Post # 1
Fiance and I only had so much money left after the wedding. So our honeymoon budget is super tight. We are going on one of the cheapest cruises we could find. It’s just that I am not a huge fan of cruises, especially on the economy lines. Fiance and I have been on a number of these cruises and I have grown to hate the “hairy man chest competition” and the “cruise trivia” and most of all the lectures on diamonds and tanzanite. I don’t feel like I could ever tell Fiance this, but I really wish we could have done Sandals or something nicer. In fact, I am dreading the days at sea. Anyone else feel this way? Also, I know that we are lucky to get a honeymoon and that not everyone gets one. So, please, don’t post any snarky comments about how I am being spoiled. Thanks.
Post # 3
I totally know what you mean…..we haven’t booked our honeymoon yet but he has been looking at and mentioning a cruise since it is all inclusive and usually a good deal….thing is we’ve been on a cruise before and I just feel like I want something different something special for our honeymoon its the utmost special vacation we will ever take! Like if there is any vacation in our lifetime to go nuts and splurge a little I would assume it would be our honeymoon…and I told him a cruise just doesn’t feel that special since we’ve done it already…..so anyways idk what we will do but I totally see what your saying I think you should mention it to him we did talk about staying at whatever port it leaves either before or after the cruise for a change of atmosphere…..are you atleast visiting places you’ve never been to before?
Post # 4
I know how you feel. I wanted to do the whole Sandals thing with the private pool suite, etc, etc. But, it just wasn’t feasible so we decided to go on a cruise as well. I am trying to get excited for it and not show my disappointment. I’m just trying to remember that I am super lucky to be able to afford a honeymoon at all, considering two of my friends are getting married this year and could not afford honeymoons at all. I also think that once we actually get there I will get excited and things will change. I can’t imagine being on a cruise with awesome food, tropical type weather and so much to do on the cruise ship that I would still be bummed.
I bet the same will happen for you! 🙂
Post # 5
I understand how you feel…we paid for most of our wedding and didn’t have a huge budget either, so we chose a cruise as well. Yes, some of the activities on board can be kind of cheesy, but we just tried to pick and choose to make it more of a romantic vacation. We also booked some really fun excursions.
Try to have an open mind going into it–it may not be your dream vacation, but I’m sure you can still enjoy it! I think we’re going to plan a big anniversary trip instead, maybe that would be an option for you two as well.
Post # 6
I can imagine how frustrating it could be to NOT look forward to your honeymoon. Here is a suggestion (I know you weren’t asking for suggestions, so feel free to ignore): plan on NOT leaving your room for most of the cruise – i.e. pack a lot of sex toys and “stuff” I *think* you can get your meals delivered vis room service for free, so don’t plan on doing a lot of the typical cruise stuff- do the “typical” honeymoon stuff instead! 😉
Also – one of the best experiences I had on a cruise was when we stayed up very late (3/4AM) and we went out on one of the top decks and had the kitchen make up sandwiches, fries, and milkshakes and we watched the stars and moon while hanging out on the deck. We saw no one else….which was great for a girl like me who doesn’t like crowds.
Post # 7
Aww, I’m sorry you’re not excited. I think it’s pretty easy to ignore all the cheesy stuff on board. I’ve been on a couple cruises and haven’t really done any of that. If you can, take advantage of the spa and get a couples massage, sit in the hot tub. Where are you going? Focus on going on some awesome excursions. Just do things that you find romantic and that should make it better!
Post # 8
UGH. Maybe I’m just crazy, but my Fiance keeps suggesting these all-inclusive resorts and cruises. They sound great, and we can afford it, but I really don’t want anything like that. I was looking forward to something simple and relaxed, like going to a beach up north (MI has pretty beaches in the summer/fall) and staying at a B&B. Plus I HATE flying. I know what you mean! :/
Post # 9
I’m the opposite, I am not excited about my wedding at all. I actually can’t wait until its all over. How ridiculous is it that something that is costing me 30k is something I can’t wait to be over? UGH. Anyway I AM super psyched about my honeymoon; which is in Sandals Antigua for 10 days. I’m sorry you aren’t excited but look on the bright side you will be in the sun and with your new Darling Husband. 🙂
Post # 10
Eh, be excited that you are HAVING a honeymoon because my fiance and I are not due to the fact that we just dont have the money for one.
I would love to do ANYTHING that gets me away from home and everything for awhile haha
Post # 11
@Ballet513: Dude. You and me, both. I can’t wait to find our new “normal” after the wedding!
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I personally found Sandals a pretty similar experience to an economy cruise. Why would you go to the diamonds lectures, ps? Usually, even the economy lines have an adult-only quiet pool. Hang out there on the at-sea days to avoid the drinking, noise, and games. I personally avoid Carnival at all costs, but usually NCL and Royal Caribbean are the same price and have a much better atmosphere. I hope you are able to have fun despite your worries.
Post # 13
If you are dreading your cruise, is there any way you could change your plans? I’m not sure when your honeymoon is, but I’m assuming it’s after December 31st since that’s what you have as your wedding date? I didn’t get my dream honeymoon either, but we ended up doing something that was a little more affordable, but still really fun. It ended up being wonderful! There are so many options out there that I’m sure you could find something you could look forward to. I do not know if someone gifted you your cruise or if there are other reasons you have to go on the cruise which changes things obviously. Maybe you could work on saving up and having the awesome resort trip for an anniversary? I know you weren’t asking for advice, but I just hate to see someone who’s not looking forward to her honeymoon!
Post # 14
Why didn’t you just go somewhere beautiful but local where it’s cheaper and you can be pampered a bit? It seems like just wasted money down the drain with the situation you’re in now. Almost as though you are doing it just because a honeymoon is “expected” instead of following your own ideas and waiting a couple months to save up and do the trip you actually want.
Post # 15
@Baccara: So glad I’m not alone, its supposed to be so much “fun” planning a wedding. I’m still waiting for the fun to start. I just want to be married and live the rest of my happy life.
Post # 16
I get what you mean, because it’s not what you want. But cruises are so much fun! Can you skip the lame trivia and find something else to do? What about excursions to spice it up a bit? I would be excited to go on another cruise. If you’ve already paid for it just go and enjoy the sun, but if not, maybe you can skip the honeymoon and just go when the funds have been rejuvenated.