Post # 1
If you are planning on a med-free birth, or you planned/experienced a med-free birth in the past, what are you doing/did you do to prepare? We would like to pursue the Bradley method, but I’m a little concerned about the end result since we probably won’t be able to take the classes. The closest Bradley instructors I can find are almost a two hour car ride away, and it’s hard to commit every Saturday (2 hours there, 2 hour class, and 2 hours back home) for the next 12 weeks while my husband is in grad school. So far, we’ve purchased The Husband Coached Childbirth, but I’m wondering if there are other resources out there for us?
Also, if you are using a different pain management/med-free birthing method, which one did you choose and why? What we like best about the Bradley method is the involvement of the partner during birth and the success rate of med-free births by users. Do any other methods have these same benefits?
Post # 3
This is an interesting topic that I would like to hear more about. My mom actually had a med-free birth for me and my two siblings. I am just not sure I am as strong as she is.
Post # 4
I’m always super interested in this because in my head, I’m telling myself I don’t want an epidural and I’m too tough for meds, lol.
Dh and his whole family will think i’m nutso bananas (considering how often I end up at the dr’s for a prescription it seems) so we’ll see. I have yet to meet anyone with a planned 100% natural birth (my SIL’s second baby came within 30 min so there was no time for an epidural or ANYTHING except pushing) but I’m always looking for stories =]
Could you find any DVDs? I’d imagine there are plenty of people in your situation not close to the instructors you want. Maybe find a doula to act as your go-between if you go with a hospital and she can start educating herself on the process, too? This way, when your husband is helping you, she’s handling behind the scenes stuff with the hospital?
I swear, I put women with med-free births up on a pedestal, lol. It’s generally so unthinkable nowadays (ok around here…) that it’s so uncommon and impressive!
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Post # 6
This post reminds me of a movie highly recommended by a couple I know: The business of being born. The couple was highly influenced by the topics addressed in the movie and ultimately had decision made about the process of birthing their child. The movie talkes about issues such as natural birth versus the highly systematic apporach to birth on the surgery table. Although I have not watched it myself and am not a health professional so cannot really comment on it. However, it’s on my netflix list and I very much look forward to watching it.
Post # 7
My mother and I actually had this conversation over the weekend. She had both her children naturally and says that if she were to do it again that she’d get the meds. Her advice was that the pain isn’t worth proving your tough to anyone and if you can aleviate some of the pain at no risk to the mother or baby then why not.
I would like to have a med free birth when the time comes, but I don’t know if I could handle the pain and I’m afraid when I decided I needed to medicine it would be too late.
Post # 8
Dooce’s labor story always tears me up! I go back and read it every now and again, even though I’m not planning on getting pregnant anytime soon. It’s just so beautifully written.
My mother is ALL ABOUT natural child birth, and did so with her first 3 pregnancies (her fourth was twins and an emergency C-section), and so I have it instilled in me that natural is the way to go. Not sure how I’ll really feel until I’m in that situation, but anytime I read anything about it, it just verifies what I’m already planning (for the far future!).
Post # 9
I live in a small town with a Catholic Hospital that doesn’t offer epidurals. I had both of my daughters naturally. I could have gotten a muscle relaxer with both girls, but both times, my active labor came on so quickly, there was no time for it. I do remember that at the time I was in intense pain, and with my first daughter, I kicked the nurses out of the room. With my second daughter, I told her grandmother (my ex’s mother) that if she touched me one more time I would break her f**king face (she kept petting me). I remember panting and being nauseous, and shaking. So, anyway, no epidural, no pain meds, no muscle relaxer for me. The thing is that I know I was in agony, but I don’t remember it. My mother, who had 4 of her 6 kids naturally, says the same thing.
I went to childbirth classes with my older daughter, and I practiced breathing and meditation. USELESS!! It went right out the window for me. The body does what it needs to. Adrenaline and endorphines kick in, I didn’t remember any of the nonsense. When I have my next child, I don’t know if I’ll do it differently. I’ll probably just go with the flow like before.
Also, not to be trite, but, the woman’s body is a miraculous thing. Think of all of the millions of natural birts that we’ve survived through since forever! We are stronger than we give ourselves credit for!
Post # 10
Check out Mrs. Avacado’s personal blog, http://thatwifeblog.com/
You’ll learn a LOT 🙂
Post # 11
I agree that The Business of Being Born is a really interesting and insightful movie. And I’ve been following Dooce for… at least a year and a half. 🙂 I love her blog!
My mom had all five of her kids med-free, but I didn’t actually consider a med-free birth for myself until I started reading Our Bodies, Ourselves: Pregnancy and Birth. Once, I started researching the subject, it just made so much more sense to me to try for a med-free birth. I agree with you, Miss Starlet; our bodies are pretty amazing in what they can do! Honestly, researching pain management techniques and methods has made birth has seem a lot less scary to me. It’s actually an experience I’m looking forward to!
@ ejs – I’ve thought about a doula, but if we go with the Bradley method, the husband/partner of the laboring woman is basically trained to be the doula. I guess that could be a good back-up for us, though, if we get closer to the birth and still aren’t completely comfortable with the method. As far as I know, there also aren’t any Bradley DVDs… It’s really encouraged to experience the classes in person. Lol, damn this rural town!
Post # 12
We’re trying to balance the medical and non-interventional methods, so we’re planning on having a doula, but are open to other plans if the need arises.
Post # 13
Good for all of you, at this point we are way off from having kids, but I want as much meds as I can get!! I am a wimp when it comes to pain
Post # 14
Are you also studying a method, DG? Or will your doula meet with you before to help prep you for labor and birth? Also, do you have any recommendations on how to find a doula? My OBGYN is pretty pro med-free birth… I guess maybe she might have some recommendations.
Post # 15
I’d check with your OB… Do you have any friends there that did natural? I have several that have tried, but all have needed some form of intervention…
I’m lucky because Mr. DG’s cousin is in nurse midwife school, so she’s very connected in the field. If she feels comfortable, she’ll doula for us, but if not she will either recommend someone or I have another friend who is a doula.
In Seattle we’re lucky with all the classes available to us, so we’re going to check out Bradley first and see if it looks like something that will work for us 🙂
Post # 16
I have done it both ways. My first I had pitocin a medication to help labor along, due to complications with my daughter and i also had no pain medications. My second i did get an epidural when I was already at 10cm, the back labor got so bad I could not push (it is very rare a doctor will agree to this). To be honest, I don’t prefer one way to another, In both cases I ended up with beautiful babies.
I would check with your hospital and their birth preparation classes. Our offered just a general one and then they offered several focues on a med free delivery.