Anyone else NOT register?

posted 2 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 16
120 posts
Blushing bee

We’re encouraging people to either not give us a gift or to dontate to a charity that is meaningful to us. However I figured some people really want to get a physical gift, and there are some things in our house that need updating or that we are missing, so I made a smallish registry. However, it’s not big enough for everyone to get something from it and if everything is purchased I probably won’t add more items just for the sake of it. The things that are on the registry were thoughtfully put there and if we get them we’ll pass along the version we already have, so we’re not adding substantially to the amount of stuff in our house. 

Post # 17
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

My FH and I are older and have been on our own a while. We decided no registry and no gifts.

Post # 18
7 posts
  • Wedding: February 2017 - City, State

We didn’t register as we’d lived together for years prior to marriage, we got a few thoughtful gifts which were lovely but mostly money/gift cards which we used on a few larger home items 🙂 

Post # 19
135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: City, State

We didn’t want to register for gifts because 1. we really didnt feel like we needed anything and 2. we have a tiny apartment and have no room until we buy a house which we don’t plan to do until next year. Ultimately, we decided on a very small registry to replace some household items and we got a honeyfund. Unfortunately, they take a percentage of your gifts so I say do whatever you feel is best for you. I have only ever gifted money at weddings because I know that’s what people really want.

Post # 20
753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

We were going to pass on a registry as well as we owned a home (second home for dh) and are pretty nicely settled. Our families hounded us for a registry & we put some basics that needed upgrading, some decor/entertaining items, and some super random things (like chain saw, coolers, etc) that we figured we’d buy ourselves with the completion discount. Everything on our registry ended up bought.

We learned that people like gifting, especially when they know you’ll like it and use it.

Post # 21
1258 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

my first wedding we were young and had nothing so a registry was awesome to start out.

this time around we are keeping things tiny and not doing a registry. we have a house and life together already so we donʻt need “things”. 

Post # 22
2986 posts
Sugar bee

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mrscb2bee :  LOL

We didn’t register because we already had almost everything (I’m an avid cook/baker and I clean all the time so I had everything wen needed). We were gifted a lot of checks which was awesome. We were able to use that for our honeymoon. 

I do know of some people who only register for large ticket items and that way, people will get the hint you don’t need much. And if someone gets you a large ticket item, that’s just a plus! 

Post # 23
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

We decided to setup Newlywed funds on the Knot. We created two – one for our honeymoon and one for buying a house. Note the Knot does charge a 2.5% fee to the gift giver but people can still bring cash or checks to the actual wedding. I didn’t know about the fee when we originally set it up and I am not crazy about that but we already live together and have been on our own for quite some time so we don’t need traditional registry type gifts. As it is we have doubles of most things from when before we moved in together. It is pretty standard where we are to give cash or checks as a gift although a lot of my fiance’s family is coming from out of town so hopefully they don’t get offended with this choice. 

Post # 24
324 posts
Helper bee

Did not register because it’s not in my culture to make a wishlist. Everyone in my family and my same-culture friends are just going to give cash (I give cash at their weddings too) However I’m marrying a white American and I have a feeling Future Mother-In-Law might pressure us into doing a registry for the old fashioned people. I hope we won’t have to.

Post # 25
2268 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

We registered at a lovely department store but only told people who asked. People did ask. Some people like to give gifts and I feel like you need to give them the option.

Post # 26
26 posts
  • Wedding: August 2019 - Kelowna, BC, Canada

Im not having a wedding shower or making a registry. We are having a small casual backyard bbq wedding with 35 guests (only close friends and family) My fiance have been together for over 6 years and we dont need any more house stuff. We are verbally requesting to my friends and some family members to please give cash in lieu of gifts to donate to our honeymoon fund

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