(Closed) Anyone else NOT where they want to be career wise and in life in general?

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m nowhere near where I should be. I’m an excellent writer, and I have experience from an internship. I should be writing for a newspaper or a blog. There just isn’t any time for me to go out and job hunt in my field. For now, I’m stuck working in a restaurant. ๐Ÿ˜›

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I feel this way too. Not so much in comparison to others, but for myself and for my fiance, I’d like to be more settled into a career path. I keep switching jobs because I keep getting bored. Well, I’m done with that. I’m finishing up my degree (2nd time around – another failed career path) and I’m going back to the industry I left when I went back to school. Hopefully, I will be able to find a decent job at a company I like. I’m just so tired of being a broke-ass student. I want to contribute to our household, and right now, I am just a drain on my poor Fiance.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

No I get that. I am going into a field which is feast or famine right now (literally, I will either make X or 1/5th of X, which is less than what I made before law school). I see my FB “friends” going to parties, traveling abroad on trips financed by their banker husbands and I can’t even go out most weekends because I am studying hoping for a pay-off. 

The other issue is Fiance just went back to school too, so we are eight shades of broke, over- worked and stressed. I wish I had hope that come May 2013 (graduation year for both of us) we will be making six-figures, living the life, but it’s such a crap shoot.

I think some people’s lives just come together sooner than others. 

 

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m in a town with nearly zero jobs that value education. Ironic since it is a college town. I can’t even get the opportunity to prove how great of an employee I could be.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I am in transition of sorts at the moment…I totally get where you are coming from! I finished school in December(before I turned 25, one of my goals, since I took longer to finish school(not that I took time off, just took my time.)) Got my rn license in Feb…have been job searching since then…it is hard, also, most of my friends got jobs, including those that finished a semester after me! Ugh. I am soooo happy for them, but now I am asking what the heck is wrong with me??! I made the mistake of getting my license in nj instead of pa to begin with. I know I will find a job(I feel I will soon.) but I just want to start the next part of my life! And plan us a wedding!!

 

Edit: I am thankful I have my job at the coffee shop(been there 4.5 years), but I am soooooo over it!

Post # 8
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1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yes, yes, a thousand times yes. I fully understand where you’re coming from and it sucks!

Post # 9
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1962 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

*raises hand* Me!!! I was originally supposed to graduate from college by this June or December at the latest. This last year I decided to switch majors for a few different reasons and now I won’t graduate for another year and a half. Ugh! My Fiance already has two associate’s degrees and will have his bachelor’s degree finished just after the wedding. He makes me feel a little behind sometimes lol. As long as I get myself through school in the end I’ll be happy. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I grew up with my grandparents/parents constantly telling me that a bachelor’s would be an instant awesome job. I’m working a dead-end job currently but with all that it’s not where I expected to be. There are times where I feel like I have horribly disappointed them, though I’m sure they would say I haven’t.

I’m not where I thought I’d be, and I’m not 100% sure what my next move should be. Let’s just say I’m a work in progress and I’m right there with you, frustrated.

Post # 11
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Worker bee

Oh girl, I feel you. I should have graduated in 2010, and somehow I still have a year or so left (I guess taking time off and changing majors does that). My boyfriend has been graduated for nearly a year now and got a job within his field immediately after graduating and has been doing really really well. I’m still stuck waitressing (which I do love, but not where I want to be anymore) and have been trying to find a job within my desired field without luck right now. It’s frustrating, because I finally feel like I am ready to grow up a little bit, and I’m still stuck in school in a dead-end job… But I think we all just have to remind ourself that good things come to those who wait, and better things are in our futures ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I totally feel as if I am going nowhere… I graduated college with 3.7 GPA, phenomenal references, and endless options. I did it all as a single mother of two kids and was so proud.

Here I am 4 years later, my loan payments are on hold, my job is RIDICULOUS (Like, I am ashamed to be associated with people like this), I make a meek $12.75/hour, my house is exactly the same as it was when I was 10, and needless to say would loooooove to go out for a nice dinner & drinks.

BUT, I have my wonderful children, Mr.A to keep me sane, and when all else fails, a phone to call Mom.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

@maggierose: I’m not jealous – on the contraire, I am SO happy for them and the wonderful life they have. I’m just a little sad that I’ve tried so much to try to achieve the life I want – I’m a hard worker, goal oriented, smart, etc, etc – and I just feel so stuck.

This is my life at the moment. I don’t talk much about here in the bee because really sometimes I just want to scream. HOW IS THIS MY FREAKING LIFE RIGHT NOW? I get really angry and depressed sometimes.

But I try to hard to focus on my blessings. Safe & sane roof over my the head, check. Supportive relationship, check. Food, check. Good friends and fam, check. Career, not so much.

I’ve made some really shitty decisions along the way if I”m honest. I’m just in valley right now. Things used to be really good and I didn’t appreciate them at the time. Years ago I used to take $25-45 cab rides home (working late nights) on the regular (3x+ a week). I used to go on trips at a drop of hat. Concerts on the regular. I ate a few at pretty high end resturants just cause I felt like it. But now shit… i’m in survival mode. McDonalds dollar menu is the bomb. But when its your only option cause its damn near a luxury, it fucking sucks. I hate not having better options. HATE IT.

Many of the things I did created some great memories and I wouldn’t do them over. But some really were just wasteful and I didn’t think long term. Or I did think long term, but I didn’t care enough at the moment. It felt good and I wanted it now. Oh well whats done is done. Pity party for 1 please, your table is ready.

 

Post # 14
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1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@maggierose: Honey, are we living the same life? Seriously, all my Fiance friends are Dr’s/lawyers/ext and are doing REALLY well for themselves. I look at what they have and I do feel inadequate/jealous. I dont think that can be helped in these situations. 

I hate my job and really want to get out of the field however theres just not that much out there right now and my Fiance works fulltime and is in grad school. I wish we had the disposable income that his friends have. Instead we have to save pennys, make sacrifices (live with our parents/ budget everything/ not go out), and do anything we can to make our future marriage easier. 

I hope one day I can look back on all this worry/stress/comparisons and laugh about it. Let me know if you need to talk about this with anyone who feels the same way ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Not to thread jack or anything but this evening has been a disappointment for me as well. I mentioned to my mom that I needed to start looking for another job in another field (preferrably law) and she said that she knew someone who owned a firm who was hiring. She called them and no, they want to hire someone with experience as a legal secretary this time since their previous one flaked on them. I did get my hopes up just a tiny bit, that I wouldnt be stuck in my profession and that maybe fate has stepped in..but no. not this time ๐Ÿ™

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

All I will say is YES!!!!

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