(Closed) Anyone else not into the whole baby thing?

posted 9 years ago in Babies
Post # 17
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Bumble bee

First of all, I love your cat.

 

Secondly, I’m 24 and I don’t want kids at all. I want to spoil nieces and nephews and my friends’ babies, but I’m just never going to be able to handle a child. I know it. But I want furbabies! A cat and a dog at all times. People tell me I will change my mind, but I too often see things like your story and know that I don’t.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

 I’m not reallyinto the whole ‘cat’ thing but your cat is adorable!!!

Post # 19
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Sugar bee

I’m 22 and I want kids.  However, that lady needs a wake-up call if she wants to ever better her life.  I hate entitlement, it’s usually the worst with the affluent and the law, but the poor who make crappy life decisions are just as guilty of it.  Honestly, my fiance and I are not prepared yet.  We extended our engagement to be certain we’re ready for marriage and children on the day we say I do.  He needs a full time job, with benefits, we need to have a place that isn’t so ghetto (I have renter’s insurance for a reason and the cops patrol hourly for a reason in my complex).  I just want a better situation overall.  However, I’m not waiting until I have purchased a “starter” home.  We both want to buy a forever home and that requires in our opinion atleast 30% downpayment on the mortgage, I think we can save and have a kid at the same time (which I know I’ll get flack for).  Luckily, my Fiance is in a field where he’ll be paid well and I’ll be able to SAH with my kid until they’re old enough; I’m in a field where I get to do seasonal work so I can earn income that way.

Post # 20
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Sugar bee

Also, I love that your cat looks like a lion!  I have three kitty babies, and they get spoiled so much!

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Yeah, I’m not so much a kid fan, myself, either.

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

@UpstateCait: I can’t believe the nerve of her.  I hate it when people don’t take responsibility for themselves (and their kids).

Post # 23
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@UpstateCait: judgemental much? What does food stamps have anything to do with not wanting babies?

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@CaitMarae- I don’t understand that while you don’t like kids at all you want to be a Stay-At-Home Mom. Why would you want to stay home with kids when it seems like every child annoys you?

I personally can’t wait to have children. I do think it’s smart to be more financially secure and our goal is to do that first but I would like to have a baby soon. I’m young too and just graduating in May before our wedding so I at least want to work 1 full year before children since we want me to stay home with them. I understand some women don’t want children and have other goals but for me I just can’t imagine not having any.

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@UpstateCait: LMAO CHRISTMAS SHOES!!! LMAO!!!

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

oh and to answer the question, i am NOT a kid person, dont want them, dont like them really either. my FH is the same way. a week after the honeymoon we were like hmmm who’s getting the operation – no kids for us!

but each to their own. mind you if by some miracle a little swimmer got past all my BC preventative measures, i really dont feel like im ready for a child – im 29 mind you. we live in an apt, i still have a lil bit of CC debt and we both work crazy hours.

so no baby for us, not now and hopefully never.

Post # 28
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Sugar bee

@Miss Tattoo:  I think she’s trying to illustrate why she wouldn’t want children, she wouldn’t want to be a mother who puts her children through that.

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’m 22 and at least ten years off from having children.  Right now I only have minimal tolerance of them, and I still have way too many career and other life objectives to achieve before then.  FI will just barely be out of his Ph.D. program by ten years from now and I may be in the midst of one.  Two graduate  students simply don’t have the financial or emotional resources to care for a kid.  So it’s not happening before then, for sure.  Neither of FI’s parents finished graduate school because they up and decided they wanted to have a baby in the middle of their programs and never got around to finishing…yeah, I don’t want that to happen to us, at all.

Post # 31
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Miss Tattoo:  Can’t pay for your own groceries=stop popping out babies you can’t afford! 

ETA: Should say this was in response to your question about the food stamps and not wanting to have kids…not telling you to stop popping out children 😉  I think the OP was trying to say that kids are a financial responsibility and obviously, the woman at the grocery store was, indeed, not financially responsible.  I had a friend on food stamps, some other friends collecting unemployment, etc.  This economy sucks, so yeah, assistance is sometimes needed, but the story the OP told was just ridiculous.

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