(Closed) Anyone else planning a wedding, and looking for a home?

posted 9 years ago in Home
Post # 3
18628 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It’s possible for sure but make sure that you can really afford a home.  Banks are pretty much requiring down payments now and decent credit to get a loan.

Post # 4
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

It’s hectic, but possible. We closed on our house in May and got married in August. By the time we closed a lot of the planning had been done so then we focused on the house and getting everything set up. The last month was crazy but we made it. I’m so glad we bought the house right before the wedding.

Post # 5
1003 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: agreed.


And the reason my wedding is so far from my original engagment day is because of the stress that buying our condo caused us. It can be really stressful and tiring. Just be prepared.

Post # 6
2580 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree it’s possible, but depending on your financial investment in your wedding, it may not be the ideal time. For us, paying for most of the wedding ourselves means we will probably need some more time to save up for a house. We’re renting for now, and hoping to buy a year or so after the wedding. If you have the money in the bank for a down payment, though, it may be a bit stressful but it’s deifnitely workable!

Post # 7
18628 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Also, from personal experience, make sure that you are going to stay in the area.  We thought that we were going to and bought a home in 2007 but ended up having to move across the country in 2009, leaving our home as a rental.

Post # 8
7310 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

It’s definitely possible, as long as you plan everything out very carefully. For us, that meant making sure that we spaced everything out, meaning that we have a 1 year + engagement to allow us enough time to plan the wedding, and go through the entire house buying and moving process without having to do too much at any one time. I got all of the crucial wedding decisions made before we ever started looking at houses.

Planning correctly also meant that we had all cash in the bank for the house down payment and closing costs, moving costs, rent for overlapping mortgage/rent months, and wedding costs before we started wedding planning or house hunting. In order to feel comfortable financially taking on both things at the same time, we needed to know that we already had the cash available. It was really hard to wait until we hit our magic number in the account, but the peace of mind has been worth the wait.

If you do this, be prepared for some stressful times and some moments when you feel like you are being pulled in too many directions all at once. But if you stick to your schedule as best you can, and know what needs to be done at what time, it will be okay. Oh, and my sanity stays intact because I am not a DIY bride. I pay vendors that I trust to do their jobs well so that I don’t have to worry. Once again, it’s a piece of mind issue for me. My sanity is worth more than any DIY project.

Post # 9
2216 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m doing it, but my wedding is pretty far off.  We’re hoping to get the big wedding vendors booked first, find a house and move, and then concentrate on the smaller wedding details.  Some of the wedding stuff and house stuff have overlapped already, though, which has been somewhat stressful.   I orginally was in charge of the wedding and Fiance the house, but now I feel like I’m doing it all.

So…it is definitely possible…but… if you don’t handle stress well, I wouldn’t do both at the same time.  Good luck! 


Post # 10
164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Well I’m planning a May 21st wedding and a cross country move in June.  Are we crazy? Tongue out  We knew we would be moving shortly after the wedding but since match day was last week we just found out where!  It may help that we’ll only be renting, so we’ll just need to find an apartment to move to.  Wish us luck as we’re moving from North Carolina to California! eeeek!

Post # 11
1295 posts
Bumble bee

We’re doing this right now. It’s pretty crazy around our house and everything feels upside down! It’ll all work out, but I feel like I need more hands/eyes/brains.

Post # 12
6350 posts
Bee Keeper

We close April 30th. We will most likely still get married summer of 12 but it will be a much smaller simpler affair. Time wise, I could have done it. Moneywise, not so much.

Post # 13
11324 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

We did both! We got engaged and started looking for houses immediately (we had the tax deadline looming). Basically we felt that the house was more urgent so while I was still working on wedding stuff (particularly looking for a venue) we were much more focused on the house. And once we found the house we put planning on hold for a month while we dealt with all the details of financing/closing/moving/etc. This basically meant that we didn’t set a date for about 4 months after we got engaged, and had a 16 month total engagement. But– it worked for us 🙂 

Post # 14
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We’re doing it! We have no idea how we managed to save 75 grand in a year and support a bi-continental relationship, move countries, and go on two European vacations but here we are! It is absolutely possible as long as you work within your budgets/are good savers. I don’t think either process is as difficult as people make it out to be, you just need to have a little time to be focused, my 6 months of unemployment certainly didn’t hurt.

Post # 15
3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@loveknows: we’re working towards that, also.  Of course, we also currently have an apartment, too.  

Also, our wedding isn’t until next year and I’ve done all the designing myself and will be doing a lot of DIY stuff.  Planning the wedding out this far in advance is helpful, since it cuts back on what I’ll have to do later this year/next year.  

Post # 16
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We are doing it also, My FH is freaked out about it haha, I’m more calm.  Sometime I think about pulling back on the wedding but everything is just about paid for, so it can be done like everyone said it’s all about good planning.  we been engaged for over a year so that’s why everything is just about paid for.

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