(Closed) Anyone else not spending Thanksgiving with their SO? :(

posted 8 years ago in Holidays
Post # 4
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’m not! And it SUCKS. My family is having Thanksgiving (which is about 2 hours away from here), and my wedding shower is also near my parents’ house on Sunday. Fiance is currently studying for a really important professional exam (CFA) and his mom and sister are flying into OUR town (not my parents) on Saturday. So basically the options were: 

A: We both stay here for thanksgiving and drive up for my shower saturday night (which we decided not to do because he wants to spend the weekend studying and can’t really hang out with me anyways… and i dont want to miss thanksgiving with my family or the 2 extra days of wedding-planning time with my mom)

B: We both drive up for Thanksgiving, then he drives back to Columbus Friday so he’s here Saturday to pick up his mom/sister from the airport and then drive them up to the shower Sunday (too much driving and not enough time for him to study)

C: I go up for Thanksgiving and just stay until the shower, he stays here through Thanksgiving to pick up his mom/sister and drives them up on Sunday

It sucks but Option C gives him 2 days totally alone to study which will be really valuable for him in this “crunch time” and it’ll minimize the driving he has to do. I do feel really badly he’ll be here alone but he says he’ll be ok. I’m making him green bean casserole before I leave for him to heat up thanksgiving day, and I also got him yams with marshmallows to make for himself and I’m getting him a big juicy steak to cook (he doesnt care for turkey). Plus my mom promised to make all of his thanksgiving favorites for Christmas since he’ll miss out. But– I’m still really going to miss him! It will be the first Thanksgiving we’ve ever spent apart since we started dating!

Post # 5
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m not! I am from Florida and my Fiance is from NJ so we are spending it in our home states. I don’t mind it though, it gives me time to hang with my family and friends who I dont see often without having to make sure someone else is entertained!

Post # 6
277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I usually don’t because his family lives in MA and we live in NY.  In years past, I’ve always had to work the day after Thanksgiving so he’ll always go home to be with his family and I would spend it with friends.  My new job allows me to remote in so I’ll be going with him this year and work from home on Friday.  It’s not so bad as long as he still gets a Thanksgiving meal.

Post # 7
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m not either 🙁

FH really wanted to spend Thanksgiving with his family and we couldn’t afford for both of us to make the trip so he’s going and I’m staying.

Post # 8
1954 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My boyfriend and i spent all thanksgiving and christmases apart for the first 3 years we were together. We were both in grad school together so that was the only time we got to see our respective families, who lived 8 hrs apart so doing both families together was not an option. Last year, we spent Thanksgiving together with his family at our apartment. This year we’re going to my family.  We still spend Christmas apart, but I’m flying to visit his family 2 days after Christmas. Last year, I made us our own Christmas dinner a few days we left to visit our families and we exchanged gifts. 

It sucks, but usually you are so busy on the holidays there isn’t a lot of time to dwell on it. Plus, we are used to being apart on holidays. We’re making an effort to change it, but its hard when our families want to spend time with us, too and they live so far apart. I suggest leaving him a cute little thankgiving card with a note in saying how much he is missed, and maybe making him a pie or something to enjoy while you are gone so he knows you’re thinking of him!


Post # 9
1927 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I wasn’t going to go to his families Thanksgiving but he talked me into it. I basically told him that I didn’t feel comfortable going to Thanksgiving because we aren’t engaged. He told me that no one is going to mind because I go to his families Christmas and Easter.

Post # 10
330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

This will actually be our first year spending Thanksgiving together! We’ve always spent Christmas together, but I’ve traveled on Thanksgiving the last few years, so it’ll be nice to have our first Thanksgiving as newlyweds.

Post # 11
1046 posts
Bumble bee

Me. My husbands in the military and he will be standing duty. I’m not throwing too big of a fit though because at least he is off for our daughters Birthday. Last year he wasn’t off for mine, his OR our daughters birthday.

Have I mentioned lately that the military SUCKS as far as family life goes?

Post # 12
2344 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We spent Christmas apart last year before we were married and it really sucked. 🙁 I’m sorry you have to be apart!

Post # 13
608 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We are not spending Thanksgiving together either.  My Fiance is in graduate school in another state and its too close to finals for him to fly home.  This will be the 3rd year apart for thanksgiving and I always feel bad that he is completely alone for the holidays but he does spend all his time studying this time of year.  He probably won’t even get thanksgiving dinner.  I should send something to him for thanksgiving. Embarassed 

Post # 14
652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Right here!

He’s deployed right now, so we’ll be missing all of the holidays (plus New Years and then some) this year.  It really stinks.  I miss him terribly and I hate the idea of him being so far away from home this time of year.  I’m trying to fill up my time with my family and friends, and wedding projects (of course).  I even decided to hit up a Black Friday sale with a friend at 4 in the morning, just because.  Keeping my fingers crossed that he gets to call. 

Post # 15
121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I might not be and it’s for a stupid reason.

My guy apparently decided he’s 12 years old, and pitched a fit that his parents didn’t plan in time to get him a smoked turkey for thanksgiving. He had been yammering on about the stupid turkey for weeks. So he told me he was coming to my parent’s house for thanksgiving instead (originally we were both going to go to our own families) and I got all excited that we’d get to do thanksgiving together.

Now, it’s TWO DAYS TO THANKSGIVING, and he’s all “maybe I should go with my parents I mean my grandparents are getting older blah blah” our house is literally maybe 100 yards from his grandfather’s house and less than a mile from his grandmothers. He sees each of them at least once a week. I made arrangements to include him in my family thanksgiving which is large and requires some organizational skill to wedge 23 people into one home dining room. So now he wants to back out.

I swear I do not understand what he is thinking sometimes.

Post # 16
3166 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

we’re not because of the LDR thing. we’re both driving 5 hours and meeting halfway on friday night though. :/

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