(Closed) Anyone else overly emotional?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I remember that awful feeling. Rest assure, this too shall pass. Have you had a serious, heart-to-heart with your BF? I wish there was a simple answer to give, but the reasons he hasn’t proposed can be so multifaceted, depending on your personal situation. Back in late 2008, my Darling Husband faced this situation. One of the biggest contributors to my lack-of proposal was that he simply couldn’t afford a ring. Luckily, I was open to diamond alternatives. (I didn’t care about the gem, I just wanted to be his wife.) Remember, healthy communication is key.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@loch_ness:

Does he plan on having “the talk” with your parents if you guys are more traditional? Maybe it’s just a question of waiting it out and being patient. I hope you start feeling better and things work out for the best.

Post # 7
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92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@loch_ness:

That is good he has a relationship with your father. Your day will come, just remember that.

Post # 8
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659 posts
Busy bee

I’m guessing it’s because I thought it was going to happen, and didn’t.

I felt like this last year and that is precisely why! I’m not as bad now but I do have my times when I get upset. I’m usually kind of emotional with things though.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I have been so emotional over the past few weeks as well.  For a while, I truly thought that my SO would propose this fall/winter.  He has been throwing hints around since September.  I found enough evidence to know that he put a ring on layaway in August.  We had our 4 year anniversary in September.  When he didn’t propose then, I wasn’t upset because he had planned a surprise trip with my family and I at the end of September.  I really really really thought it would happen on that trip.  It did not.  It’s almost December and his talk of anything engagement/marriage has stopped completely…. this was especially noticable when he out of the blue began planning a guys trip to Phoenix with my brother slated for February 2012. 

My SO is really busy and stressed with work lately and when he gets home he is absolutely drained and I can tell that when I talk to him, his mind is still at work.  When he does have time to himself he has been spending most of it with his guy friends. 

I feel really disconnected from him right now because he brings his work stess home and I have all these horrible paranoid feelings that maybe he isn’t planning to propose afterall and has changed his mind.   

Not in a good place right now.  I am hoping all of this passes soon. 

I hope you find a good waiting place soon lostinthemission.  Hugs!

Post # 10
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3799 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

omg last year at this time, I was a basket case. Crying all the time, fighting with Fiance….I have no idea why he ever proposed! It’s all the hopes of a holiday engagement miracle, mixed with the damn facebook and all the other couples and their engagements, plus the stupid holiday commercials that made me one.miserable.young.woman!!!

Hang in there. You’ll feel better soon. And then valentine’s day stuff will start!! I can totally relate to how you feel, and it’s not fun!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

@soyjoy222: Haha I’ve been a total basketcase lately, too many emotions!

Post # 12
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128 posts
Blushing bee

Ugh. Yes. All year in fact! You are not alone….hugs. I think it is especially because I could have sworn he was going to ask me so many times and didn’t. I am trying super hard not to be like that anymore. It is what it is. I’m past my days I thought it would happen so now who the heck knows when it will. Foot in mouth

Post # 13
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3969 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Yes! A mess! It doesn’t help, for me this is finals week (so many papers) AND it’s my birthday tomorrow…. We’re LD so I don’t get to see him for two more weeks….

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

It must be the time of year…. I have been a bit emotional too! But I had put it down to work being so busy and stressful.

I think you just need to keep in your mind that your time will come and it will be wonderful. But to keep enjoying life!

Post # 16
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301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Add another to the list ladies. I thought it was just me!

He’s already asked my father and the rest of my family for permission, and we talked about ordering the ring when he got paid next (which was today). When I mentioned it today he was rather short with me and when I pressed the issue he said how I’m taking the surprise out of it. I said that if we keep going at this rate (we’ve been together almost 4 years) that I’ll be dead before a proposal comes. 

I’m not usually an overly emotional person but I’m having the same problem: at even the thought of waiting any longer I’m either brought to the verge of tears or get irrationally angry. I also think its a combination of factors contributing to this: the holiday season, the fact that everyone around me is getting engaged but have been together for far less time than us (including my best friend and ex-boyfriend, who have been dating for only a few months and just got engaged 3 weeks ago), and that we went on a gorgeous vacation to Playa del Carmen Mexico 2 weeks ago and I was completely expecting it to happen then… Obviously it didn’t.

I know how stupid it might sound, but my biggest insecurity is that deep down inside he’s afraid to get married. I don’t know why but I’m so scared of that being the case. We talk about marriage all the time and he says how he knows we will, but I’m still stuck worrying and waiting. I’m even on his health insurance, and we are each others life insurance beneficiaries. We share a home, 2 dogs, a cat, a bank account. He’s my best friend, my everything. I’m just stuck waiting for him to be my husband.  :/

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