(Closed) Anyone else sick of being responsible? just venting

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Oh no! It does sound like you do A LOT. I’m not necessarily known as a responsible person, BUT I am…just because I have to be, and growing up it just naturally happens unless you have issues! But you definitely sound like you need some YOU time. I’d take some vacation off of work & have a spa day, or do something that would calm you down. I’m sorry girl!! I hate being “used” in that matter…I completely understand your venting!! Definitely take some time off to relieve some stress.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Let it out sister!  I understand what you mean completely.  I’ve always been the mama hen with my friends and at work I was the go-to and totally abused.  I couldn’t believe that being laidoff would end up being a blessing.

Take some time and do something just for you.  Go get your nails done or paint your own pottery, whatever fits your fancy!!

Hang in there ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Aw I’m sorry girl ๐Ÿ™ I feel your pain. I hate that you’ve got to deal with it everyday, though. I’m glad you guys are taking a break in April…you definitely need it!! At least you know at your job everyone would be at a loss if you weren’t around :). That’s a positive way to look at it! And think of it as a work out of some sort, it makes you smarter, you’re moving around & workin it all at the same time! ๐Ÿ™‚ I try to make everything kind of like a game..to make it more fun!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Chin up chickee… I feel this way 99% percent of the time so your not alone. I think you should have a sick day when your not… take the pressure off go have girl time! go do your fave things. You will feel better.

April aye? Jamaica? thats not far away!!! wooohooo!!!!

 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yuuuuuuuck! I totally feel you on that! I’m constantly in 5 different departments and when I told a manager that I absolutely. could. not. do. one. more. thing…. she told our main boss! Ha, too bad she made an idiot out of herself in the meeting and that got me off scott free.

Could you sit down with your bosses and ask to redefine your job desciption? And mention that “hey, this is what my job IS, and these are the additional 15 thousand things that have been tacked on to it recently”?

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper

um, hon, you need to learn the power of a little word I like to call “No”

Seriously, it’s not cool for people to pawn stuff off on you at work. Especially not if it’s stressing you out. Next time someone hands you something that isn’t your responsibility, politely say, “I’ll see if I have time to get to it, but I’m already pretty busy right now with xyz [your own job!], and may not have time until next week [after it’s due]. It may be quicker for you to handle this one yourself.”

And then look like you feel bad and shrug your shoulders as if to say, “What can you do?” If they leave it with you, leave it. Don’t do it. Inform your/their supervisor ahead of time if you’re worried about looking bad – “Bob asked me to work on this project for him, but my plate is already pretty full, so I told him I could help him next week. Just wanted to give you a heads up in case he isn’t able to complete [this project] on time.”

 

And hey, for the love of Pete, please take a personal day. I don’t care if you schedule it ahead of time or just call in one day, but you need some YOU time! They give you time off work for a reason!!!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I totally feel you, not only am I treated like that at work, but with my friends! I’m always the one to organize get togethers, birthday parties, suprise parties, going away parties.. you name it! Everyone sort of just expects me to do it because they know I enjoy doing it, but when I get engaged does anyone think of throwing me an engagement party? No. When my birthday rolled around I made plans for my own birthday dinner and half of my “friends” were too busy to come. SO lame. And it’s hard to say anything without sounding whiny or selfish so I just deal with it.. I’m lucky I have a good Maid/Matron of Honor (sister) who is throwing me a shower and bachelorette party.. I was afraid I wouldn’t even get those my friends are so lazy!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I totally know how you feel! Too bad we’re not eachothers bridesmaids we would have awesome engagement parties and brunches and all that fun stuff! Oh well, they’re our friends so I guess we just have to deal with it.. I wish they were obsessed with WB so they would know what good BMs do for their brides.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

haha You’re sweet! A big hat tea party sounds so fun! Doesn’t look like people really understood your other post about not getting an e party.. I think we’re in a different boat since all of our friends got one from us!

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you need to call in sick, relax, go see a movie, get a pedi…Have a you day on your own time! = D

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