(Closed) anyone else not getting a ‘real’ proposal?

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

((waving))  nope, didnt get a proposal… now married and still waiting for it πŸ™‚

hubby tried to give me keys to his house, i said not without the ring…i got my ring and moved in after we were married πŸ™‚


Post # 4
290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We sort of had a thread on this subject. You’ll see lots of women didn’t have the “magical” proposal.

Is there a reason once you have the ring he can’t ask you? It might feel silly, but you can still go to a quiet spot and have him kneel down and slip it on your finger. My husband asked one night in bed, and then we picked the ring together. When it arrived he knelt down right in our kitchen. It was very silly, but also pretty sweet. I am glad I got the image of him doing that.

Were you disappointed with your proposal? Were other people?

Post # 5
2000 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

My proposal was a little different. He never did get down on one knee until I made him for some re-enactment photos.

You can read about it here.


Post # 6
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That’s pretty much how mine went πŸ™‚  I picked out the ring, we picked it up and he just gave it to me at home that night.

Post # 7
74 posts
Worker bee

I really don’t think that I will actually get a real proposal – I really would like to have that especially since I want too always look back during the hard times in life and see him down on one knee telling me he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I am getting ready to possibly move away for a year and a half and I feel like that would be a nice memory to hold onto while we navigate my living 4000 miles away from him.

I too have been with him for a very long time – 6 and 1/2 years and I think it was our waiting so long that lead the guys to feel like it isn’t a big deal. My bf thought he would propose properly and suprise me but he doesn’t actually know how to plan anything. Our entire relationship was my planning, buying, wrapping, presenting, producing everything. Literally his responsibility has been to get up in the morning, shower, pick an outfit, have me approve the outfit, go to work, come home, eat a meal I have choosen and prepared, watch tv or take care of the lawn. Every special event or day or anything involving social requirements I prepare plan and carry out just telling him when and where to show up. I even plan amazingly special valentine’s day events and send him details and itinerary and tell him to be on time and follow along. I guess it is my fault he feels unable to manage something as simple as a proposal but I always wanted to feel special and not have to do anything for it.

Post # 8
4567 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I got a proposal type speech last night… but hopefully he’ll be smart enough to ask me instead of just TELLING me WHY he wants to marry me!

Post # 9
10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

@Kmsull: how cute is that speech?! I guess he’s making sure you’ll say yes lol!!

Post # 10
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I picked out my ring but he and I both wanted to do the proposal thing and I got the proposal of my dreams!

Post # 11
35 posts
  • Wedding: December 1969

lol, I had pressured my ex so much, and one day I told him to just go get a plain cheap band from freddies (I worked there so we both got a discount, even at the jewelry store!) and so he came home with it taped to a video game he thought I would like. I was in my frumpy clothes watching tv on the bed, when he tossed it at me. I opened it and he got on one knee next to the bed, lol. But I am hoping for a more romantic one this time. πŸ˜‰

Post # 12
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I did… after we were “engaged” for about 5 months and announced it a month before he did the “on one knee will you you marry me” thing. It was sweet. It was his own way and I appreciated him taking the time to do it. Maybe if you mention it.. like a hint hint ;). It works… sometimes!

Post # 13
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We went ring shopping on the weekend and I started thinking we might as well just get engaged when he buys one… without any surprise it seemed like a bit of a pretense!

But now he knows what I like, I’m not allowed anything else to do with it, plus I know he likes to make me feel special and enjoy our milestones, so I guess we will. I wouldn’t have been upset if he didn’t do a ‘proper’ proposal though.

Post # 14
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

i am not sure how he plans to do it .but i already know which day .we are picking up the ring sunday nvoember 22nd but i wont actually get the “proposal?” until our 1 yr on november 25th , but he isnt exactly the type to do the down on one knee thing,i know he mentioned something about a wake up morning proposal.

Post # 15
65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

The Fiance and I met while studying abroad in London for a year, and broke up when our graduate course finished.  After 5 months of keeping in touch, we decided we wanted a life together, and that he should immigrate to America for the better career options.  But then we found out that the only way to do that was to get married… eeek!!  I decided we need a lawyer to have our visa app done right, and he gave me the go ahead to start looking for one.  After about a week of calling around getting fee quotes for a “fiance visa,” I asked told him we had a problem… (this is all on Skype video chat, which was our main form of communication).  He was really puzzled and couldn’t figure out what the problem was, so I shyly told him, “Well, in order to apply for a fiance visa, we… well, we kinda have to be engaged.”  He laughed and said, “yeah, I suppose we do.”  I just felt awkward and was like, “Sooo… ?”  He laughed again and said, “Do you want to be my wife?”  I just kind of nodded and smiled like crazy and said yes about a million times, then had to get offline.  I was getting ready for a performance (I’m an actor), and told my costars, “I… I think I just got engaged.”  That was February 3rd of this year.

Fast forward to June, about a month ago… I flew into Norway, and after a few weeks we started to look at rings.  I was really in a hurry to get one, and he was pretty hesitant.  I think that’s because it became “real” then.  We got into a couple arguments about this, and even talked about calling the whole thing off.  Well, we made up, he let me drag him to exactly 12 stores, and ended up buying me the most gorgeous ring from a Norwegian silversmith.  I just put the bag in my purse, and he asked me if I was going to put it on… I said, “nope, you have to give it to me.”  Later that night, we were sitting on th couch relaxing after the long journey (3 hours) home.  He asked me where my ring was, then ran to get it out of my purse.  I was laying down, and he layed down next to/half on me with the ring box in hand.  I nugded his knee, and he laughed and put it on the ground.  The he said, “Will you marry me?”  I smiled and put my left hand out, and he slid the ring on.  Then I cried and hugged him and whispered, “We’re engaged for real now.”  πŸ™‚ 

I didn’t get the fancy surprise proposal with the diamond ring, but ever since that night we’ve been in that gooey stage of engagement that we never got in the first place.  And our wedding is in 2.5 months!  So I guess it’s worked out pretty good.

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