(Closed) Anyone else pick dress solo?

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
14494 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I picked mine out by myself and absolutely love it.  I went with the friends and family to a few places, but ended up going back to those places alone and actually had a better experience and alot more fun with just myself and the sales people.  I did go in the middle of the day early in the week so I usually had  most of the sales people to myself and they were kind of bored, so I got to be the kid in the toy factory trying on what seemed like every dress ever created.  LOVED IT!

Post # 4
2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@maery1: I preferred going alone and just with my Maid/Matron of Honor on separate trips.

You don’t have to deal with everyone else’s opinion of what they think would look best because, all too often, it is what they would rather want for themselves, not you. They are too consumed by other factors rather than focusing on what is truly in the best interest of the bride, what best suits her personality and features, and what makes the bride most happy. They have their own perceptions of the bride which may or may not encompass all that she is. I went shopping with my parents first: BIG mistake, because they were stuck in their perception of me as a little girl, and content with seeing me in what amounted to a big poofy tutu. I then shopped alone (with my Nana’s bracelet on my hand — she passed away but it was remembrance of her being with me) and found something I liked. Made one final trip with my Maid/Matron of Honor, who was very respectful of my opinion before giving her opinion. She was genuinely thrilled for me and I think it is rare to find someone in one’s life who is that generous. If you can shop with someone like that, you’re set.

Post # 5
792 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

@Cornflakegirl: I agree!I know I wouldn’t enjoy shopping with someone else, especially my mother because we are so different and she has a tendency to impose her opinion on others. I think I would have felt suffocated!!!!!You are very lucky to have such a nice person as your Maid/Matron of Honor. Being respectful of the bride’s opinion and what makes her happy is very important…but we don’t get to see that often….

Post # 6
1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I must admit, SYTTD has taught me alot also…

I will only bring 1 or 2 people, but mostly its been my son.  He has been a trooper:)  I also had one other male friend.  A total style genius although not gay. 

I don’t think I want to go with more than 1 person after watching so many episodes of SYTTD because I think the rivalry gets involved, feelings get hurt, etc, blah blah blah… toooooo much drama.

One of my BFFs only took me along to her dress tryouts because I am honest to the point that she tried on a dress and I said “girl you look like a drag queen, get outta that thing”  LOL  she agreed once she saw herself in it.

I think I will end up choosing a dress alone.  I know what I like, I know what my husband is looking for (we are having a vow renewal, but its the wedding of my dreams after 20 years)  I dont mind having people with me, but, ultimately the decision will be mine. 

Excited to see which one i am gonna pick, cuz i have NO IDEA at this point and it will probably be the LAST Thing I choose:(

Good thread! definitely >subscribe<!


Post # 7
1690 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

i chose my dress by myself, and ordered it online.  i didnt miss having someone to share it with.

the one person i would have loved being with me is my mum,  but as she is no longer with us, i did it by myself.   i could have had my 23 yr old daughter but she has very different tastes to me and i know i would have been swayed into wearing something that SHE liked, but that didnt really do it for me. So i pleased myself and i am happy with my choice. 

Post # 8
1351 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

The first time I took my matron of honor for my first time ever trying on dresses. I appreciated her being there butttt we have very different styles. She’s very traditional and kinda plain. I’m more out there. So stuff I loved she vetoed immediately. So, I ended up going solo the next 5-6x I went to different bridal salons and I loved it!

Note my parents live in DC and I go to law school in GA, otherwise my mommy would’ve been there the whole way b/c she gets me and will let me pick what I like as far as style. Just didn’t like friends. going!

Post # 9
403 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I went dress shopping and purchased my dress all on my own because, like you, I live far from my mother and sisters.  I was the only bride at any shop that was alone and sometimes mothers of other brides would come over and tell me how beautiful I looked in certain gowns (they maybe felt sorry for me??? lol).  Anyway, I felt really independant and empowered to make a choice on my own.  I felt like I wasn’t being swayed by anyone.  It was really low stress.  I do not regret it at all.  When my dress came in, my parents happened to be in town visiting for the weekend and they were able to come to my first fitting.

Post # 10
1679 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My first trip was with three friends. Too many cooks in the kitchen! It was fun, but tiring as I tried on dresses I had no interest in.

From then on, I went alone. After I found my reception dress, I took my mother to see it. It was much, much better to work one on one with the consultants.

Post # 11
1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

The first time I went with just my mother.  She was in town for the weekend and I felt pressured to buy, which I did.  Then I had dress regret and got something else solo.  Then I had more dress regret and found an awesome Anne Barge on the internet.

The Anne Barge was definitely it, but I wish I had one or two of my friends or sisters with me on my other shopping trips.  I was a little lonely and they probably would have prevented my first two mistakes.

Post # 12
4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

my best friend came with me, and was with me for more than 2 hours, but then she had to leave..and right after she left, I found it! so yeah, STILL no one has seen me wearing it!

Post # 13
178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

The whole time, I really wanted to go by myself! I’m the type of person who has a hard time making decisions and i want to make everyone happy before i think about myself. So i thought this was a decision i should make on my own, without other peoples opinions! Unfortunatly, i was unable to go by myself because i didnt want to hurt anyones feelings, and i actually almost ended up buying a dress that was completly wrong for me one day. Actually the one i almost bought AND my second choice looked absolutly horrible on me! I’m glad i waited and looked at pictures and i actually ended up sneaking to a different shop with just my sister to try on dresses and ended up finding the one:-) i then went back with the whole crew like it was my first time and they all like that one too:-)

so i think it’s good that you chose it all on your own, with no one to influence you! I almost ended up with the wrong dress because of the people i went with!

Post # 15
498 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i was k-solo, too! i think it’s for the best. you are sure to get what YOU want 😉

Post # 16
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I went by myself as well.  I sort of wished I spent more time looking because I wasn’t crazy about my dress in the end but I still wore it.

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