(Closed) Anyone else not sending save the dates?

posted 8 years ago in May 2011
  • poll: Are save the dates nessecary for a small wedding?
    yes : (2 votes)
    5 %
    no : (37 votes)
    95 %
  • Post # 3
    1315 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’m only sending Save-The-Date Cards to those who have to travel to the wedding, so they have time to budget hotel/flight/etc. So that means I’m only doing about ten, really! And I’ll stick them in with their Christmas cards. Everyone else knows what we’re at, so they’ll be fine! I’ll just say it’s a Green decision, haha! Of course, I am happy enough to not waste lots of paper anyway!

    Post # 4
    414 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    i dont think you need to “mail” an actual card for STD

    but at least send an email or call people for small weddings – most people have busy lives so any reminder will help and ensure they block the time to attend your wedding


    Post # 6
    852 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’m in the same boat! I just think it’s a waste of time and money. With all the social networking going on, it’s kind of hard to miss our wedding date anyway, so why bother? If we send our invitations out about 4-6 mo. in advance, it’s basically the same thing anyway.

    Where are you in PA? I grew up outside of Philly, but I moved to NC when I turned 18 and have been here for the past 9 years.

    Post # 7
    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I wasn’t going to send them , either, but I mentioned it in front of my grandmother and she looked absolutely horrified. Depending on how my e-pics come out, I may or may not.

    Post # 8
    359 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    We’re not sending them out – since the guideline for sending invites is 4-6 months before the wedding, I think I will plan to mail them closer to 6 months out to allow for those who need to travel/take time off. There is only about 4 people/families we are inviting from out of state (and one of them, I would rather not invite), but I would think 6 months should be plenty of time for them to make arrangements if they want to come (and another 2 of them would be pretty surprising to see, even with extra notice that S.T.D.s would give). 

    If money/effort/time werent required for Save-The-Date Cards, I would probably do them, but it’s just not worth it to me and the few times my relatives have received Save-The-Date Cards, they all were really confused and some thought that was the invitation 🙂

    Post # 9
    99 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    We’re inviting 200-250 to our wedding, and I’m not sending save the dates. Not worth the time or money, in my opinion.

    Post # 11
    14732 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I wasn’t really planning on sending std’s, but then with the free magnets on vistaprint deal and the cute cherry blossom design i found, I decided to just go ahead and get some.  I got 50 little magnets for about 10 bucks.  Now this buys me a little more time to decide what I want to do with my invites.

    Post # 12
    302 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’m not doing Save-The-Date Cards at all – no mailer, no e-mails, nada. Well, kind of, Future Mother-In-Law sent out an e-mail with our date and FSIL’s wedding date (a month apart) to everyone on their side of the family, since they make up like half our guest list. But with our very limited budget, it just wasn’t something that was worth it to me. Almost all of our guests will be traveling into town, but we’re pretty centrally located for most of them, so I don’t figure we’ll have a lot of people who can’t come just because we didn’t send them.

    Post # 13
    1166 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I disagree that you have to send Save-The-Date Cards, especially if you’re not having a destination wedding and most of your guests are local or within driving distance. I’m having a small (80 people) semi-destination wedding (about two to three hours away for most guests), and I did not send Save-The-Date Cards. Instead, I built a website with lots of info (event details, hotel and airport information, directions and maps, etc.) and sent an email about 7-8 months before the wedding. Since then I’ve sent two more emails (about 6 weeks apart) to remind guests to book hotel rooms and let them know about optional activities. By now I have a very good idea of how many people are coming (because they’ve  booked rooms). The invitations will go out next week – 7 weeks before the wedding – but that’s just a formality to capture all RSVPs and for the handful of elderly relatives who live out of state and have already said they can’t come.

    Post # 14
    16 posts
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I don’t think Save-The-Date Cards are required (although it’s good to get the word out on when your wedding date is to those who you definitely want to be there, so they have time to plan it.)

    The thing that I’ve never understood about Save-The-Date Cards is if you send someone one then you have to invite them to the wedding, so it doesn’t seem to save much time for planning anyway.


    Post # 15
    1046 posts
    Bumble bee

    I didn’t send them because we only had 6 months to plan our wedding, and we weren’t 100% sure our date would be October 16th until three months ago, when it was almost time to send out the invites! IMO they aren’t necessary at all!

    Post # 16
    484 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I also posted on this, they arent a requirement… I think a lot of people use them to display their e-pics and give people a heads up… I was going to send them until my mom had her say that everyone already knows… I didnt feel like even trying to go there with her… and just figured forget it i dont need to spend the extra money anyways… I think if you WANT to send them for fun or you like the idea go for it… if you dont really want to do it for whatever reason its not a big deal.. you can make a website with necessary info and spread it by word of mouth.. .they are a new trend… people made do before them no?

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