(Closed) Anyone else planning solo? (a little tongue-in-cheek)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sometimes its better not to have to listen to others opinons.  we are all hear for you and ready to lend you advice

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I know exactly how you are feeling, I am in the same boat. I have planned every aspect of my wedding myself. I know it can be very overwhelming and I, like you, have a hard time acting like planning is OMG SO MUCH FUN! It is very stressful.

I feel bad because of your situation with your mom, my mom doens’t help at all with my wedding and it really bothers me as well. Do you have friends that can help at all? Also are you from WA? I grew up in WA!  I have decided to look at my wedding planning as a challege, something that I will accomplish on my own and something that only I can take credit for. Good luck with planning! And feel free to vent to me about this topic anytime you need to, I know how you feel!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My mom hasn’t been involved almost at all. She lives 15 hours away and this is my second wedding (first one was at her church, so it was the ‘right’ wedding because this one is outside and my FH is not religious) because I got married when I was barely 20, now I’m 27 & having what is to ME a real wedding…the first one didn’t even have a reception. It’s my FH first wedding and his family is very excited but not really involved in it. I snapped at my mom the other day when I was freaking out about the DJ (who is no longer our dj), and she thought I was referring to someone named DJ and was all confused….I said “NO, THE DJ, for the wedding—all my thoughts are revolving around this wedding!” and I didn’t mean to snap but GAH get involved in what’s going on! She told someone my colors are pink and black….I dislike black in weddings severely (no offense to anyone having black–it just isn’t my thing! neither is red or yellow or orange lol) and I was like what? My colors are pink and green with silver. How do you get black from that?!

I get married in a little over 4 months and my fiancee just went to his first wedding related stuff this past weekend. And after we left the bridal fair, which I’ve had to go to with his mom (who is nice and I love her, but we have different taste) previously, he said ‘that wasn’t half bad.’ And it makes me wish I’d have made him go sooner, because I truly enjoy his opinions and spending time with him!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You are preaching to the choir dear! I think you just have to remember that it’s your wedding and your design and creativity are the most important here. It will be a SURPRISE to all how you pulled it all off on your own and you will look like a superwoman!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Opposite boat right here! My fiance is planning the wedding and is a total groomzilla. The last time I even brought up the wedding he said “I’ve just outsourced the cupcakes. Everything is fine” and then walked away. 

It took me a month and a half to convince him to let me have his baby sister as my bridemaid because he thought too many attendants would take the focus off of us!

I deserve it. I told him to handle the planning because when he proposed, I was finishing up my bachelor’s and handling applications for my master’s degree, but he’s turned into a total diva!

I’m be pissed if it weren’t so funny to watch! But I feel you ladies. I would never want to plan a wedding on my own. I just wish I could be part of the planning at all!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@brandy-lynn:  I don’t even know how to respond to that LOL!!! I don’t know whether to feel sorry for you or to congratulate you!!! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m in the same boat. I live in Los Angeles and my family is spread out in NJ, NY and Northern California. My Fiance is somewhat involved but only when I give him projects. Everything else he is rather disinterested in. My bridesmaids live in MD, PA and NJ so they’re not around and my mom is really not into wedding stuff. So yep – just me!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@scadadle15:  Same boat! I’m in WI and my Matron of Honor is in Arkansas, My Maid of honor is in Louisiana, my bridesmaids are in TX & ND.

Does anyone else occassionally freak out about the wedding?

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I do have moments where I wonder if I should be doing something else for the wedding. I just want to have most of this done before it’s “crunch time”. I don’t want to be a last minute bride. I’m working full time and part-time Masters student. Way too much going on at once

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m another same boater!!! And I definitely feel your pain. I live in Boston and my mom is in NJ, Sisters in Chicago and Philly, and two other maids are in DC and VT! I feel very alone. I’m sure my mom would like to be more involved but she seems to only be caught up with her own things. That and she can’t afford to help me with any of it so it makes it harder. FH tries and he is good with most stuff but he also doesn’t get the stuff that bothers me or stresses me out. Thank god there is weddingbee!!!!

 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@automaticflowers:  Bless your heart! I’m a Southerner in Wisconsin, it’s very different for sure…and I also have guest list guilt. I only wanted 75 people, but we are now at 88 and about $30 over budget (not SERIOUSLY over budget, I have padded a few things thank goodness) but there is just no one my FH will let me cut. We could cut his mom’s family because he doesn’t see them much, but his mom requested they be there AND she’s the only one who has contributed to our wedding…and she contributed $5k. Which to us, is quite a bit!!!!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ooo I feel ya!

My poor Fiance couldn’t care less about dahlias vs. roses, or damask vs. pinstripe? lol My mom and dad both passed away, my bio mom is still alive, but I don’t have any kind of real relationship with her, and my Future Mother-In-Law doesn’t give a rats’ arse about our wedding. My Maid/Matron of Honor is trying to finalize a divorce at the same time she is trying to get her new “baby daddy” on child support :/ and my other BM’s obviously have their own lives, so…I’m kind of out of options. I literally will ask my 5 year old daughter what she thinks but her answer is normally “What about in pink??”

I’m sure once the day gets here, I’ll love the fact that I did it almost all by myself, but for now, it’s pretty stressful to make every little itty bitty decision, plus the large ones, mainly on my own.

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