(Closed) Anyone else not want formal, posed pictures?

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: Yay or nay for formal, posed pictures?
    Don't do them if you hate them : (29 votes)
    45 %
    Do them or you'll regret it : (16 votes)
    25 %
    I had them and could've done without them : (2 votes)
    3 %
    I had them and am happy I did : (11 votes)
    17 %
    I didn't have them and am happy I skipped them : (6 votes)
    9 %
    I didn't have them and regretted it : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    223 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Tarheelgurl:  Just booked our “natural” photographer in and paid the deposit today!  So excited.  She is more photo-journalistic in her style and I absolutely love her work. 

    Our photos will be as natural / candid as possible…don’t really like the posed look unless we are going to do one big group one.

    Post # 5
    799 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I love them but I am really traditional. I think most photographers are photojournalistic now and its actually pretty hard to find one who likes to do formal poses. I think what you want is more the majority! Mine is photo journalist style but I definitely want a ton of formal photos, and he is okay with that! 🙂 

    Post # 6
    4656 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Tarheelgurl:  I wanted a bare minimum of them, as I’m not super photogenic and AWFUL at posing, but I am glad that I had them. There’s some great shots and I think I’d miss them if they weren’t there. 

    Post # 7
    973 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @Tarheelgurl:  We picked our photographer because of her skill with candids and “in the moment” shots.  She wasn’t even out of high school at the time and just getting on her feet as a photographer but she’d done work for my best friend’s family.  We were her first wedding.

    She did suggest a few posed shots, just groupings of family but that was it.  The rest of our pics are from the walk/ceremony and candids at the reception.  She got the best pic of my mom with her pouty face on (no one was paying attention to her at that moment) and seriously I’d have paid the full cost for that one pic… it’s awesome.  Because we didn’t even notice at the time.  Sad to say but Darling Husband and I laugh everytime we see it, it sums up my mom’s personality perfectly in one moment in time.  My mom is totally the “I NEED ATTENTION OR I’M GOING TO SULK!” type and the photographer captured that. 

    Don’t get me wrong, I love my mom.. but she is one hell of a drama queen in need of attention and frequently disturbs or brings my dad down because I won’t play her drama games.  I hate to do it but I tell my dad “I’m sorry you have to deal with it, but I refuse to play her games.” (he just goes with what’s easiest with her… so his situation is his fault too).  And I feel like growing up with them both (he’s super logical) that it was like “here’s how to behave to feel good, have good relationships, and get what you need” and “here’s how to F everything up”.  So ya… not following in mom’s footsteps, check.


    Post # 8
    981 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    @Tarheelgurl:  I want a few with the family and so on but i really want some candid shots and some crazy messing about pics.

    Post # 9
    4192 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    We had a great combination of the two. Some of the formal ones are surprisingly some of my favorites… there’s an amazing one of Darling Husband where he looks like he should be on the cover of GQ. And the more formal ones are what the parents wanted copies of.

    Post # 10
    810 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I would do a few. Better to get some and be glad than not and wish you had. You don’t have to do a bunch.

    Post # 11
    1846 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I had maybe 5 minutes of posed photos, the rest were just natural. SO happy with this decision!!

    Post # 12
    9181 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    One of our photographer’s greatest strengths is all her beautiful candid shots.  BUT – I think most people would regret not having a big family shot.  You’re not going to be randomly caught standing next to everyone in a candid situation.  I really treasure our posed family shots as much as all the fun and spur-of-the-moment candid ones.

    Post # 13
    784 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @Tarheelgurl:  I think it depends on how many people you need photographed.  For example, would you feel bummed out if there was no picture of you, your new husband, and your grandma?  Or if grandma didn’t make any of the candids at all?  Then get some formals.  On the other hand, if all you need is pictures of you and the groom, candids will work great.

    Post # 14
    5955 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Ha ha, you must be new to the wedding world because one of the hottest trends for the past sevearl years has been a move away from “posed” photos and towards a photojournalistic style.

    This type of photography can be expensive as it takes a real pro to do it well.  But the real emotion and real moments that are captured are spectacular!  Go for it, it’s a beautiful style.

    Post # 15
    1095 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    The only formal ones I want are the church ones, other than that, i agree.

    Post # 16
    5660 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    It’s ok not to line everyone up force smiles on them and make them say CHEESE!

    But, I think 25 years from now when you look back at your pictures, if you don’t have SOME sort of shot’s together that are more of the “formal” type and not just candid’s, you’ll wish you did have nice family photo’s from your wedding

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