Post # 47
I think it’s completely normal to be scared of delivery – especially for us first time moms. The thing that is helping me not to freak out about it daily is that I think of the words of all of my friends who have children – they all say that the pain is gone and forgotten as soon as the baby is born. As I randomly come across things and ask my friends about it, they all seem to have forgotten particular details about the labour and delivery of their baby. It seems as though the joy of having a new life with you completely erases any painful memories from your mind.
At least that’s what I’m telling myself and it’s how I’m coping right now. 🙂
I also agree that educating yourself as much as you can is probably the best way to prepare. Knowing what to expect and different pain management techniques can only be beneficial in the end, even if you end up not having to use them. I’m a worrier and if I didn’t know about transition, I could see myself freaking out when I get to that point where I think that I can’t go on. Now I know that it’s normal, passes pretty quickly, and is immediately followed by time to actually deliver the baby. That kind of knowledge helps me. What does not help me is watching One Born Every Minute as a PP stated – that show does nothing but freak me out; I much prefer reading something to watching it. Way less graphic that way which is always a good thing.
Post # 48
People are going to hate my answer, but Im very vocal about it. I was terrified of delivery. I had ZERO desire for my entire life to deliver vaginally. I thought maybe that would change when I got pregnant, but it got worse. So I had an elective c-section and I dont regret it for a single second.
Being scared of delivery is totally normal.
Post # 49
@KellyV I have to say I have no children yet but that is what I am hoping I can do… I have no desire to give birth vaginally. Not just because I am TERRIFIED but I have seen SO MANY people (including my sister) go through all the labor and even pushing to then having to get a c-section anyway! I know most people won’t agree with us but just know you are not alone! 🙂 But back to the original question it is totally normal to be afraid, people are always afraid of the unknown!
Post # 50
I had a pretty unusual birth – vacuum, sunny side up baby, back labor and a mediolateral episiotomy. And even with all that it really wasn’t bad. The contractions HURT. But once I had the epidural (& I didn’t even feel getting it) everything was fine – I could concentrate and I could feel pushing but no cutting, no contraction pain. I’d never had stitches in my life, with the episiotomy tye Dr. told me there were too many stitches to count and that was fine, too. I was able to go to the bathroom myself a few hours later.
Oh and I was freaking out before I had him I was so nervous about the pain!
Post # 51
I’m the opposit I was terrified of having a c-section. Once someone told me they have to move your bladder and organs out of the way to get the baby, I was like OMG NOOOOOO. Either way, it aint pretty.
Post # 52
I was scared before I got pregnant but once we were my husband pushed the idea of a home birth. I have an amazing midwife and her attitude is just what I need to calm my nerves. I know I can do this and that my body is made for this. I will also have a team of people at my house who are extremely knowledgeable about labor and birth who are totally on my team and will do whatever I need to manage my pain. I feel more comfortable with this more individualized approach than I did with the thought of laying on my back in a hospital being yelled at to push because shift change is coming up. I’ve always been much much more afraid of epidurals and c-sections than labor itself. To be honest, I’ve heard horror stories from lots of women, but never one from a woman who had a natural birth. That effects my opinion a lot.
I think it’s that you do what makes YOU comfortable and calms your fears, but I also think it’s important to recognize that you were designed for this and can absolutely do it.
Post # 53
@flamingred – People told me the same thing, and I can tell you that that is false information. You might have also heard that they move your intestines or have to put them on the table to remove the baby. Again, false. When your uterus expands, it is in FRONT of of your lower organs, including the bladder, intestines, etc. So when they cut, what they do is cut and cautrize the skin, manually separate the muscle and fascia (they dont cut the muscle anymore) and then cut into the uterus to remove the baby. They do partially lift your uterus up and out to close it up and clean it, but no other organs =o) That being said, a lot of people are terrified of c-sections, and that is ok too. Its a major surgery. I just dont want you to be terrified based on inaccurate information.
@Pom227 – I knew thats what I wanted and I told my doctor that before we were even TTC. I needed to be sure they were on board with me. If it happens soon adn you want more info, please feel free to PM me
Post # 54
@kellyv Thanks!! I definitely will when we get where we are ready to have a baby! I’ll probably actually bring it up at my next ob/gyn appt and see what he says… He’s an older guy so I don’t know if he’d be okay with it but that is probably something I should find out!