(Closed) Anyone else not having a traditional wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 16
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Sugar bee

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faina9286 :  Do you know where you will go in CO? Just curious -I live in Colorado Springs! 

Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Eldorado Canyon State Park

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mrsaime :  I’m actually not sure yet! I believe the paperwork has to be picked up and filed in Denver, and that’s where we’ll be flying in/out of anyway, but it’s looking like we’ll get the papers on a Friday, marry over the weekend, and then be back in Denver to drop them off/fly out on Monday, so we have a bit of freedom to drive somewhere neat in the meantime to do the “ceremony.” Any suggestions??? We went out Colorado Springs way a few years ago and it was very pretty, but a lot of the sites were also so crowded I’m not sure we could have any privacy. You know of any hidden gems? 🙂

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

We’re having a beach BBQ wedding in Greece with just 20 guests (family and close friends). No speeches because we don’t want to make them and most people don’t want to listen to them. It’ll be very informal and chilled out, just good food, drinking and dancing on the beach with our favourite people.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - State Park

My brother tried to do a very private wedding because, and I quote, “I dont want anybody looking at me while I’m getting married.” They wound up compromising massively as family came out of the woodwork demanding to be there. Ultimately about 20 people at the ceremony and then a bigger reception with probably 75 people. 

I am now engaged and I also do not want anybody looking at me while I’m getting married. I also have zero interest in spending the money typically involved in a wedding. It took a week of trying to plan before I realized that I might actually die if someone ever asked me my wedding colors.

We will have 11 guests at a state park for the ceremony which will be about 15 minutes max – no chairs, no decorations (it’s a park! in July! What else do you need to look at!?), and one of our 11 guests is our officiant. After the ceremony it’s about a 20 minute drive back to our house for a pizza/pool party. (Catered by our favorite more-gourmet type pizza place, not dominoes). If it rains, there are structures to stand under at the park, and though our house is small we can accommodate 11 for pizza. 

I still get to wear a white dress and have cake and get married to my favorite person. Our day-of only expenses (so not including the rings and other things that are with us forever), should be just around $1000. 

I don’t feel like I’m missing out on a wedding in any way. We’re keeping the guest list under control and not allowing people to insert themselves into the wedding by not letting anyone know when we’re getting married and our parents have agreed to not tell extended family that we’re even engaged. 

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Newbee

I am a total introvert, so a big wedding was not for me. We were going to elope, but I got guilt tripped by Future Mother-In-Law. So, we are having a small ceremony (15 people attending), on a Monday, at our favorite winery, during normal business hours. We reserved a loft, and we’ll have lunch together (brisket and fixings) and then everyone will go on about their business. No dancing, no bridal party. (: Good luck!

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

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alllllz :  We got married a couple weeks ago at our favorite park, no guests, just the two of us, an officiant and photographer. We were planning a big wedding for over a year, had everything booked and even sent out save the dates. Then due to unfortunate circumstances, we decided to get married asap and cancelled the our September wedding. No regrets. It was absolutely perfect. 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

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alllllz : I had a very low key wedding/wedding process. The only thing that was straight up traditional was my bridal shower. I don’t like being the center of attention and knew I would just not enjoy the wedding/wedding process if I did it a more traditional way. I didn’t want to go to the court house either though. 

No engagement party. My bach was a baseball game. Destination wedding. Did not go the garter toss/bouquet toss. No speeches.

I would suggest, just do you. Do what makes you happy. At the end of the day, the wedding is about the couple, and their marriage. 

As far as the tattoo rings, the few friends I knew that did it, went either after their receptions to the tattoo parlor, in their wedding clothes, or went the next day. One girl I know got tattooed at her wedding, but her husband was the artist and it wasn’t rings. However, almost all of them said they wished they had waited until they got back from their honeymoons to do it. 

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Sugar bee

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faina9286 :   Of course I know hidden gems!!! I’m not super familiar with Denver, but if you drive west into the mountains, Breckenridge or Vail are only a few hours away. There’s a gondola “ride” that’s free. It stops at different resorts, and goes up to the top of the mountain to a kid’s fun park. You can ride on it the whole way, up and back. It would be cool to do something while you’re riding along. Just make sure you’re not getting close to another stop, because the doors will automatically open and a guide will check to see if you’re getting off or still going-that could be a little intrusive!! lol

In Vail, there’s a nice “mountain botanical garden”. You’ll run into people there, but there’s plenty of curves, bends, and little spots to “hide” for a few minutes.

In Colorado Springs, there’s Red Rock Open Space with tons of trails. Even on a busy weekend, you only come across other people every 5-10 minutes. My favorite trail there is the “contemplative trail” (look at the map when you get there), it goes to the right of the parking lot. Several handmade wooden benches along the way to stop, admire the view, and saw some vows!! I’d also recommend Bear Creek Park. But to stay away from the busy area, put the address for their nature center into your GPS. There are several trails that are more private over that way. My favorite is to the right of the nature center. A stream runs along there. If you want more privacy, veer to the left after the nature center and start taking a trail that goes up a little bit. It’ll wind around, and you’ll come back to that same stream with tons of trees, rocks to sit on, etc. I love that spot-so peaceful!!!

I hope this gives you a start!! Let me know if you need more ideas too!

Post # 26
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Eldorado Canyon State Park

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mrsaime :  That is sooooo helpful, thank you!!! You are my hero!

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Sugar bee

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faina9286 :  Feel free to private message me if you have more questions!!

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