(Closed) Anyone else receive an odd gift to guest ratio??

posted 10 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 18
3221 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would say that maybe people are sending them in? That would be my best guess πŸ™ Sorry for such a lackluster response from your guests!

Post # 19
5788 posts
Bee Keeper

Were any sent to you before the wedding? Where were the cards placed…in a box or handed to you or left laying on the gift table?

It’s a myth that guests have a year to send a gift, but I know that some people think it’s correct. Maybe some of your guests will still send you something, but I think it stinks they couldn’t even bring a card. Who does that? I’m really upset for you!

My daughters got a gift from everyone in attendance at their weddings, so this is something I’ve really never heard happening at any wedding before WB!

Post # 20
3048 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Yea, that does seem strange to me. I don’t expect everyone to give a gift, but it’s so customary… that it seems like more would give gifts or at least a card. Maybe your presents are coming later through the mail. Did you have a registry? I heard people still give after the wedding. I know I usually scramble the day before to buy something (because I don’t like coming empty handed or having given the gift beforehand). But it’s possible that people just forgot and will send something later. I dunno.

Post # 21
645 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Technically, gifts aren’t supposed to be brought to the wedding at all. Ideally, they should be shipped to the home of the bride and groom ahead of the wedding, though guests have up to a year after the wedding.

Did you check your registry? Have items been purchased? If so, perhaps the shipper hasn’t been delivering them to the proper address.

Also, was this the first wedding for both of you? Or are you especially young? If it’s the case in either, sometimes it doesn’t occur to people that gifts should be given…

I’m sorry, and don’t worry, you don’t sound greedy!

Post # 23
211 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Some people at our wedding didn’t give us anything as well, not even a card. Truth be told it does bother me. I think at the least you should give a card at someones wedding. One friend who insisted on bringing a +1 and both drank at least 10 drinks didn’t give us so much as a card. Really makes you question what kind of friend they are, so yeah, I can related πŸ™


Are they people that didn’t give you anything not married themselves? They may just not understand, having never had a wedding. I am not really sure.

Post # 24
5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

You’re definitely not alone. That’s how outs turned outs as well. Kinda disappointing =/

Post # 25
1937 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We had quite a few people that didn’t get us anything, or maybe just a card.  One guest gave us a card with $50 in it and she had 5 other guests with her (husband, wife and 4 teenage boys).  She alluded to the fact that her gift should cover all their plates.  It didn’t cover 1 plate, let alone 6!  But, I went in with the attitude that gifts were not necessary, and if anyone gave us even a card, that was going above and beyond.

Unfortunately, there isn’t much you can do about it.  Hopefully you get a few more gifts/cards in the coming months.  If not, 10 years from now, it will be something for you and your husband to joke about. 

Post # 27
358 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Thats really sad. So sorry πŸ™

I’m kind of secretly expecting this to happen to us, but really hoping it won’t….

Post # 28
1356 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh gosh, I’m sorry – that really sucks. and you certainly are not being greedy, I’d feel the same exact way! I hope that you get gifts or cards trickling in after. Maybe your dad’s phone call to the aunts and uncles sparked them to think, “maybe I should have gotten them at least a card!”


Post # 29
749 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Thats so sad! I would have at least thought people would bring or send cards, even if they didn’t put money in them.

Post # 30
634 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Hmmm, that’s kind of a bummer. But honestly, if this is a second marriage then mabe that’s why people didn’t bring gifts… I don’t mean to sound rude or anything but maybe the guests felt like they didn’t have to do it a second time around?

But like pps said, give it some time maybe they will start coming. If not, I would send out thankyou note for coming. That might remind people if they’ve forgotten their manners?

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