Post # 1
Well, I think I have posted about my nervousness before..and I gotta tell ya, it’s not goin away! I am nervously chewing on some black licorice and I am mailing photographers..it’s all too much! Everytime I really set a final date or book anything I PANIC! I know we gotta get married soon, but I honestly am too freaked out to book anything, and I mean anything. We have not secured a location, no photographer, no videographer..no invites even! I am so scared to plan! I just don’t know what to do! Yikes! Anyone else kinda freaked out? I didn’t think getting married would be this hard or scary! It’s like diving into water without knowing how to swim..like goin off the high dive!! EEEKS! I am not a set in stone person..so, this may be why I am like totally freaked?! I hate planning, I hate dates, I hates things being final and set in stone. I can’t seem to put one foot in front of the other and we are supposed to marry in the winter? Can I do it? I just don’t think so! Elope may be the only way out..though I do want something nice. I do want to marry him..it really is the ceremony I am freaked out about! There feels like there is too much pressure on the brides!! He’s like totally chill. No cares in the world. But men just shower, throw on a tux and wait. I hate being the spotlight. Too scared bees, need some encouragement/good mojo. Thanks bees!!!!
Post # 3
I can feel you. I don’t fear the spot light or setting dates. I second guess everything after I put the down payments down. I worry about everything from timing to will people like it, will it turn out how I want…what if it doesn’t. I thought about eloping but I can’t because I just MUST have family there and my family can’t afford to travel this year. So I am getting a planner for the day of. You may want to get a planner period. Have her take your likes and hates and you just show up too. Make the ceremony vows and everything simple so you are less stressed. At first you feel like planners cost too much but sometimes they get you deals that help with their costs and having that ease would be worth it.
Post # 4
Right there with you guys. I’m so glad I’m not the only feeling like this. I feel like I’m obsessing over things because I’m overthinking or trying to make sure its the best deal or what I really want. I’m at a point now to where I feel burned out and really am not motivated to do much right now. I even ordered a custom dress online without stepping foot into a bridal shop. I just want to get something and be done. I’m so consummed by making sure everything is perfect and pleasing that its taking a little of the fun away. The bad part is I’m an encore bride (3rd times a charm!) so I should be a pro at this by now…NOT! lol
Just take a deep breath kalliela. Don’t rob yourself of your wedding over nerves. You may regret the elopement (not the marriage). Break all your to-dos down month by month leading up to the wedding. That may help you space it all out and not feel so overwhelmed on a daily. You’ll know its on your list and will be taken care of when the time comes. Good luck!
Post # 5
If he doesn’t find it stressful, why don’t you ask him to take over the parts you’re not good at (like making final decisions, etc.)? Nowhere is it written in stone that the bride has to take charge.
Post # 6
Ya, he’s offered to take charge..though..that kinda makes me a bit nervous too! I don’t know why? I guess I don’t have confidence things will get done? Idk. Though, I may after all consider it, who knows!
Post # 7
I am sorry you are feeling so overwhelmed.
My suggestion, and it will cost money, but in your situation, I feel it would be totally worth it. Get a planner to help you. Call and/or email a few of them in your area and tell them about you being overwhelmed and they should be able to give you some prices based on what you need. It would take a lot of the stress off of you. Some of their prices will be unrealistacally high, but you should be able to find one that can help you for a price that you can afford.