(Closed) Anyone else not want a big ring?

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
834 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@daisy40: When DH told me he was going to propose, (we talked a lot about this) I told him I wanted something low profile, pretty, and feminine. Nothing chunky or glitzy, or anything that I’d get caught on things easily. He took me ring shopping one day, and I found a few that were nice, then I found THE one. It was on clearance though, and still out of (what I thought was) our budget. So, I figured I wouldn’t get that particular ring, but at least he had a good idea. Come the engagement day, not only has he purchased THE ring, he’s also purchased the matching wedding band! 


Oh, sorry, got off on a tangent… basically, I don’t like big rings either, but you never really know until you try it on. Maybe you could go looking together, give him three ideas to work from, and leave it be. Oh, and a word of caution, ever since that Kate lady married that Prince William guy, Sapphires have been rediculoulsly expensive. Popularity *sigh* Though, the very first ring I wanted was silver, it had an amethyst heart in the middle, and two small sapphires on one side. I think I understand now why everyone wants diamonds though (aside from the tradition thing) Diamonds are generally clear, and go with everything. Lol. Anyway, good luck to you, and congratulations in advance!

Post # 4
339 posts
Helper bee

What do you consider “big”?

Post # 5
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Heck no!

I wanted something smaller. I wanted a small gemstone ring in a halo setting in unpolished metal.

I got a 6 carat aquamarine in white gold with diamonds in the band. It is a stunning ring, but not something I would have picked out for myself and definitely not something I’m planning on wearing all the time once I have a wedding band.

My man got the stone from his grandma, which was so sweet. He, however, was under the impression that she would allow us to cut it into a smaller size. Alas….

Post # 7
9814 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

There are definitely a lot of people who don’t respond to the BIG aesthetic. I saw a .37ct diamond ring once that took my breath away. It was perfectly cut, colorless, probably damn near flawless… it was a fireball! I love that kind of understated sparkle that packs a big punch.

Post # 8
1087 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

@daisy40: I am the same way, I’ve told SO that I like non diamond rings… Blue Topaz (my birthstone), Tanzanite, Blue and Pink Sapphires, and Amethyst but he keeps saying he’s gonna buy me a diamond and it’s going to be custom made. Aaarrggghhh I’m hoping he’s just trying to throw me off lol. He has sorta admitted that he’s put money down on the ring, but now he’s saying maybe that’s not what he meant… I’m prob asking too much lol. I shall shut my mouth! or at least try to!

Post # 9
383 posts
Helper bee

I don’t want a “big” ring – 1/2 or 1 k would be fine with me.  I have small fingers – size 4.  I feel like a honkiin’ ring would be a bit oo much bling.  Plus I’m not a blingy person.  AND, I’d rather spend the money on our home or a great honeymoon than spend $5,000 on a ring. 

But I think to each his own. 

Post # 10
1368 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Nope! I knew I wanted something understated and he purchased a .5 k solitaire with channel settings. It’s perfect.

Post # 11
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I didn’t want a big ring.  In fact I generally don’t wear jewelery so I asked him to buy me a really pretty wedding ring and skip the engagement on all together.  He really wanted to get an engagement ring so he took me shopping and we found the one that was right for us, which was as low profile as I could find, and the center stone was a sapphire…I wear it more than I thought I would be I am glad we didn’t spend a fortune on it because I generally just wear my wedding ring.

Post # 12
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@daisy40: i wanted a smaller ring. i wanted something low profil and something I could wear every day…im not a flashy girl by any means. I k now DH was worried i was only looking at smaller ones bc of our budget, and while they did have some infulence on it…i just dont like spending money!!

I ended up with a smaller ring that i love (under 900.00) I have to add i won a much much bigger ring a few months after our engagement though, and thats the ring i wear now. Here is a pic of my ring (my only request was that it not be a solitaire!)

Post # 13
4581 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have a half carat princess cut solitaire and I love it. I originally thought I wanted a full carat but it looked ridiculous on my hand when I tried one on. My ring is classic and dainty and perfect for me!

Post # 14
484 posts
Helper bee

I have small hands and fingers, so a big ring wouldn’t suit me. I also don’t want it to be too expensive as I’d rather spend that money on other things. It’s up to him to decide how much he spends though.

Post # 15
805 posts
Busy bee

Yes. My ring size is a 4 anything big would probably look bigger on my little hands. Also I don’t want something too big to get in the way all the time. Even my little 1/8 carat promise ring gets in my way while playing guitar and I don’t wear it to work because of stupid latex gloves.

But I do want a small diamond solitaire and hopefully it’ll cost him less than $1000. (Or he can seriously just use my promise ring lol)

Post # 16
11161 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I think you will find many vocal bees that are all for smaller rings and various gems. I personally think Sapphires are stunning and I am glad they are becoming more popular with Kate Middleton leading the way.

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