(Closed) Anyone else NOT letting him see you in the dress until the ceremony?

posted 12 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Will you let him see you in the dress at any time before the ceremony?

    Yes! We have pics to take, etc.

    No! That would ruin the element of surprise!

    Don't know.

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  • Post # 17
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2010 - Marie Gabrielle, Dallas

    Although it’s sitting in my closet, he will not see it until our wedding day.  We are doing a first look, so he’ll see it before the ceremony, but only a couple hours before.

    Post # 18
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    We live together, and I asked for his input on my dress when I was shopping. We’ll be getting ready together 🙂

    Post # 19
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I really really want that initial look coming down the aisle! I don’t think its for everyone but its definitely a moment I want.

    Post # 20
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2021 - Oakland Manor

    We did not see each other before the ceremony, but I wish we had. It would have been way more practical given our timeline.  In the end, it wasn’t as dramatic as I had thought it would be. Though, he sure looked cute at the end of the aisle!

    Post # 21
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Im in the same pinch as some other brides.

    I know its traditional for the groom not to see the bride until the ceremony BUT my hubby and i can not afford to have a cocktail hour after the ceremony so that we can take pics. 🙁

    So I think that we may have to take pictures before in order to save money.

     

    any tips to get around this?? haha

    Post # 22
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    If I even MENTION dresses, Fiance doesn’t want to have anything to do with it. He doesn’t even want me talking about it! He’s so traditional, I love it. Adorable.

    But all that being said, I’m really excited about the whole moment walking down the aisle and seeing him waiting for me!! We’re both really traditional, I just like to give my Fiance a hard time about it.

    Post # 23
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2010 - Wyndham Sugar Bay Resort, St. Thomas

    We’re a little non-traditional and he’s already seen me in my dress. I couldn’t wait to show him. We figure, get the tears out of the way now so there are fewer during that first moment walking down the aisle, although I really don’t think it’ll help cause we’re both babies when it comes to romance!

    Post # 24
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    We’re doing pictures before the ceremony, I want to be there for cocktail hour, and I want our bridal party to enjoy it too. Also, I like how the “first look” makes it kind of a private moment.

    Post # 25
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    Busy bee

    I’m not overly traditional or superstitous but in this we’re going the old fashioned route – spending the night apart and not seeing each other until I start walking down the aisle, at 4pm the next day. He hasn’t seen my dress although thanks to his mother who keeps talking about it in front of him (that’s another vent for another day) he would have some idea. Not that it’s particularly unusual at all, it’s not like I’m trying to keep a big secret like it’s red from him. He has seen my jewellery bc it belongs to his mother, but hasn’t even seen my shoes.I have my veil hanging up from the window frame in my study at home and I’m sure he’s noticed it, but he hasn’t said a word. I’m looking forward to him seeing it, I think it will be a special moment (which it would be at any time of day). My sister’s husband saw her dress and immediately forgot everything about it.

    Post # 26
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    Helper bee

    He doesn’t want to see me until i walk down the aisle! I would go for taking pictures first, but I don’t want to take away his moment!

    Post # 27
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    He doesn’t want to see it or me in it and I don’t want him to either!! 🙂

    although I have seen beautiful “first look” photos

    Post # 28
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    He doesn’t want to know anything about it or see it until the ceremony. It’s a pretty big tradition over here in the UK to not see each other until the ceremony. First looks aren’t unheard of but it’s really not caught on here yet!

    Post # 29
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We are doing the “first look” thing.  I don’t want to feel rushed and I want to have a lot of time to get pictures done before the ceremony starts.  I also don’t want to miss my cocktail hour that starts right after the ceremony.

    Post # 30
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Timing is deciding this for us – 6pm wedding means if we wait to take pictures after our ceremony, our guests will be starving! 

    I was upset about it at first because I had always thought about it being down the aisle, but I think this works better for us. Fiance isn’t the type to show tons of emotion and I don’t want to be a wreck going down the aisle, so I’m glad we’ll have a moment to ourselves before the excitement of the ceremony.

    Post # 31
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I really wanted to do a first look due to lack of time for pictures but he absolutely refused to do it. He didn’t want to see me in my dress until I was walking down the aisle. That is pretty much the only request he made during the whole wedding planning process so I honored his wishes and the first time he saw me was at the ceremony. 

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