Post # 17
I’m sorry but please don’t complain! Be grateful and happy that others want to throw you a bridal shower!
I live in Texas, and all of my BFFs and my family live in Seattle. I started dating my Fiance soon after I moved here, so I don’t have too many friends here in TX. My friends from Seattle – 2 of my BMs – are just scraping by financially, so it’s already tough on them to fly here for the bachelorette party and for the wedding. I could never ask them to pay an extra ~$300 to fly here for a shower. So anyways, I’m not having a shower at all…Because I don’t have anyone to throw one for me. I would LOVE to be in your position! Hey, you are already guaranteed that 10 people care about you and are happy to shower you.
Also, you should be carefully calling your Future Mother-In-Law a “monster-in-law” – doesn’t that hurt your FI’s feelings? It sounds like you need a break from wedding planning, so you don’t hurt your relationship with your FI’s family (which I am sure hurts him too, especially if he is close with his family). Is his mother really a monster-in-law for being against assigned seating at a bridal shower? She might have some reasonable reasons for not wanting that (e.g. so your guests can feel free to visit one another and not be stuck at the same table the whole time, or so guests can get to know one another before the wedding).
Post # 18
What’s funny is that your story reminds me of my parents. My mom always tells me about how my paternal grandmother (an extremely dominating woman) wanted to control the aspects of their wedding and turn it into this HUGE, over-the-top event.
So they finally cracked, and when my grandmother was out of town, they ran off and eloped with just my mom’s best friend and her husband there as witnesses. When my grandmother came back, she was mad, but what could she do? My parents still went forward with the big show reception and everything, but since my parents were technically already married, they didn’t mind that it was more about her than about them. My mom is still very happy that they took control and did their wedding their way.
Post # 19
Have you sent out save the dates or wedding invites? (your wedding is not for awhile) My Future Mother-In-Law was offended she was invited to a wedding shower and she had not yet recieved a wedding invite. Maybe this is why people are not responding
Post # 20
I’m with you. If it wasn’t for deposits..I would so be done with all of this and we would most definitely be eloping or having a VERY intimate, small wedding.
We’ve only spent maybe $5,000 on deposits and other things so far, but that’s still way too much for me to back out now. I’d feel way too guilty.
Here’s to sucking it up and getting it over with! LOL
Post # 21
@mags2233: HahaHA!-Thank you for making me laugh! I totally hear you, and when I saw your post this morning, the guffaws just came pouring out! Granted, I don’t have 300 phone calls to make, but dealing with my fiance’s family has been awkward as all hell.
My fiance and I are older, so we’re paying for and planning the entire wedding. I am not having a bridal shower, because after living on my own for 13yrs, you accumulate enough things, and I don’t need a banana holder from Bed Bath & Beyond. I have not asked anyone to do anything for me, aside from my Maid/Matron of Honor coming one time with me when I tried on veils. So….I feel that for a nice party that I’m putting together and whose bill I’ll be footing, that you would THINK at the very least my fiance’s family would be calling me, just to see how I’m doing, how things are coming along, if I need any help etc etc. I mean, at least show me some insincere sincerity! But no, I haven’t heard from them for months, and the wedding’s only 3 mo away. I am just so over it.
Conversely, when it was my fiance’s sister’s wedding 2 yrs ago (and at that time I was only dating my fiance for 5 months) I was up front and center in helping her with her printed menus, I served as her usher in church–I was there for her, for someone I hardly knew. Unfortunately with this wedding I’ll be gaining a Future Sister-In-Law that is self-centered and immature. Her idea of offering help is to weakly say, “i’m here if you need anything,” and then disappear when help time comes.
When my wedding day comes I’m going to start off with mimosas, make my way toward champagne and then park myself by the shellfish station during cocktail hour. It’s good to have a plan 😉