Post # 1
I actually had a very sweet wedding day, so I realize this is petty in the grand scheme of things…but I made the mistake of hiring a hair/makeup person when I should have done it myself. I didn’t realize how much I disliked it till seeing the photos after the wedding. I hate that I paid someone to make me look bad. And I hate that I didn’t have the sense to fix it on the day (was just too in the moment, happy, etc. and maybe it looked better in person?? I’m not sure what I was thinking lol.). I especially hate that when I look at the photos that’s ALL I can see and I get upset all over again. The fact I’m dwelling on something so silly makes me feel worse.
I think it’s the whole idea that we are supposed to look the “best we’ve ever looked in our lives!” on this day that’s messing with me. When I know my hair and makeup have looked better on random weekends lol. Anyone else experience this? How did you get over the disappointment? And were you able to eventually look at your photos and feel happy about them? I don’t even want to style my hair for any reason anymore because I’ll feel that pang of “oh, this is how you should have worn it.” UGH. I know, ridiculous.
I know I can’t go back and change things, but I’m hoping someone figured out a remedy for these feelings…thanks bees 🙂
Post # 2
teeleigh : Do you have pics? Sometimes we are much harder on ourselves than needs to be. I’m sure they were great.
Post # 3
I feel you. I HATED my hair and makeup. It was NOTHING that I wanted.
My makeup was so horrible that 2 hours before my wedding I took it all off and ran to Sephora for them to redo it.
I’m still trying to get past everything, but I’m still struggling, especially since some friends are getting thier pictures back from their weddings and I can’t help but to feel envious. I’ve even deleted my “hairstylist” off every social media platform because I can’t help but be bitter.
All in all, it was still the greatest day of my life!
And as VictorianChick : said, we are usually WAY harder on ourselves. I’m sure you looked DROP DEAD GORGEOUS! <3
Post # 4
I did my own makeup for this very reason! I was afraid of what someone else would do… A few years ago I worked at a makeup counter and they hired me with zero experience. Of course I did my own makeup and knew a bit about the products, but just like with photographers, there are a lot of “makeup artists” out there who don’t really know what they’re doing.
can your photographer retouch a handful of your favorite photos? You can also download a two week trial of Photoshop for free I think if you want to try to do it yourself…
Post # 5
I don’t care for how I looked either, but it was still the best day of my life 🙂 I’ve since realized what works and doesn’t work for me. I think we get better with age, really.
Post # 6
teeleigh : OMG I COULDNT HAVE WRITTEN THIS! i did my own makeup, but paid a butt load for hair stylists to come to the venue. the bridemaid’s hair all looked a mess and their updos fell out 5 mins after the stylists left. my hair went POUF within 5 mins (it was 90% humidity that day, but the stylist didn’t come equipped with any sort of humidity fighting products). really wish i had just curled my own hair (which i’m certainly capable of doing, but wanted to not have to). ugh, so much money wasted. also, i wish i had gotten a blowout two days before the wedding so i’d have plenty of prodcut in my hair and it would have gotten a bit oily, too to fight the humidity. instead, i washed it the night before as my stylist suggested, and have only very minimal product in it. WHY DID I LISTEN TO HER?!?
Post # 7
I disliked my hair, it looked far more out of date than my trial. But we were already behind schedule and it was more important for me to keep my guests happy than have my hairstylist fix it, so i went with it. And I still cringe looking at the pictures. But overall, it didn’t ruin the day. It was still the most wonderful day…. with bad hair. 🙂
Post # 8
catskillsinjune : lol my stylist also recommended washing my hair the night before and using minimal product. I knew it sounded like really bad advice!
Post # 9
teeleigh : maybe a redo shoot? just you and your hubby? just for a few nice shots to put in your home.
Post # 10
I hated my makeup. I wanted to do my own makeup like I did for the engagement photos and loved those but I was afraid it won’t turn out well.
After I already booked my makeup artist I saw a picture of a bride that she did – the bride looked white as a wall – I’m very white but I’m careful to use makeup that will not wash me out – especially night photos with a flash.
During the trial I told her of my concern that in the photos I don’t want to look very white especially as the photographer will be using flashes at night so she can go a bit darker. (In my sister’s wedding the makeup artist was very heavy handed with the makeup and I thought it was too much but in the photos it worked)
On the day of the wedding – she went darker than what I would have liked (but I had no mirror in front of me so I couldn’t see until the end) and she blended it only until a certain point – so I have photos where you can clearly see white chest and dark neck/face.
I do wonder what would have happened had I not told her to go darker would I have been pleased. My face would have probably matched my body better but I would have looked like a blushing ghost… dunno…
Post # 11
megrays : ugh, and sitting here i know it sounds like terrible advice. but that week before the wedding, it was like everything i knew as a rational human being just went right out the window and i trusted her (i figured she would be putting a shit ton of product in my hair and it would be better if she knew what she was working with, ya know?) ugh, #regrets
Post # 12
teeleigh : I know I am my own worst enemy and have body issues. I actually liked my hair even though I had an updoo. My stylist did it very similar to the trial, which I really liked. But I’m not used to seeing me with my hair up so it’s like I’m looking at a different person in the pictures.
My makeup was fine but it was much darker than what I usually wear, so again, it didn’t feel like “me” in the pictures.
I went with a dress that wasn’t white and it photographed darker than I had anticipated. Part of that was it was freezing and pouring rain so there was really no natural light, yet the photographer tried to keep things more natural by not using a flash or added light.
I also worked out a ton before the wedding and I felt like my arms felt fat. I should have picked a dress with real sleeves instead of spaghetti straps. I found a vintage Amsale dress that I loved after I bought my dress but since my mom paid for it (and since it was second hand it was non refundable) I didn’t want to buy another dress.
I know all those complaints are in my head as not to sound snotty, but I got a lot of compliments that day. My husband said I looked gorgeous and I guess that’s the opinion that counts the most.