(Closed) Anyone else panicked over DELIVERY?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Are you super scared?
    YES! : (62 votes)
    76 %
    NOPE! : (20 votes)
    24 %
  • Post # 3
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I’m a first-timer too and very early in pregnancy as well (have 7 months to go too!) It is totally normal to feel nervous I think. We all know that it will hurt…a lot…and there isn’t much they can do about that. I just remind myself that women have been doing this for thousands of years w/o the assistance of professionals. I figure if they can do it in caves, deserts, igloos and jungles then I should definitly be ok in the comfort of a hospital with trained professionals surrounding me! I think it’s more the fear of the unknown. Just remember that a few hours of discomfort will be worth it several hundred times over when you see your lil one : ) Good luck!!

    Post # 4
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    2638 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2006

    I’m not pregnant but we kind of have babies on the brain. I have an EXTREMELY high pain tolerance so I’m not worried about that . . . the only thing I’m worried about is tearing and having my vagina forever ruined. So I voted yes, even though tearing is the only part that scares me. The labor and physical pain I know I can handle . . . esp. with drugs. LOL.

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I was definitely nervous, I freaked myself out the entire first pregnancy. I’d honestly avoid reading the “scary” chapters of the pregnancy books that outline all the things that could theoretically go wrong. It won’t help, it will just add to the stress, and unless your doctor thinks you’re in a high risk category for some obscure reason, it will just make you freak out about symptoms that are perfectly normal in pregnancy.

    I’m not going to tell you not to worry, because most first time mothers worry. It’s just part of the fun haha. I can tell you that when you go into labor, whether by yourself or induced, your adrenaline will kick in and your body kind of goes on auto pilot a little. I don’t really know how else to explain it. But you do reach a moment where you calm down through the pain because you can just feel your body taking over and doing what it has to do. And if for some reason things don’t go to plan, you have a team of very nice capable people who will get your baby out safely.

    Try to enjoy being pregnant. You might go on to have other children, but NOTHING is ever the same as your first. Just as wonderful, but never the same.

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @KatyElle: I was going to post the same thing. Once you are in the moment, you don’t have time or energy to be nervous or worrying. Your body just knows what to do and does it and you are so focused on getting the “job” done, it’s your only thought at that moment. It really is amazing.

    Post # 7
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    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Plus, unless you are one of those lucky people who have a super fast labor and delivery their first try (my friend’s labor and delivery was a total of 6 hours with her first baby!), you’ll have time to get settled in, take a stroll around the hospital (if they want you to walk around), have visitors, drink ginger ale and enjoy some Italian ice, watch a movie… it’s kind of like being at a hotel in some ways! You’ll have people stopping in with flowers and taking pictures. It’s a very exciting time. It’s not like on tv where you’re in a dingy depressing room with a flickering light and they have you strapped down to a gurney haha! It’s actually pretty fun. Labor isn’t pleasant, but that’s just part of the gig, and it’s very irrelevant when they show you your baby for the first time. 

    Post # 8
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @KatyElle: I have to agree I was also a first timer and my son came 7 weeks early so I wasn’t completely prepared yet. Your body basically takes over and does what it needs to do.  I was more worried about him coming out early than the actual labor/pain. The nurses and doctors tried everything to first stop the contractions but little man wanted out and nothing was stopping him.

     

    Post # 9
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    2201 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I’ve just started reading The Birth Partner, and I think it’s managed to freak me out more than I already was. Sometimes ignorance truly is bliss . . .

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I am due in april with my first baby. It is scary but I try not to sych myself out. I really want to avoid any medication or interventions if possible, and I know its going ot be very painful and scary but I just try to think positive and think of all the people I know who have been through the same type of delivery I hope to have. Its been for thousands of years so I;m just one more person to go through it.

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    So this is really dorky but what helped me was thinking how through thousands of years when birth was really dangerous for humans (both moms and babies), all my ancestors before me survived (clearly, since I’m here!), so I must have good “birthing” genes.

    Post # 13
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    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @stefanieastronaut: We aren’t starting a family yet, but we decided if and when we do- to take local classes in the Bradley method.  It is 3 months of classes and training and preparing for the “big day!”  I think that will help me prepare, since I *hope* to go med free- we shall see!  ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 14
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Don’t listen to anyones delivery trench war stories, they will just freak you out.  Every pregnancy and delivery is different.  I was only in active labor for maybe an hour or two, and I thought I had gas from the enchilada’s I ate for lunch.  Delivery, maybe 15 minutes, tops.  My dear friend had a similar experience and she was sending me hysterical video messages the whole time with her laughing and smiling.  So just don’t listen, you could be the twenty minute kind, heres hoping!

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Up until last night I was completely looking forward to the birthing experience. I knew it would be hard and painful, but I really was excited for my body to go through such a beautiful experience.

    However, last night I watched “One Born Every Minute” for the first time. And uhhhh ya…..never doing that again.

    Post # 16
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    329 posts
    Helper bee

    I used to wake up in a cold sweat, in the middle of the night with sheer anxiety about giving birth. Does that count as freaking out?

    I think it’s normal to freak out about it, it’s the unknown and it’s a scary thing.

    If it helps any, I was making jokes during labour and I was laughing. I told the nurses about a dream I had recently had where I gave birth to weiner dogs. We all kept saying hopefully I wasn’t birthing andy weiner dogs. And there was a nurse who kept getting paged on the intercom when I was giving birth and by the 6th time I jokingly screamed “Who the HELL is Shirley and why doesn’t she just go to the damn front desk.” Or something like that. Everyone laughed.

    Just look around you at all the women in your life who have done it and survived. Not only that, but it can’t be that bad when many people do it again..and again….and again. Look at the Duggar lady for inspiration.

    Best of luck to you ๐Ÿ™‚

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