Post # 1
How are you? I have been reading through the posts on here and I was wondering if anyone is going to have a proposal that is a complete surprise.
By this, I mean having little input on the timing, the ring or any sort of detail relating to the proposal.
It seems like there are alot of people on here who have picked/ paid for the ring, or have a timeline in mind, or know something about the proposal.
For me, I know NOTHING! We have only briefly looked at rings, and he knows a few styles I like, but nothing more. We don’t have a timeline/ deadline, nor has my man really hinted at any dates/ occasions which it might be, as he wants to keep it as a surprise. (I do know he has the ring. I don’t know what it looks like, or when he will ask me to marry him.)
I was wondering if I was in the minority on here? Plus, from reading the posts, I am thinking it might not be such a good idea to know nothing at all. I mean, first of all, I HATE surprises. My Boyfriend or Best Friend knows that, but he still wants to make it special, so I am willing to go along with it.
Do you wish you could have less/ more input in the proposal?
Post # 3
@Lubylu89: If you know he has a ring and is going to propose, it’s not really a surprise.
Post # 4
My Fiance planned the proposal to be a total surprise (to me and everyone in our families besides my mom and dad- he asked their permission first). I knew nothing about the ring or the timing but it was perfect. I wouldn’t change a single aspect!
Post # 5
@deliciousappleblue I have to disagree with that; I don’t know anything at all! All I know it that he is ready. I might be waiting for another year or so. Most of the people on here have thier rings chosen by themselves or with thier partner. Other people have a distinct timeframe. Others have an idea of what they are expecting etc. Whereas I know nothing at all.
Post # 6
I didn’t know all the details about my proposal. I knew it was coming within the next year, when it happened. (Back in July he told me by “this time next year we’ll be engaged or married” and that was due to the fact we will be moving in June). However, I did not know when to expect it or what the ring looked like. Like you, we briefly looked at rings one time and that was it. I liked not knowing when to expect it. 🙂
Post # 7
Mine was a surprise – completely, up until i ruined it for myself…the week leading up to it. We had looked at rings once and talked about it but i got my proposal much earlier than i would have guessed. i would have had no clue but my stupid self went to use his phone to text my mom (mine was dead) and i saw all these texts between him and her. i didnt read them (I SWEAR!) i just shut it and then my only guess was a proposal, why else would he be talking to my mother. a few days later he said we were going to charelston for the weekend – that confirmed my suspisions. But ultimately i had no input on the ring or the timeline or proposal.
Post # 8
Thank you for your posts. It’s helped me to realise that it’s a good thing and will go a long way to making the proposal extra special. All I have to do now is sit tight and wait for that moment. Hope it’s soon 😛
Post # 9
Is a proposal ever really a true “surprise”… I mean, by that point most of us have discussed marriage fairly seriously and pretty much know that its coming sooner or later. If you’ve shopped for rings together, and even choosen it together, I (no offense to anyone) honestly don’t even see the point of a ‘proposal’… you kno you’re getting a ring, what it looks like, and that you’re getting married already!! The actually “proposal” is just kind of a sentimental action that is expected. The only way its a complete surprise is if you’ve never really talked about it.
The timing was a surprise and I had the “omg is this really happening” moment when he proposed. We hadnt really talked about it, just glazed over the subject with his only response being ‘be patient’, when I told him we were wasting time looking at homes since I wouldnt buy a home with him unless we were engaged. So I figured it’d eventually happen, but since he always just blew it off when the topic of a ring came up and when I sent him “hints”, I had no idea it would happen that soon.
Post # 10
Until I accidentally found out he was proposing about 2-3 weeks before it happened, I had absolutely no clue. Never went ring shopping, never talked about it.. I knew it was heading in that direction, but it wasn’t at the point where I felt like I needed to bring it up.. I was happy with the way things were & where they were headed, but of course was completely ecstatic when I found out he was proposing (though I wish I HADN’T found out & it would have been a complete surprise 2-3 weeks later) but yeah, had no idea he was thinking about it. We had been together 4 years at that point, but we were less than a year out of college & didn’t think he had given it too much thought yet! Was an awesome surprise!
Post # 11
My NYE proposal was a complete surprise. I had shown him rings that I liked about a year ago but then nothing else was said. I had no idea he had purchased the ring and had no idea he would propose so soon.
Post # 12
I was COMPLETELY SURPRISED! He surprised me with a trip to Chicago. He proposed on the train when we were almost to the Windy City. We had never been ring shopping and there was never a timeline. I wont lie… I tried to get a timeline or see if we were even going in that direction, so I tried to talk to him about “our future” once. He said he had things to figure out first (career, money etc). I was dissappointed with his response. Later he told me he had the ring for a couple of months before he proposed (including when we had that talk). We didn’t live together so I had no idea. He bought a loose diamond and had it mounted on a temporary band so I could pick out the setting myself.
This all happened less than a year ago and we’re already married! We got engaged in April and married in October (2010).
Post # 13
@pinkshoes: i totally agree pinkshoes! my bf and i both want to get married, he said it will happen within 6 months. so my feeling? just take me to get a ring and let’s be engaged. he wants to do it in a special surprising way. but really, making me wait for that reason when it’s ALREADY not a surprise because we’ve discussed it is only torturing me.
Post # 14
i was in your situation too 🙂 i knew he had it (because boys are bad at being sneaky) but was completely surprised when he proposed!
Post # 15
I think mine will be a surprise. I know it’s coming before my 30th birthday (April 28th) and he has the ring. No idea what the ring looks like, where we’ll go, if we’ll stay home, if it’ll be private, nothing. I did tell him the type of ring I want, but I’m not even sure if he bought it.LOL I hoe so.
Post # 16
Mine was total suprise… Like I had no idea it was coming.. I was completely happy with how things were going. Been together a year and a half. My last relationships had lasted 2 years plus and it didnt even cross my mind at this point. I knew we were going to be together and I knew we had a future but I just wasnt expecting it.
He suprised me on my bday with a proposal and ring. 🙂