Post # 1
I have Bipolar Disorder type II. Stress, good or bad, is worse for me than it is the average person. Throughout the whole planning process I’ve had the occasional stressful moment, E.G. two of my bridesmaids not having their dresses by the deadline and my Maid/Matron of Honor flipping out after finding out she couldn’t stay with me after she TOLD me she was. However, I found as the day got closer and closer the more stress I felt. I went to bed last Wednesday night thinking about all the last minute stuff I had to do, and I tossed and turned and woke up all night thinking about how I was going to accomplish it all. Thursday I woke up shaking, crying, and on the verge of a panic attack. My Darling Husband has taken over the rest of the planning, and I’m not allowed to do anything else except get my hair and nails done.
I realize because of my illness my reaction may be more extreme than others, that is if anyone else has been in a similar situation, but because of it I’m not happy about the wedding. I’m relieved it’s almost here because it’s nearly over. I’m more excited about our honeymoon because we didn’t have to plan it.
Am I the odd man out, or can anyone else relate?
Post # 3
First of all, massive hugs – I know how difficult it can be sometimes. I’ve not been as bad, but I suffer from manic depression and some of the wedding planning has kicked small episodes off (though fortunately nothing so bad, and I’ve not had problems with people in the wedding at all.)
While I’m still happy with the wedding – at the end of the day, as long as I’m married, then it all went well 🙂 I hate wedding planning with a passion. I feel really out of the loop with it all, as everyone seems to LOVE it.
One of my married friends said the other day ‘the best thing about being married, is not having to plan a wedding.’ I couldn’t agree more.
I think it’s amazing that your Darling Husband has taken over, give him massive hugs from me 😀
Post # 4
I’m feeling excited but as happy as I should be about my wedding. Family drama has definitely dampened my excitement.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I can only imagine how you feel. I’m sure when the day arrives, you’ll be an excited and happy bride. And, your Darling Husband is so sweet to have taken over for you. You’re a lucky gal!
Post # 5
Honestly I couldn’t wait for my wedding to be over and go on my honeymoon. Don’t get me wrong the day was great but I HATED planning it all. So I can sympathize with you, it’s a lot of pressure for one day! Once the day actualy happened I felt like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. Not everyone enjoys planning a wedding 🙂
Post # 6
I was so ready for the planning to be over. I had a great time at my wedding, and the events leading up to it, but I’m glad I don’t have a long list of things to worry about every day!
Post # 7
Any stress situation is enough to send me into a tailspin too – I see a psychiatric nurse tomorrow to see if I am bipolar or not (really think I am). And it’s great your Fiance is taking over. Enjoy these last few days!
Just one thing that is causing me to stress this week. FIL gave us our wedding check, early, so we can get a new place. MOB found out the amount, and is now insisting that she can’t cover any more costs, and we need to use FIL’s money instead. Which was NOT the plan. Ugh.
Post # 8
I’m happy for the wedding but I HATE planning. It gives me massive anxiety because i am obsessive compulsive and a perfectionist. *hugs*
Post # 9
Wedding planning is SO not fun for me, i wish we eloped and had gone and blown our money on a spendy honeymoon….
Post # 10
@MrsArchitect: I have to agree with this, I am looking forward to it all being over so that we can go back to our normal life and look forward t oour honeymoon!
Post # 11
Honeymoon all the way! Gosh what could have done on holiday with the wedding money…lol a girl can dream!
Post # 12
Oops did that back to front!
Post # 13
@Pikachu42: Sending you love and hugs. I hope this all worked out for the best. I also have Bipolar II and had one of the worst manic episodes last night. I went as far as to call off my wedding. After waking up to the self destruction and mess I had made I’m trying to put the pieces back together slowly, hoping he can forgive me (again)… and am going back on meds. It’s not easy to deal with but you’re not the only one and honestly I think you handled things much better than I have been. Good luck with everything xoxo Thank you for this post it helped me not feel alone in this either.
Post # 14
I am prone to anxiety and am most certainly excited for what little planning we have to do to be over and just enjoy our DW! I woke up in the middle of the night the other night with what I told Fiance was “Bride Anxiety”. 😛
Hang in there, it will be ok!
Post # 15
@Pikachu42: I am having a weddingmoon, and I am very excited! That’s because I don’t have to plan or be stressed – I just have to pack and get on a plane (okay, I’m terrified of planes and hate packing, but let’s not go there, lol).
I can totally understand how you feel though – I am a stress case. When we first got engaged, we were all set to do a wedding here. Based on my stress levels early on in the process, Fiance suggested a weddingmoon and I was SO happy to oblige. Two week honeymoon? I’m so down.