but became FB friends as part of the “getting to know you” process). 

    We’ve been guilty of a couple mushy posts here and there but hopefully not to an extreme. Now, he rarely visits or uses Facebook, except to occasionally upload photos of us, so we don’t really communicate on FB. 


    Post # 37
    1577 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We each have many friends and colleagues spread far and wide around the globe, so Facebook is part of our regular daily lives. We are FB friends, and the benefits I can see are:

    1. When we’re talking (ahem, gossipping) about what was posted on FB by mutual friends, it’s much better when both of us know what’s going on – like if it’s a wall “conversation”. 
    2. Occasionally we’ll have a flirty “chat” if he’s on a computer at work and I’m home on my computer – it’s quite hot, sometimes.
    3. Announcing our engagement to everyone else. After a week of notifying our mutual family members & closest friends in person and by phone; we “announced” our engagement by updating our relationship statuses in synchronicity (seriously, we did it on the count of 3). Then we sat at the kitchen table with our laptops and coffee and laughed and grinned and talked about the responses we got for the next hour.  It was a great time and one of those special moments I treasure.

    Post # 38
    3261 posts
    Sugar bee

    I technically met my Fiance on facebook. He had seen me around, and being shy, decided to add me on fb to break the ice. So yes, we are friends.

    Post # 39
    1367 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I am in the minority. My SO and I are NOT FB friends. I am a regular poster on FB and other internet stuff and he is just on FB sometimes and rarely post anything. We are together for 2 years and in the begining I decided I wasn’t comfortable sharing my internet activities with the BF and possibly with his friends. I didn’t want people to be nosey on me I guess… But now I guess there’s no need for us to REFUSE to befriends on FB… Maybe we’ll befriend each other when we get engaged and surprise everyone.

    Post # 40
    1332 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We are FB friends, with me being on the site way more than he ever is.  However, we are not tied together in the relationship category, which some people think is weird.  In fact, we both might be listed as ‘single’…a year into our courtship (I would have to check what his says!!).  Im too lazy to edit my profile, ha.

    Post # 41
    713 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Fortunately, FH doesn’t have a facebook (whew!). But if we move out of state in a few years, he will probably make one to stay in touch with family. He’s not really interested in social networking stuff.

    Post # 42
    66 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We aren’t FB friends because he doesn’t have an account. I actually prefer it that way. I’m not very active on there so that probably makes a difference too.

    When we started dating we both had Myspace accounts and thank God those are history : )

    Post # 43
    163 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Guilty as charged lol…we totally do the mushy posts and everything…so needless to say we’re friends on facebook and our accounts are linked to each other’s 🙂

    Post # 44
    597 posts
    Busy bee

    We’re friends on Facebook but we practically ignore each other, haha. I will create an event for a party at our house and I won’t invite him (because duh! He lives here!) and then he’ll get all uppity about it, lol.

    Post # 46
    2818 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I am FB friends with my Fiance, but he hardly ever uses it.

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