(Closed) Anyone else not have “THE” feeling..?

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I never cried or anything, but I did genuinely love the way I looked in the dress I chose. It wasn’t like “OMG MY SOULMATE GARMENT”, but I did feel like a million bucks in it and everyone who was with me loved it too. 

Post # 4
2893 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t get emotional attachments to clothing. Yeah, my dress is rocking and I’ll be drop dead sexy in it and that’s one of the reasons I love it. But I never had an “Oh, it’s the one!” moment. I bought a dress that met everything I was looking for, made me look good, was unique, in my price range. Zero regrets. Don’t buy another dress simply because you didn’t cry in the 1st. Crying isn’t a requirement or indicator that it’s the one (though it frequently is an indicator). And I’m really only saying that after my experience and after reading so many stories here about bees who found a dress that made them cry but now they have regrets. Don’t worry. If you love it, I’m sure it’s beautiful.

Post # 5
609 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@PoeticDoveInLA:  I’m actually glad you said that because I didn’t have that emotional “OMG, this is THE dress” moment. I bought my dress after my 2nd visit to a bridal boutique. During my first visit, I took one of my closest friends, fell in love with one dress, thought it was “the one” but slept on it and didn’t feel the same way about it the following morning…The next visit to a totally different store, i took my sister with me. She’s someone i really trust and HATES lace (and I love it)…I tried on about 5 gowns and I stepped into one that was very me. My sister told me how beautiful it was. I couldn’t get myself to buy it because I felt like i needed to have this crazy surge of emotions if that were to be my dress. i slept on it and couldn’t stop thinking about the dress the next day and the next…I knew then that was the one and went ahead to purchase it…I figured that THAT, along with how my sister smiled (for someone who cringes at the sight of lace) when she saw me in it, was enough of an assurance…i wouldn’t worry about not having that feeling. It’s been 2 weeks since I ordered my dress and I still get excited thinking about it! I think if you had one very trustworthy and honest person with you during your dress-shopping and you still love it, that’s the one! 🙂 And congratulations! I’m getting married in December, too!!!

Post # 6
4 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

I didn’t have that feeling, either!  I bought the second dress I tried on at the first place I went to.  After buying it, I was really nervous that I shouldn’t have bought the dress without THE feeling.  I kind of felt like I just went with what my mom, my sister, and the sales lady were telling me.  Over time, though, I realized that I really do like the dress.  I still don’t get the, “Holy crap, I’m a bride!”  feeling, but I do like it and I’ll be proud to wear it.  To make up for my uncertainty about the dress, I made sure to find shoes I really really liked.  Smile

Plus, I think the thought of dropping that much money on a piece of clothing freaked me out and prevented me from the happy daze that i feel like most people have.

Post # 7
2822 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I love my dress, its gorgeous & I love the way it looks on me. Did I cry? Nope, but I know its the one. I’m not really an emotional person so I knew I wouldn’t cry when I found the one. So don’t get worried about getting the “OMG” feeling, as long as you love it thats all that matters and not everyone reacts the same.

Post # 8
444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I didn’t have that feeling either but I love it anyway, it is the perfect blank canvas for me to work with at a great price!  I knew I was going to alter my dress and make it custom even when I went shopping but I didn’t expect to find one with the perfect elements and ease of workability as I found in my dress (plus it was only $200!  SCORE!!!!) ;D

Post # 9
1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I didn’t cry at all either. I love my dress but I didnt have that moment and didnt expect to have it either lol

Post # 10
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

I deff did not have that feeling! My dress is amazing and I freakin’ love it, but there was no “OMG feeling” when I bought it. I tried on a million dresses and honestly I was just happy/relieved I finally found one that I felt like “me” in!

Post # 11
64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I tried on 5 dresses at two different places, looked up hundreds of dresses online and was always like “meh.”  I watched every episode of “Say Yes to the Dress” on Netflix and was getting nervous that I would never find a dress that I loved and made me cry.  I also recently gained 40 pounds, so I hate how I look in sleeveless white dresses 🙁

But in January, I was like “I’m buying a dress this weekend!  No matter what!”  I tried on 4 more dresses.  The first one I tried on made my waist look really small, and when I saw it in the mirror I got that “MINE!” feeling I get when I see a cute pair of shoes or a cute top in a store and I can’t leave without it.  I was not possessive over the other 3, so even though I didn’t cry, that’s how I knew it was “the one.”

You said you love this new dress, isn’t that enough?

Post # 12
1645 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I never got that feeling either. I went shopping a few times, tried on dozens of dresses. I don’t get attached to clothing or shoes at all, so I didn’t really expect to have the “OMG it’s the one” moment, tears or not. I ended up with a few favorites that I tried on over two more trips, and picked the one that I didn’t want to take off. It was very unemotional and a very thought out decision. Even on my wedding day, I knew and felt that I looked amazing, but it wasn’t about the dress.

If you are the type of person who usually gets that feeling about other clothing purchases, than I’d keep looking. If not, then I’d get some oppinions of people who you really trust and who will be positive but honest, and see what they say.

Post # 13
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I definitely didn’t get “the” feeling. It was more of an ‘eh, okay. I like it, everyone else likes it, sure why not’ feeling. I definitely had dress regret, but when MY dress came in, and when they put the veil on me I totally got emotional, aaaaaand then my dad had to criticize my dress (he missed the original dress selection process) womp womp womp.

Don’t worry about not getting emotional over a dress. All that matters is you look and feel good in it!

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