(Closed) Anyone else not having a wedding party?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

We’re not having any guests. I have never wanted anyone to be at my wedding and feel like I would not enjoy it or the planning if I had to worry about other people. I am so excited to get married! We have picked the venue and get to decorate, have the champagne, have the photos, have a small cake with a topper, have a “reception” (meal) just for us, music, everything I’ve ever dreamed of but without the guests. I don’t feel like I’m missing out. I feel like the way we are doing it is going to be perfect for us.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I had seven bridesmaids in my first wedding. For this marriage, my Maid/Matron of Honor from my first wedding has been upgraded to officiant 🙂 Other than that, we’re only having immediate family, so no official bridal party. I am much happier this way, personally, though I will probably only be having a work shower (totally fine with me), and am still having a girls weekend with my close friends (that I’m planning with some help). 

I attended one large wedding with no bridal party, and it seemed fine. You can do what feels right for you both as long as you don’t mind if you either miss out on some of the traditional things like showers/bachelorette, or feel comfortable planning those yourself. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

We’re not having a wedding party, and so far it seems like a huge chunk of stressful planning we have successfully avoided. I’ll be inviting a handful of my closest friends to get ready with me, and so will FH, and the help we have received just feels more like good will than an obligation.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We didn’t have a wedding party. Best decision ever! My brother and my husband’s best friend acted as our witnesses. Both of us ended up having bachelor/bachelorette weekends thrown for us by our very awesome friends despite our protests. We did not register, so I don’t feel like we missed out on anything by not having a bridal shower. And the morning of the wedding, I invited many of my best friends (those who flew in from out of town and couldn’t be at the bachelorette party) over for a getting-ready brunch, which was a wonderful time.

Planning was so much easier without having to coordinate a bunch of people or give orders. My friends all looked fabulous because they got to dress themselves, lol, and I think they all had a lot more fun at the wedding. Plus, they also still took great care of me (helped me bustle my dress, fixed my hair once or twice, brought me a glass of wine while I was waiting to walk down the aisle, etc), just without all the pressure of having to do so. 

I definitely don’t feel like we missed out. If anything, we gained a more relaxed atmosphere while planning our wedding and on the wedding day itself, and our friends were pretty grateful to be off the hook. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

We started off with no wedding party, but had an “unofficial” maid of honor (my best friend) and best man (his best friend). We decided to have them stand with us. The reason for this was sentimental, but also for logistics–someone has to hold the rings, my bouquet, and our vow books, after all. LOL

But I do feel it has avoided a big chunk of additional planning, not to mention the drama that comes with putting other people into the mix. I don’t regret it so far! Not a bit. 🙂

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We had our sibling as our best man and Maid/Matron of Honor. No wedding party was the best decision we ever made. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

No wedding party here either and I’m loving it! Lots of stress I don’t have to worry about. We’re having about 120 people at our wedding.

Post # 10
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893 posts
Busy bee

We aren’t having one (unless you count my bridesdog – lol). We are getting married in 28 days. I found it easier not to have to worry about coordinating another whole set of people.

Post # 11
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Busy bee

I should add – I still had a bridal shower (actually two!) and my Fiance still had a stag. We are also having a tiny wedding and I still don’t feel like I missed out on anything. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee

I’m not having one. My brother is standing as my bridesman/bestman. My fiancé will have his bestfriend as his best man. To my future MIL/SIL’s dismay, I decided that the only people opinions that matter on the wedding day are the bride and groom

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel

I am not having a wedding party, I don’t think I’ve misse dout on anything.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We are not having a wedding party.  We originally were going to, but the groomsmen created a huge amount of drama over who my fiance picked as the best man, so we decided to just cancel the whole bridal party. We aren’t interested in including any drama queens in our wedding. It was a good lesson though, weddings really make you realize who your true friends are.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

We aren’t having a wedding party, either. We didn’t want the stress. And call me selfish, but the only people I want at the altar are my fiancé and myself! But I’ve always been very anti-traditional anything, especially when it comes to weddings. I think most of the traditions are tacky. 

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