(Closed) Anyone else send(ing) out invitations 3+ months in advance?

posted 4 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Did/will you send out invitations 3+ months in advance?
    No, and I would think it was weird if I received one for a wedding so far away : (11 votes)
    14 %
    No, but in some situations it makes sense : (19 votes)
    24 %
    Yes : (48 votes)
    60 %
    Hippocampus : (2 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    2052 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Honestly, I find the 8-10 weeks before the wedding way too little time.  I wished we sent ours out sooner, so I think sending them out at four months is fine. think asking for rsvps 3 months before is a bit aggressive though.  People will have much better visibility 2 months out.

    Post # 4
    2082 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I think especially given that your family has to book flights and hotels may be hard to come by, it’s totally reasonable…

    I thought 3 months was standard?  I was planning to send mine 3-4 months in advance.  I want to know how many people are coming for sure… And I don’t want to be stressed out worrying about RSVPs in the few weeks before the wedding. 

    This way, people have time to respond if they aren’t sure just yet about time off or something, and for you – it gives them time to watch for cheap flights.  Def not too early

    Post # 5
    161 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @ladyamalthea:  I sent mine out that early. Mine is also a destination wedding. I haven’t gotten any complaints.

    Post # 7
    3905 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Bea ware that you still might not get an accurate count, especially from in town/local guests. 3-4 months out, people may not know work schedules, etc. also be prepared for people to change their response as your wedding date gets closer. 

    Post # 9
    3281 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We have people coming from Guam and Hawaii to Germany and everywhere in between. We sent out save the dates so I don’t really see a reason I’d need to send them more than 8 weeks in advance. I would find an RSVP date 3 months in advance odd because I likely will not know my schedule until 4-6 weeks before or be able to request off work that early. There’s nothing really wrong about sending them early, you just may get a lot of people chaning their RSVPs from yes to no or no to yes after the deadline. 

    Post # 10
    7275 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @Glasgowbound:  +1

    @ladyamalthea:  I just got an invitation for a wedding in August. Invitation- not STD. My immediate reaction is to check yes for my FI and I and get it in the mail. But really, more than 8 weeks out I don’t actually know that I’m going to make it. Your count will not be accurate, really. I feel like you’re just making more work for yourself since you’ll have to remind everyone again closer to the time you should have sent invitations. 

    Post # 11
    2082 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014



    MrsN14’s comment is really true – technically, since you send save the dates, they should be aware of the date and when they’d need a flight.  And as soon as they got them, they should have started planning and looking for flights (if they intend to come to the wedding)… so technically you shouldn’t need to send them early.  But… I guess you never know if it went into their junkmail folder (since its electronic) so with the actual invite, you’ll get rsvps and responses to be able to know that they were received…. So I guess I’d still send them early for that reason

    Post # 12
    756 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I definitely sent out WAY early RSVPs. We asked for an early RSVP on our Save the Dates, and despite my fears, it’s actually been working really well. Even though I’m getting married where I grew up, it’s pretty much a destination for 85% of our guests.

    Those people who did know their plans 6 months out have been so helpful. We had a lot more people on our guest list we wanted to invite (we’re very limited on space so had to invite my FI’s very large immediate family first). Now we can invite those other guests without only giving them a few weeks to make their travel plans, and we still covered our bases by letting the relatives know first.

    Post # 13
    767 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @ladyamalthea:  I think the earlier, the better. June is such a popular wedding month that people may need to plan around other weddings!

    Post # 14
    756 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @DuckEBee:  +1… among our group of friends, there are four other couples getting married, and FI’s sister is actually getting married a month and a half before us (they had to push back their wedding date, so that’s why it’s so close now)!

    Post # 15
    1460 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @ladyamalthea:  Just wanted to say that two years ago I flew into San Fran the day of Pride, although I had no idea until we got there. We were meeting FI’s Dad who had been stationed out there. We ended up having to get a hotel room last minute because his Dad had to go to Arizona for the day and didn’t get back in time. ONE night in a hotel cost us $350 and it was nothing fancy! 

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