Post # 1
I just texted Mr. S and asked if he cared about having a wedding party and could we maybe just use some of the kids instead and he said that sounded great!! Yay!!
The thought of having to choose either one person or draw the line at X number and coordinate colours and fittings and blah blah blah just really did not appeal to me. I’ll be just thrilled to have everyone there, and they have all played different roles in my life so they all should have equal billing, and I’ll honour all my friends somehow during the night. Woohoo!!!
Post # 3
Sounds like it’s going to work nicely for you. Glad you and your Fiance agree on that!
Post # 4
We aren’t having a bridal party either – it was one of the very first decisions we made.
I do wonder if it’s going to seem weird to everyone at the wedding, but I feel like it was the best thing for us. We didn’t have to pick wedding colors and won’t have to make a big deal about everyone’s schedule before/during the wedding.
Plus, we feel like it will make it possible for everyone we care about to enjoy themselves w/o any obligations.
Post # 5
Ha, I had given up on this thread and just clicked on September and found it updated!
You know, it has really been a great decision for us – no colours, fittings, no gifts and extras so that money can go towards everyone although I will have pics with my best girls. I’m not fussed if I have no shower or anything else like that, and yes, the big thing for me is that I’m not going to have expectations of anyone and then they wont feel pressured about anything and can enjoy.
My oldest great friend thinks it’s a great idea, she’s still coming to bridal shows and dress shopping with me, I haven’t told my other friend yet, hoping to tell her this weekend. She might be put out but in the end it’s best, I think we might clash on some things and I don’t want to go through that. My SIL (who had me in her BP) was okay with it, but my Mom had a fit in the middle of the bridal show we were at the other day. An absolute cow. Too bad. I genuinely have no idea why this caused that reaction in my Mom?!
My Dad thought it was weird and isn’t a fan but right said it was my decision and he’s sure it’ll all be fine, I appreciated that.
We’ll see how it goes!
Thanks for sharing @MistyLuv79: I hope it goes well for you too – you’re up first so I’ll be curious to hear about that.
Post # 6
I have seriously been debating not doing a bridal party….I guess it’s just tradition (and I’m very traditional) but it seems like it can make things somewhat of a circus! I would probably just do a Maid/Matron of Honor and best man, but I know this is something my SO really wants. He has a lot of really close friends and family so I alreaaaaddyyyy know my wedding party is gonna end up being like 20 people :-0 I guess I have to let the man have something!! lol
Post # 7
We ARE having a bridal party but no flower girls, ring bearers, etc, mainly because our wedding is a kid-free event!
Post # 8
After the experience I’ve been having with my friend, I am seriously thinking of not having a bridal party when I get married….
Post # 9
We’re just having a Maid/Matron of Honor (my sister) and a Best Man (his brother). They can wear whatever they want as long as it’s some shade of blue, and they don’t have to do anything except show up to the wedding. The thought of a giant bridal party makes me exhausted!
Post # 10
we have a total of two people, one for me and one for him. Simplicity works for us as well! 🙂
Post # 11
My good friend didn’t have a wedding party. Their parents walked in and she had two flower girls and her younger brother. I thought it was beautiful and didn’t feel like the wedding was missing anything! Good luck!
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
We’re having 2 attendants each. It’s nice in some ways (fewer people to deal with), but difficult when it comes to wanting/needing to rely on other people to go dress shopping with you, go to fitting, go to tastings, host your bachelorette party, etc. I think it’s easy to not think about those things until it’s too late and you are reminded that the attendants do things.
Post # 13
We are just having Maid/Matron of Honor & Bridesmaid or Best Man. It seems to have eliminated a lot of drama..
Post # 14
I mentioned this to a girl at work yesterday and she no kidding almost fell down in shock lol!
Even as she was walking away I could tell by her expression that she couldn’t wrap her head around it. She asked what my friends reaction to this was, and honestly they were like “so we just have to show up and have a great time?” “yep” “woohoo, but let me know what I can do to help”.
And it’s been just that way, people have still been offering to help with things but really, there’s nothing for them to do except listen to me babble and chime in with opinions when I ask for them.
I will ask my Godmother to be my witness, and Mr. S will ask either his Step Dad (no real Dad in picture) or an old friend. I think this is an awesome way to honour my Godmother so I’m really happy this is a side benefit.
My Godson will be a ring bearer and I asked my cousin’s two girls (coming over from Ireland for the wedding) to be flowergirls just to make them feel special, but they don’t need a specific dress or anything, just need to trot out with some paper flower bouquets I’m making for them lol!