Post # 1
Ok I just got married in October 20th and several days later I found out that I was preggo. I am a planner and this suprised me! Knocked me over. Im 40, never been pregnant, and had been of the pill for a year prior. Got on the pill several weeks before the wedding to delay the next period. Im getting better now but Im sorry to admitt that at first I really wasnt happy. I felt a little disappointed because I know I have control issues and this was not planned.
Post # 3
TBH yes. everyone i know had trouble getting pregnant. EVERyonE. i figured that because everyone else took a while then so would i… i thought that i would have a year until i was pregnant. and that i would be able to do a lot in that year. I had time. and then BAMB! up the duff first try. Im not saying im not greatful, i am! very! but i didnt expect it to happen so quick. and that scared me. I am absolutly greatful. and blessed to be having a baby and blessed to have fallen pregnant on our first go. But i still felt a bit sad that it wasnt to plan. I am over it now. but yes at first, that is how i felt.
Post # 4
me im afraid to say. I even posted on here about the timing being really baqd bfore i tested and then updated with a damn im pregnant post!
It took me a while to come to terms with it and weeks of putting on a smile and pretending to be ok to friends and family who were genuinly excited but i am please to say im over it. When you see that little baby on the ultrasound things change and now im petrified of something going wrong. life likes to test us all in different ways, this was mine.
Post # 5
Congrats to OP. I have never been in the situation but I guess things will turn out all right in the end 🙂
Post # 6
Honestly, yes. I cried for days after finding out I was pregnant. It wasn’t planned and I wasn’t ready. In the end everything has worked out just fine. I had some detachment problems for several months, but that has gone away. I hope that you find some comfort in this and everything turns out ok!
Post # 7
I was very freaked out when I found out I was pregnant back in ’03. Darling Husband (then BF) and I were only 21 and 24, and had only been dating for 3 years… we were in a LDR, he was still in school, and I was supporting my mother and my sister (both were capable of working, they just like living off assistance). Once the initial shock wore off, we were both very excited, though…
Hang in there! And, congrats!
Post # 8
I know where you are coming from! MY husband and I were NTNTC after our wedding, but as we are “older” (32) and a LOT of my friends have had trouble TTC, I reallllly thought we’d have at least 6 months of trying before anything happened. I mean, I wasn’t charting or anything. Plus, we’ve been guilty of not always being super careful in the past (before we got married) and I’ve never even had so much as a day-late period, so I think secretly in the back of my mind, I thought we would have a lot of trouble conceiving.
Guess I was wrong! First month NOT trying, and….late period, postive tests. We both just moved cross country, started new jobs, and got married in Sept. And although we definitely wanted to start trying this early summer (in my head, I thought it would be perfect to conceive in June to deliver in March-April of the next year which works perfectly with my work schedule), I did not think it would happen immediately, and I’ve been a little freaked out.
But…overall, I’m not sad or upset…just shocked! Our familes are going to be shocked, too. But we’re lucky that financially and relationship-wise, we’re in a good place to have a baby. And my husband is literally the best with kids ever–and he’s really good at doing stuff around the house and has a great job, etc. etc. So it’s really just ME that needs to wrap my head around this. =)
Post # 9
Like some of the PP’s, I thought it would take a while to get pregnant, so we actually started “trying,” or more like NTNT because we didn’t try very hard, a few months earlier than planned. Imagine my shock when it worked our second month trying, when we’d only had sex once anywhere near my fertile window. Well, it’s true, it only takes that one time.
I held it together all day after getting my BFP but I lost it and started crying when I told Darling Husband. I wanted to go to this festival and drink beer one last time, I didn’t want to share my birth month with my kid. I posted about the bad timing, got some crap about it from the long time TTC’ers and then I felt bad. The things that initially bothered me seem silly now. I really am very lucky. The excitement does come with time!
Post # 10
@iheartnerds: I actually don’t think the things you are sad about are silly at all! I cried yesterday because we have/had a big international trip planned for this July and now it looks like I won’t be flying to any countries without safe water this July after all. I was REALLY upset yesterday when I realized now the trip is off. I mean…I bawled. Combination of disappointment and hormones maybe? But I totally get it.
Post # 11
BookGirrl yep this, Darling Husband and i wanted to travel before getting pregnant. Ooops.